Do you think a girl blows her chance up with a guy if she has sex with him on the first hangout/date?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

In the vast majority of cases, yes. I would make a possible exception if these are people who have been good friends for a long time prior, but if we're talking about people who just recently met and have no history, then if they sleep together on the first date, it's VERY unlikely that the man is going to consider her "relationship material", because he's going to assume that she sleeps with all guys on the first date, and thus lacks boundaries, and no guy wants to get emotionally invested and allow himself to be vulnerable with a woman who lacks boundaries and willpower - that's virtually suicide.

Sure, most men will gladly accept the sex - we're always in a sex deficit, so we'll take it almost anywhere we can get it when we're single - but that doesn't change the fact that a woman who gives it up quick and easy is rarely going to be taken seriously as a relationship partner. He'll be happy to keep having sex with you for a while, but don't expect a relationship commitment.

Crafteroon · Accepted Answer

Depends. Great sex can improve the chances, but if you don't know what they are like, you might not know what they like either.

Having sex can change the dynamic of getting to learn each other. Asking to slow down afterwards isn't always easy. Not everyone knows how to act when you've already had sex but are then asked to go back to a couple that is still in the early stages of kissing.

But if you're both horny, and discuss beforehand that it's just a test run of things to come, go for it.

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

Not if both of them are wanting or expecting it. wouldn't call it a date or hangout. More like a hookup.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

If a girl has sex with me on the first date, I assume she has had sex with every other guy she met for a first date. That means that, for her, sex is not a special part of a committed and loving relationship but is just a recreational activity. That woman is not a candidate for a long term relationship.

PeteBy · Answer

Assuming it wasn't fuelled by alcohol and then regrets. I don't think so. There would have to be a strong attraction/chemistry for that to happen.

I had sex with my partner the first time we met in person and we've been together 11 years. Sometimes it brings you closer so much quicker.

Paul_in_Indy · Answer

I can’t speak for anyone else. …and, obviously, it depends upon what kind of relationship you are seeking… but this is almost a requirement for me. I will be unsure about you if you do not want sex.

slatyb · Answer

No, I don’t. If he’s the sort of man who would judge a woman for having sex on the first date, he’s not the sort of man you want to be with.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think a woman ever thinks she blows any chances with a guy, in any situation, and especially not sexual ones.

Th3ft · Answer

I don’t think so. It’s not really the best way to enter a relationship. But it isn’t an instant fail. i mean lots of people get together for the sex and make it work after.

Dargil · Answer

Yes, I do. Have a couple of dates to work out the details to form a relationship. Then christen it with mutual oral and go from there.

SiberFox · Answer

Yeah

FilmGuy93 · Answer

Nah. She blows her chances way before that happens. She just puts the final nail in the coffin when she has sex with him.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Not really, depends on the guy I guess. Usually, my intent is the same regardless.

VikingWarLord · Answer

only if she's average or below average.

A dude is more willing to stick around if she keeps herself looking hot.

I should write a story about this on MYTAKE OPINION.

But here's a short version... Latina Chic was short, small tiits, skinny (5'1 and 105 lbs A cup) and average face. We hooked up but I didn't plan to see her anymore. She ended up changing her hairstyle to this fiery red color and wore skimpy clothes (crop tops with pushup bra), etc.. and then got a boob job.

She definitely increased her looks and made me horny again when I saw her about 3 months later. She became my go to hookup for many months after that. Made my D hard every time I saw her.

This is her below

Do you think a girl blows her chance up with a guy if she has sex with him on the first hangout/date?

Fa1con · Answer

If the goal was a long term relationship then I would say hooking up on the first date shows that sex to the persons invovled is a casual or more superficial thing that requires no or little emotional connection. For many (I cannot reliably say for most) this is going to lead to a mismatch of values they might want in a long term partner. Everyones wants and needs for intimacy are a bit different so your mileage will vary from person to person.

GlassTop · Answer

No. It depends. Sounds like you screwed someone on first date? Guys are mainly worried of the girl being a hoe with huge body count. If they think you were a virgin or low body count, they will be happy.

vald9inches · Answer

For me definitely not its actually the opposite especially if it was our chemistry that made it happen

Stevefiveo · Answer

No, to me it shows that she really wants me. She isn't afraid to show it and that she can make up her mind real quick on what she wants. Every good relationship that I have had involved sex on the first date.