Do you think that we’re sexually compatible?

[Anonymous]

Me and my boyfriend are both vanillas and we’re both switches. I don’t mind going down on him but when he goes down on me I don’t really enjoy it but I let it happen anyways so that sex won’t hurt. I’ve came before but only by touching myself while he’s inside me. Sometimes after sex I feel sad like when I’m back at my house and think about it. I don’t know if I always want sex when he initiates sex which is like all the time but i just let it happen. We only have sex once a week anyways

[Anonymous]

It takes time to get to know each other's personalities as well as sexual tastes. Communication is key to a good relationship and good sex. Try to discuss openly what you like and don't like as well as things you'd like to try. Encourage him to do the same. If you need inspiration, watch some porn together. Discuss the sex you see and if you want to try it or if you didn't like it. Consider going to a sex shop and get some toys. If you're experiencing physical pain you should discuss it with your doctor. By the way, many women I have been with have touched themselves during sex to reach orgasm, so it's nothing to feel embarrassed about.

[Asker]

Is it weird that he doesn’t ask me if I came? I don’t really like porn

[Opinion Owner]

It is weird that he doesn't care if you came. If you don't like porn, there are many non-porn videos or books that may help.

[Asker]

Do you think that maybe he’s using me?

[Asker]

He says I love you everyday and calls me his wife but after the incident that he separated my 5 dollar groceries from his so that i could pay I’ve been wondering if he’s just using me since I’ve paid a lot when we go out

[Opinion Owner]

He's certainly showing some signs that he's not really interested. Do you think he'd go for couple's therapy if you suggested it?

[Asker]

We’ve never even argued before. I don’t think we need it we’re like each other’s best friends and we get along really well. Just now i have doubts again I’ve been crying some nights wishing that he was with me and missing him but I don’t think that he misses me as much as I’ve missed him so I’m kind of distancing myself now subconsciously

[Asker]

We’re both at a situation where we only see each other twice a week so that’s why I missed him a lot but thinking that he doesn’t feel the same (missing me) made me feel super sad at first but now I’m distancing myself. Since I don’t even feel sexually pleased on top of this I don’t even feel like paying for food anymore I feel like I’ve been doing that too much. Since he says that he loves me so many times a day do you think that maybe he’s not using me? We’ve been togetehr for almost two years now and since the beginning he’s promised to marry me

[Asker]

By distancing myself i meant taking longer to reply to his texts

[Opinion Owner]

There are signs he is using you. You shouldn't feel the way you do. The bottom line is if you're not happy you need to do whatever is best for you.

[Asker]

Even if he bought me a promise ring?

[Opinion Owner]

Perhaps his feelings have changed since he got you the ring or it's a way to try to keep you from leaving. What does he do the rest of the week when he's not with you?

[Asker]

He got me the ring on April. He works now, he’s a good student, and i guess he chills sometimes. But ever since the beginning i had to initiate hanging out I always had to ask to hang out that’s how we met

[Asker]

He talks about how 2 years from now I’ll be his fiance. Also like a month ago he told me to control my cravings and patted my stomach i felt very bad about that

[Opinion Owner]

It seems as if he treats you like a possession rather than an equal partner in a loving relationship. It also appears he wants to control you. If he's like this now, what will he be like in 5 years?

[Avcfhcic]

I think you need an open conversation about sex. You can't just pretend to like something,, you need to come to an agreement of what you both like and want.
Sounds like you need to explore each other more and maybe there's new things you both enjoy.
But sitting there doing nothing will leave you sad after sex.
If he initiates and you don't want it, say no

[Luckycharms12]

Sounds like not that in to him

[Asker]

I love him. And about sex I don’t know much because my only experience was with him

[Luckycharms12]

Can love him but not be a sexually attraction there any girl I've being with before I ear there pussy or play with it there soaking wet

[Asker]

I do get wet but I don’t enjoy oral being given to me

[MrReliable12]

It sounds like you aren’t really giving him consent? Or maybe you are but you truly didn’t want to

[Anonymous]

I bet he was the one who hit on you and asked you out

[Asker]

Nope

[Opinion Owner]

Are you saying that it happened the other way around? Yeah I made that comment because I've always hated how it's normally up to the guy

[Asker]

I initiated it