Does getting pregnant at a young age ruin your life?

Question

When precious was 15 she had a dream of becoming a nurse and traveling the world. But when she was 17 she got pregnant with twins. She was offered a free abortion but she decided to keep the babies. She gave birth when she was 18. Now she's at home changing poopy diapers, bathing and dressing her twins. Her baby son Nelson bites her feet and giggles and her baby daughter Zara cries a lot Then her boyfriend Arthur ( who got her pregnant) who's 28 comes home from college. He cooks for them both, they both feed the babies, Arthur changes his son's diaper then they all go to bed.

nelson crawls between his parents and Zara sobs.

Precious feels so weak she can't physically get up. So Arthur takes the baby girl outside and goes for a walk. she falls asleep as he sings to her. Arthur comes back. Nelson is crying because he pooped again. Precious frowns and covers her ears with a pillow, ignoring him. 25 minutes later Nelson stops crying. Precious falls asleep. Next day Nelson has a diaper rash. Precious feels ashamed and never does it again. She breastfeeds The twins. Nelson smiles, he farts then starts sobs, and Zara sobs. Precious laughs to herself. And comforts them. Nelson bites her finger and giggles. She tells him no biting. Nelson bites her feet. Precious feels like screaming in rage and she notices the belt on the sofa. When she breastfeeds Nelson he bites her nipple. Precious grunts with pain. She bites her lip, Nelson bites again. Precious feels like crying because it hurts so bad. Her eyes water.

Precious sleeps on the sofa, Arthur jumps on top of her stomach and tickles her until she laughs and wets herself.

What do you think?

BurCelf · Accepted Answer

I have a baby too, I had her in February. I know motherlife is hard. Sometimes I regret becoming a mother. But a lot of other times I'm thankful for it. I should have waited to have a baby until after my husband and I had a couple years to ourselves. I shouldn't have gotten married when I did, I should have waited a couple years. But I can't change those two things now. I love both our daughter and my husband.

While I think it's better to have a baby later, I don't think having a baby ruins your life. I can still go to college if I want and take online classes. In a couple years you can go to school too. You can find someone to watch the kids while you go to work as well. You can still do everything you could before. The difference now is the emotional toll. It's incredibly hard to be a full time stay at home mama. Babies are always fussing. They don't want to listen to you. They always need something. You want to run away sometimes. Sometimes you want to give your baby to someone else and just go away for a while. Sometimes you feel like you can't do it anymore. All the stress builds up. Maybe you even have postpartum depression (it's a normal thing, I have it too) which makes things worse. I understand it completely. I don't think having a baby prevents you from doing the things you want but I do think it has an emotional toll. But like I said there are a bunch of times that make it worth it. For instance when they first say mama. When they look at you and smile. When they are playing peacefully cooing. When they first sit up. When they begin crawling and crawl to you. When they get their first tooth. When you're breastfeeding (I breastfeed too) and they touch your cheek and smile. When their favorite game is to pull your glasses off and smile really big. When they learn to give kisses and always kiss and hug you.

While being a mama is stressful, it's those moments and the pure love and excitement you feel that makes it worth it. Those are the moments I get out of bed for. Sometimes I wake up wishing I hadn't. But I get out of bed still because those precious moments make me love being a mommy.

Anyway, I hope I was able to help you some. If you ever need to talk, vent, get advice, I'm here. 😘

Elarra · Accepted Answer

Children only ruin your life if you see them as something not to be enjoyed. So, no, she didn't ruin her life. She just started walking a different path. She either likes it or doesn't.

Pink2000 · Accepted Answer

My grandma had her first child at 15. My dads mom had her first child at 14. It does ruin your fun and you'll miss out on a lot of things. But it won't ruin your life.