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"Don't be doing things that require you to lock your room. You're too young."?

I am 16 turning 17 next January and I have been masturbating for about a year and a half. At first I would always just do it in the bathroom locked and they did wonder why I am spending so much time in the bathroom. Then a few months ago I started doing it at night under the covers naked (have my own room) and then would put my clothes back on. Then I stopped putting my clothes back on and would just stay naked for the rest of the night. I have been watching/reading erotic material for over a year and started watching actual p*rn a few months ago. Now a week ago my dad asked me why I was taking my clothes off (he can deduce that I am sleeping naked not because he can see me since I am covered up with the bed sheet, but because of my clothes on the floor). I didn't give him any real response and then he sternly started asking me where my mind is these days and how what I am doing is for losers. I still continue to do it though. He hasn't said anything since. Then today my parents were gone for an indefinite period of time (but knew they would be back any time) so I decided to have some fun today and look my room and use Milovana and just have some fun with myself and explore my sexuality a bit. When they came back, after a little while my dad knocked on my door and repeatedly asking me what I am doing. I didn't give him a satisfactory response so he gave up and said, "Why are you behaving so suspiciously these days?" Then a couple hours later, my mom was like, "You shouldn't be doing anything that requires you to lock your room. You're too young." Now, it's not like they can force me to abstain from masturbation, so I am not concerned about that. What I am pissed about is that my mom actually thinks 16 is too young to masturbate. What? It just annoys me because it's another red flag (along with the one where they said they will cut off financial support for college if I buy a car before 21) that they won't let me grow up.
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It also worries me what they will do if I finally actually get a "yes" when I ask a girl out. Will they actually let me date or are they going to ruin my chance. I have been so desperate for a girlfriend, so it that happens that will really suck.
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If I finally get a "yes", and deny me... that will really suck. Because honestly, I have a hard time with girls and they don't give me the time of day, so imagine how frustrating it will be if they don't let me when I finally get the "yes".
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  • Are you their only child? Parents can do that sometimes. I know how you feel.(I'm turning 17 next month and apparently I still can't wear lipstick, heels, or stay out after 10.) I'm assuming that you're a good kid and want permission for everything. It's okay, I am too. Maybe you should have a talk with them. Let it be known that you appreciate everything that they do. And address the talk in a respectful manner. Speak out your heart.(I don't know if being emotional works for guys so don't cry.) As in for girls, Don't let them meet her until you and her are serious enough that she won't leave because of your parents, being strict. Let her know beforehand how they are. Parents are usually harder on girls so, she may understand. You'll find a girl someday.:)

    • Wow, no heals for you? No lipstick? What the hell? Why?

    • Maybe because I was the youngest for a long time. They somehow think that restraining me from growing up keeps their youth. Lol they're STILL going to get old. Haha

    • My mom uses the excuse saying,"That is too grown up for you."Smh. Parents are crazy. That's why sometimes you have to just laugh AMD do it anyways.(Don't get caught). Otherwise you'll be grown up and feel like you missed out on things.

  • Thats reallyyy stupid. You're a teenage boy, what do they expect? I'm pretty sure your hormones are raging. I know parents don't want their kids to grow up, but they have to accept it. Maybe if you could get another adult to talk to them, maybe like an uncle, maybe they'll listen more.

    • No I know. I am not even going to bother. I am just going to find a way to financially support myself in college and just rebel. If they honestly think masturbation is for losers and 16 is too young for it, then they are not worth listening to.

    • Remember that it's not just these couple of things. There have been a lot of other conflicts as well.

    • I don't know why your parents think like that, it just doesn't make sense. But yeah, just rebel. Once you're on your own and providing for yourself, you don't have to listen to a word they say.

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  • Everyone should know most teenage boys masterbate! Really I think its normal? Im 14 abd happily do it and I know others do to all though I wouldn't tell anyone. Your parents might just not want you to grow up!

Most Helpful Guys

  • Aww I feel for ya, your mum should know guys start masturbating when they are 12-14. When I was a teenager I was going at it like crazy and my dad used to say as well (why are you taking so long to get out of the bath, I know what you're doing in there). I dont know why some parents give us this guilt trip of doing what they used to do, maybe its jealousy because they are old and past it.
    Thankfully I now live on my own although at 27 the frequency at which I do it has reduced to once or twice a week but whatever, I can walk around naked haha

  • Lol just be like this

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKzMbz0KLTE

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  • why do they want you not jacking? is it for sports? or religion? or just control? mine want me not jacking because of sports. I wrestle both for school and wrestling clubs. I just got used to stopping short of release each time or just not jacking. you could try athletic shorts with an elastic waistband that you can pull down and up easily and wear them to bed then you can pull them down to stroke then pull them back up when done. Do you do any weightlifting? you should take up weightlifting and you will be more popular with the girls. Are you out for any sports? I wrestle and we are popular as the girls check us out in our singlets. I also play football. amazing no car until 21!!! not sure about rebelling, just put up with them until your off at college then don't tell them what your doing at college. what other conflicts are there?

  • this is why i fucking hate my parents. its about personal space, since i moved back in with myy parents for the summer i hate how i have to live with these other people. i love having personal space and walking around naked and wanking all i want its my fucking business so leave me be. dont you worry about what im doing in my room its nothing to do with you so fuck off. is what i like to say to them. can't wait to move back to university.

  • That sucks for you!
    I started masturbating when I was 9 or 10!
    I was an early starter! I have 2 brothers I shared a room with my younger brother he knew I was masturbating already. I would play with myself every day though I masturbated at night mostly!
    I would wait until my mom was in bed I would get naked and start going at it I was not making sperm yet so no clean up! I also would masturbate in the shower a lot it I could orgasm in a couple of minutes than! As I got older I was masturbating more! I started to take longer to cum. My mom would ask what I am doing so long in the shower I said I like to take long showers. I also had many places to masturbate without getting caught I was lucky that I did!
    I think new I was masturbating.
    I would say to you try to masturbate later at night if you can or earlier in the morning!
    Or maybe masturbate in the shower or find a private place if you can?
    I would say both your mom and dad both masturbate for sure! I wish I had a better answer for you! I would say be careful you deserve your privacy. Or maybe talk to your dad if that helps? Enjoy your body enjoy masturbation as much you want. I do as much as I like. Good luck and keep on masturbatimg!

  • Are they really religious?

    • No they aren't.

    • That's really weird

    • Well, I mean they are religious, but I don't think they are that hardcore.

  • Are they religious to the point of stupidity

  • I startes masturbating when i was 12!

  • keep on stroking. they will get over it. dont get caught with p*rn.

  • Sorry but they sound immature... you sound like a grown up.

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