I am in the same situation you are now. I want to leave it, but I am finding it really hard.. If he calls or texts I feel like I have to answer back straight away, I am really attracted to him. If I go out with my friends I don't look at any other guy because I only have interest in him.
It's not a good situation to be in ESP if he doesn't want to move forward..
We don't date, kiss anyone else either. But I feel like I'm not good enough to be his girlfriend..
Talk to him, find out what he wants.. If he wants to continue what ye guys are doing, walk away..
Its a lesson learned. I hope I can follow my own advise too..2 0 0 0I don't think the title girlfriend means nearly as much to me as it does to you. I think the reason why he's weird about it is probably because of responses I see like this. I don't even remotely feel the way you do. I don't feel pressure to talk to him nor do I feel like he should either. I don't think there's anywhere all that far to move to. He dates ME. Hangs out with ME. Has sex with ONLY ME. I don't think there's anything wrong with us, but from your comment and comments I've seen...
...when I posted this on other sites I think I get why he's afraid of just claiming the title. If you have a similar relationship I have no idea where you'd get the idea you weren't "good enough". He's clearly right about it "changing things". The only reason I want the title is because it's a lot less awkward to just say "this is my boyfriend" rather than "this is the guy I have sex with in a monogamous relationship we hang out and like each other a lot?" Lol that's just...odd.
I think you should maybe think about your relationship and see if it's truly like mine, but I know together we have no problems except being stuck on titles. He does everything I want my boyfriend to do. If your "EFWB" does and has committed to seeing only you romantically, maybe you should just think over how much emphasis you're putting into the title. But I went and answered my own question consequently. I'm sure since I'm very mellow like him eventually he'll just so, "Yeah okay, sure"
I've been in an exclusive friends with benefits "thing" for about 3 months now and things are great. I too feel that it is basically being boyfriend /girlfriend without that title. Many times a title can cause problems, for whatever reasons. So, if you both are happy with the arrangement then keep doing what you're doing and enjoy it. Life is too short not to enjoy being around someone whom you actually like and have great sex with.
1 0 0 0I think its a bad idea. Sounds like he wants all the benefits of having a girlfriend without any of the commitment( he's keeping his option open). and guy will commit if he really likes the girl because of the off chance she might find someone else that will.
0 1 0 0What IS a commitment? What is he committing to when he decides to be my boyfriend? Did you even read what I wrote? He nor I will find anyone else because we both agreed to be EXCLUSIVE as in not dating or having sex with other people. I went out of my way to make that part clear.
Just cause someone says they are exclusive doesn't mean they are going to be. You could be boyfriend and girlfriend and he could still go do someone else. By commitment I just don't mean a tittle of bf/gf. A commitment is the willingness to put up with your crap and still want to be with you at the end of the day. Its taking the good and the bad. A relationship isn't just hangouts and sex.
The whole point of the question was asking if my idea about wanting until he gets comfortable claiming the title is fine. Then you say the title isn't the point. Not sure what your point is, but we've been dating for 3 weeks and he has obviously openly decided to commit to having a relationship solely with me. The point of the question is waiting on the title. I don't know what kind of super fast one month commitment you think I should strive for, but no. He committed to me reasonably enough so far.
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When you go out, who pays? The sexual stuff I get. I just don't understand what a woman might expect that is different. When you go out, do you do the same things as in a romantic relationship? Does he do things to impress you? Fancy cars and dinners?
0 0 0 0I'm in a similar situation but my guy works away often an he flys me up to where ever he is. It's been a few months now an we aren't a couple but all out friends tease us saying we are! Neither of us think we are ready to commit but we kinda already have i guess. We both come out of really bad relationships. An want to take our time! A title doesn't really matter does it? I'm a little confused though? Im terrified I might just fall head over heels for him when it's just fun I'm his eyes. We go out together an it's all cute an sweet. I'm always his +1 for social events but we just say we're friends but that doesn't keep his hands off me ie holding my hand or touching me somewhere an he's never shy to kiss me in front of people? I don't know what to think sometimes he's emotional when we're apart an showers me with affection when we're together I'm so confused
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