For people that have a high sex drive, is it difficult to find love?

I remember talking to this one guy and the more I got to know him, he turned out to be a player. All he wanted to do was screw around and smash. He’s also immature for a 23 yr old.
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  • Well…
    I need to be attracted to you,
    I need to like you,
    I need to like your character,
    I need emotional intimacy
    I need to be able to figure you out somehow.
    Sex without emotional intimacy is boring! I don’t feel it, it’s irritating, it’s disposable, it’s grotesque.
    Sex isn’t simply sex to me. It’s bonding with someone not only physically, emotionally, and it’s a spiritual connection.
    Have ever have the wow effects after having sex with someone, you never get tired of it, you want it more, and more, just that person become addictive, imperfectly perfect, and once you’re done and dressed and you’re like was I possessed, or in a different world! Even seing that person far away, fully dress your connection was so surreal your eyes glimmer.
    It’s not like, fun sex “ ooh…! that was great”. 🙄
    Sex is a spiritual tie, spiritual ties with the wrong person, that affect you subconsciously.


    Yeah I’m forever single I’m too selective, my toys will do the jobs!

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  • Possibly, but they might also be the ones most likely to cheat to feed that drive.

    For people that have a high sex drive, is it difficult to find love?

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  • I think you might have these two subjects wrongly connected.
    Sex drive doesn’t make person monogamous or non.
    I have a very strong sex drive , like I would be happy with at least three times a day. But I would much rather that be with one girl. I can’t imagine trying to to get different women all the time. Hell these days it’s hard enough trying to just find one. I still haven’t even met one girl in years. So I’d be happy to share that with one girl.
    what I have experienced in the past is in the beginning when sex finally does come up, she and I , probably like most joke with each each other about trying to keep up. But within four to six months when most new exciting sex is starting to simmer down for most couples I’m just getting warmed up. This is about the time I hear her say. Dang you just want too much sex.

  • I think being a player is not really a sex drive thing. As a teen and early 20’s you do tend to think a lot of simply getting sexual satisfaction but for me mixed in with that was getting emotional satisfaction. I have a high sex drive I guess, but it’s controlled, some is down to preferring a D/s relationship and needing an emotional connection.

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  • No I have a super high drive and I just needed to meet my boyfriend who I love and who has a super high drive too

  • Not at all. I've never had an issue

  • It was difficult at first because I used to prioritize sex over everything. Now I've grown a lot as a person so my boyfriend and I have maintained our relationship in an extremely healthy way while also having my physical needs fulfilled.

    • @gochogirl now what you prioritise? love or sex?

    • @MasterKS I just prioritize him and let him lead the way :) If he's not in the mood for me I respect that

  • A high sex drive is pretty common and normal. Not everyone who has it screws around. You can have a high sex drive and still want that one person to enjoy it with. It just depends.

  • Not really, its only a arms length away...👋🏼

  • Yes. Even the most ardent and raging of libidos will eventually get sick of it and others of them. Hence why most end up in therapy - or jail.

  • I'm pretty sure it's easier to find lust.

  • It is difficult to find love, but not difficult to find sex. Every man I met is willing to have sex with me if I allowed him.

    • That last part you said. Is the difference between women. Stating it’s not hard to find sex vs men telling you it is hard to find sex. It’s way easier for a female.

  • I have high sex drive and it's difficult for me to be in a long term relationship with one guy.

  • No. Sex has little to do with love

  • having high sexual drive doesn't make one a player ONLY if they decided to be a one n once that happen they would chase lust n never love

    its not an excuse for em to be that shallow

    • Very true. I've gone through (4) women in my entire life time. Both wives for an expandable amount of time. Wouldn't do anything differently.

  • Yes but not for the reasons your thinking.

  • Very difficult.

    I'm a virgin with a very high sex drive, and I'm very picky about looks, hobbies, intelligence, humor, personality, sex drive, taste in music and video games, etc.

    Finding the perfect match is hard.

  • That and even to score, lol! 😁 Ah well. I'm hopeful there's an afterlife for me someday lol 😆

  • It has not been difficult for me, no. But my partners have generally been sexually compatible in some form.

  • Yes…

  • I’d assume it’d be hard to stay in a monogamous relationship where they weren’t sexually satisfying you if you had a high sex drive yes…you might be inclined to try to cheat or push for an open relationship

  • @didichi i have high sex drive and it was easy and im married

  • Yes, I have high sex drive and I have not found a girlfriend yet. It's hard to control my sexual urges at this age but I am not a player or a womanizer.

  • just depends if the other party has high sex drive too @didichi

    • That’s sad though, I wouldn’t want to be smashing a guy when there’s no love.

    • thats due to love not high sex drive though

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