Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Giving your man sex whenever he wants it?
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Ladies, do you believe that if you're in a committed relationship with a great and loving man (not for the jerks), you should give them sex whenerver they want it? Like in the middle of the night when you are tired but he wants to have sex, should you always agree to it? This questions is mainly for women, but guys can pitch in as well :)
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What Girls & Guys Said
22 21I mam there's a realistic balance, if she has work in the morning she needs her rest! But on the same note, if sexually pleasing her man is a constant problem.. don't be surprised when he leaves for a more compatible girl.
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A women that has sex just because her man wants it is a prostitute/whore, she sells sex to keep peace in the relationship or to keep him around, but that being said, if you refuse sex too much, he will probably leave you.
*facepalm*
My wife gives me Sax whenever I want it no matter what. And the result for us is a much stronger relationship. And if she is tired I respect her and don't ask for Sax because of the mutual respect we have for each other. I cannot speak for all guys because I think there are a lot of assholes out there. But strictly speaking of Sax I think you're better off just letting him do his business than fighting it because
1. You will get more sleep just letting him do it as opposed to fighting.
2. If you don't have sex with him he'll find another woman who will have sex with him.
This all of course should be thrown out if you genuinely do not want to have sex. In other words it is your body and nobody else's body and no one should take that away no matter what.
Your wife let's you play the Sax? Lucky...
I'm sure after I marry I'd give my wife sex whenever. 😉
Haha. There are more No. Who's up for me?
I would want my women to vote 'yes' haha but it's alright, if she doesn't want to, no one's forcing.
Yes you should wether you want to or not
I would give him when he want but if he wake me up in the middle of the night, he would just fuck me like I'm a doll serious too tired
You say "giving" as if you're doing him a favor by having sex. I'd dump a girl in a heartbeat if she thought of sex as her doing me a favor. I want a woman who sees me as her equal not as her being superior to me.
It should be a give and take I mean if he's waking you up at 3am and you have to be up early or he does it all the time then cut it off. But if he's happy and getting some he shouldn't cheat.
If in the middle of the night he wants sex and your tired you can say no. Also would depend on other circumstances if your illl or on your period then don't agree to sex.
Not necessarily. Like, I do enjoy sex with my boyfriend but if I'm not in the mood (sick, pain, etc.) then I'm not going to force myself. Same with him, if he was too tired that night and I was good to go, I understand and will wait until later. You don't have to do things you don't want to do. If you want to do this, then that is up to you.
Yes. With my ex partner, I don't think I ever said no to sex, but that's because there wasn't a time when I didn't want to have sex with him.
Even if I wasn't in the mood, I could get there, even if it took a while sometimes.
I always wanted him, I always wanted him to want me.
I'm not saying it "should" be the way, that was just how I felt.
I learned the hard way that having sex when you don't want to only ends up hurting your sexual desire. It's better to have hot passionate sex less often than to just hump the rump every night.
No…? If you're not in the mood for sex you shouldn't do it just because he wants to. Doesn't matter if he's such a great guy or not.
It's up to the couple.
If i were single, i would not enter a monogamous relationship with someone who didn't want -and expect- that 95% of the time we'd have sex or be sexual whenever EITHER person was horny. If she's got a higher drive than me, i'll work with that, happily.
I didn't have that expectation when i was younger. I should have. Thinking i should just be happy with not much sex has been a huge source of misery.
It's not that I think people who dont' feel this way need to suck it up and have sex more.
It's that i simply don't consider them compatible with what i want a monogamous relationship to mean. I don't want it to be either of us off masturbating constantly because we're horny. To me, monogamy means not just a no cheating pact, but a genuine desire to meet close to 100% of the other's sexual needs, and being happy and honored to have that responsibility and privilege.
Preach it, brother!
Note I said '95' too. Not 100. Sometimes people are sick. Sometimes people are really not up to it. A person who is a decent partner is probably NOT going to wake you up ever time they're a little horny, they'll wait till morning and then try to squeeze a quickie in. Just like if you're kind of horny at 3 AM, how often do you really get up and go masturbate? Not too often. But a distinct minority of women AND men hold the view i'm suggesting. From what i understand, most men act really offended if she has a higher drive than him. Whatever. If i were single, i know what i'm offering, i know what i want, and i want someone who GENUINELY feels the same. It's a huge compatibility point.
If you think of sex as giving him something you are starting off on the wrong foot already.