Guys and Girls: Have you ever hooked up with a girl where she initiated it?

Question

How did she act afterward?

normalice · Accepted Answer

nearly all of my hookups were initiated by the girl. How she acted afterwards varied from "thanks. now I have stuff to do. goodbye" to "so, when are we getting married?"

I guess the only thing they all seemed to have in common was a vague sense of gratitude. Not for the sex - though obviously they must have wanted it - but for my discretion and the fact that I wasn't acting like I owned them just because I had my way with them.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Yes. I've had it happen a few times. Each was different. What are you seeing?

SaffronTowers · Accepted Answer

I’m usually the one who initiates, the best example being the time I took a virgin to a movie theater and surprised him with a blowjob halfway through.

Justacatlady · Accepted Answer

No, I'm usually the initiator when it comes to females

weysally · Answer

yes more than once, girl/girl can be very tender and pleasant

Logorithim · Answer

Yeah. This was with older women when I was a young adult (they were in their 30s). When we were done, they usually wanted me to go home.

rudude · Answer

I've been in situations where I girl made me come only ten minutes after meeting her, with no doubt whose idea it was in the first place. They didn't all go the same. With some, we started going out together, with some we ended up casual friends with benefits, with some I never saw them again. Tis better to have fucked and lost than never to have fucked in the first place, I say.

CuriousAnt · Answer

Yes, it's the best when a woman actually makes a move. Guys don't get hit on much, so when it happens it's amazingly flattering.

Rexnine9 · Answer

I have had somel initiate a one nighter but I didn't know it untill I got them home. I never looked for one night stands but, it does seem that those women's confidence could have been bolstered because they had planned to have a one nighter?

MrMysteryMan · Answer

Yes I have. Usually they have a good smirk about it.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Sure over the years I have. I'm not intimidated by it. Assuming I'm on the same page.

Elliegirl · Answer

Can’t say that I have, but I’ve definitely initiated sex many times.

DevikaButts95 · Answer

Kinda sorta.

xTom98 · Answer

Loads of times, I’m usually quite passive and let them initiate 😄

rebelsunshine · Answer

Yes, a few times. In every instance the girl downplayed her role in bringing about our hookup. She always acted like I was as active in bringing it about as she. But having many more experiences were I went home alone from bars and clubs after putting in the same amount of effort I put in with these girls, I know with certainty that none of these hookups would have happened were it not for her active involvement.

Her reactions afterward? Well, sometimes things clicked in the bedroom and we had a blast until parting ways in the morning. Other times, excessive alcohol consumption and beer goggles caused me to get into a situation I wasn't particularly thrilled to be in. I did the best I could do under the circumstances. Which meant a lot more involvement of my tongue and fingers rather than my dick. The girls varied in age from my age to cougars in their late 30s.

And oh, there was the time shortly after I moved to the Bay Area that I was working as a freelance independent computer repairman. I got a call from a young butch womyn's studies student who was enrolled at Mills College in Alameda. She scheduled a housecall with me for 5 or 6pm on a Thursday after she was done with her classes for that day, so I could come by and straighten out her machine.

Her apartment had all the typical (2nd? / 3rd? / 4th? wave?) feminist claptrap about the evils of "patriarchy," propaganda on how to "deconstruct systems of oppression," flyers from militant feminist groups... the whole 9 yards of the one-sided, cultural Marxist mind-indoctrination that occurs on every liberal arts college to some degree or another in today's America.

Well as I started to fix her computer she offered me a glass of wine, which I accepted. The repair took a little over an hour, and she refilled my glass once during that period. Towards the end she started paying a lot closer attention to what i was doing. Finally I finished, and as I was explaining what I had fixed and what I had installed, she walked up right next to my chair. She asked me a question about a particular piece of software. As I was answering, I felt her leg softly touch mine. I didn't recoil and continued answering her question. When I turned to look at her, she gazed into eyes smiling, rubbed her leg slowly along mine, and kissed me.
This feminist butch womyn sexually harassed and assaulted me. She saw my computer repair ad on Craigslist (w/face pic), booked an outcall, and had one final software issue in need of my hardware.

ATuairiscean · Answer

Yes - Mostly a bit shy but glad she did it.

WillyD · Answer

Don't all women initiate it? I mean i know guys like to think they do... but c'mon do they really?

John83 · Answer

Yes, I had a girl sit next to me at a hotel bar and start a conversation that eventually led to her invite me up to her room. I went with her and we spent the night together. We had breakfast together the next morning and spent the rest of that day and night together too.

Wowgirl10q · Answer

We are still cool so 👍

MarilynMansonsSlvt · Answer

Well I've initiated a hookup (the first one) xx ~ Mrs Manson

Udbhav_Bantwal · Answer

Yeah, it's happened a couple of times with me, they would just act as they usually do afterwards, some of them I stayed friends with or became friends with and with some of them, it turned into a friends with benefits type thing or an actual relationship...