Guys, I feel awkward initiating the first blowjob? Help :(?

It’s only my second date with this guy I’m really into so we’ve only made out so far, and I don’t know how to subtly suggest that I want to suck him off 😩

I say subtly because being too forward by saying something like “can I suck your dick” or just going for it feels disingenuous and awkward :(

I felt him get hard when we made out but I didn’t do anything about it because he didn’t say anything about it. I’m used to guys in the past kinda hinting at it or guiding my hand down slowly, so when he didn’t do any of that I just assumed he didn’t want me to?

What should I do?
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Most Helpful Guys

  • You've only had 2 dates so it's still really early. Without looking back at your question details I think you said you two did make out. So that's something to build on, especially because you said you could tell he was hard. At some point if he doesn't move your hand down there as a signal you might just need to do that yourself. I think it would be better to proceed with nonverbal cues rather than (like you mentioned) actually saying you "Can I give you a blowjob?"
    My advice would be to give it more time and let things advance organically.

  • He may be shy. Take it slow and touch his body in a seductive way. You could ask him if he wants you to stop.

    • Thank you for the MHO. 😊 I hope you have good luck with it. Please feel free to PM if you wish.

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  • all guys want to be blown... next time your making you put your hand on his crotch rub it then undo his belt and zipper... so you don't have to ask him... i've only been rejected once from giving a blowjob and he changed his mind 15 minutes later... but once he's hard you've got him and he'll want to cum i'm sure.

    • also be sure to wear a miniskirt that helps when you show some skin

    • GREAT!!! LOLOL

    • @Bricealan keep laughing but you know it's true

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  • I'm sure he would love it. Maybe start out rubbing him to get him hard and start out with a handjob and see how it goes. Guys love a great handjob also!!!

  • Good lord. Go down there and start undoing his pants and help him take them off. Then start suckin.

  • When you feel him get hard run your hand over it. Then just take his penis out and start , he will enjoy.

  • I can't understand the set of circumstances in which the guy you're on a date with does NOT want a BJ.

  • Here's a piece of advice if you really like the guy don't suck his dick until y'all were to get into a relationship. And even then wait for him to ask. This is a dead giveaway sign that women screw up right at the beginning so often. What's the guy to think if you do it for him, you've done it to XX X number of other guys. Naturally if you found out you made him wait it would piss him the hell off as well but if you don't drunkenly tell on yourself some day in the future, he might actually believe that he special

    • You don't want to offer him bad sex, but you also don't want to rock his world and make him think you've had a massive amount of opportunities to hone in on your skill

  • Then don’t do it….. just don’t. It’s only your second date anyways

  • If I were F and in your situation, I would pause between kisses and say: I want you to let me give you some oral love. It sounds much better than saying can I suck your dick?, using a metaphorical expression.

    I would be so flattered, you wouldn't seem awkward at all saying that.

  • You should've waited `til you were at least 2nd in line.

  • Woman up and start rubbing his cock through his pants. You're AN ADULT. You're supposed to be having sex.

  • Making out on date 2 is way too early, let alone a bj on date 2...

    When you actually know him well however, you can actually just be blunt and tell him you want to.

  • Just gently touch him there.

  • Well when you make out, rub your hand on the front of his pants or give him a gentle squeeze or two. If he doesn’t move your hand, look into his eyes then slowly look down, look back into his eyes, raise your eyebrows in a questioning way, then gently nod your head. If he nods back especially if he smokes back, you’re in for penis time 😉

  • Just undo his pants or if he's wearing shorts pull his dick out and just stat sucking. No need to overthink it

  • Second date? That's way to soon.

  • Maybe you’re trying to move faster than you should. Never rush into sex.

  • thats hot! why u have the urge to suck it?

  • Do what guys did in the past, slide your hand down

  • Just be yourself. When making out, accidentally put you hand on his lap or hardon. Then tell him it feels so good, ask if you can see it. When he pulls his cock out, askifyou could hold it, feel it. That’s when you go for a kiss on the tip, then into your mouth. No asking required. He won’t say much until he cums.

    • Thank you for the Like

    • Let me know how it turns out

  • Rub him over his pants and then unzip them. The rest just flows naturally.

  • Try a cucumber

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