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Ok so the other day me and my boyfriend were messing around and I went to suck his dick and it wasn’t that hard. And i was like “it’s not even fully hard” and he was like you made it soft by waiting too long and that offended me for some reason so I didn’t talk to him for like 10 mins. Then he got mad at me for ignoring him and he didn’t know it was bc he said that. The next day I told him it offended me and he was like “are you serious that’s why😂it’s not you, my shits weird it gets soft if it just sits there for a while that’s how it’s always been” and we have made up since then but I’m afraid that since his soft dick was spoken about by me that he won’t be able to get a boner w me ever again bc I’ve heard you aren’t suppose to talk about it. Please tell me I’m overthinking this.
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  • Us guys don`t necessarily have as much control over our penises as most girls think we do.
    I once met a girl at a gym that i go to (it is at our local hotel) We were sat in the jacuzzi together playing with each other and while she was playing with me i got so hard, and after that we went to her room.
    While in her room i started licking her and i was absolutely loving it, lookswise she was an absolute stunner.
    The problem was because i was busy doing things to her and at that time she wasn`t even touching me and my penis went soft.
    She spent ages trying to make me hard again as i did, and eventually i did get hard. Then she was giving me a really good hand job but then i cum much sooner than i wanted or expected to.
    My point being things don`t always go to plan. so don`t overthink it, the next time will be great, so just forget about what happened and move on.

  • Simply said: it happens, doesn't mean a thing :-) Don't worry about it.

    But beware: if you overthink this and he gets aware of it, that will put pressure on him and cause more of these "problems". Just let it go and if it happens, share a laugh or two and tell each other that you love one and other. In that way, you'll avoid putting to much "performance"-pressure on him.

    and for you: don't worry about it, you seem like a sweet girl, caring enough to ask here, he probably thinks the world of you.

    • Ok thanks! You are so kind

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  • Overthinking? Maybe.

    I actually don't agree that "it" has a mind of its own. I know exactly what will get "it" ready to go and it's really not that hard (no pun intended).

    I've met tons of women at work, drop dead gorgeous, with plenty of physical contact (hugs, etc), alone in hotel rooms, the whole nine. And I've not gotten an erection off of any of it, because mentally I can control it to remain professional.

    Yet I can watch Magga Bracco dance for 15 seconds and no matter what my mental control, "it" will stand at attention.

    In other words, it sounds like you haven't identified what really arouses him if he never got hard. If he got hard and then went soft when you started, maybe it's the touchy-feely that got him hard. So do that WHILE you're working.

    In other words, get creative until something works.

  • Don't take it too personal us men don't have complete control over. Our dicks they kind of have a mind of there own your boyfriend might have been up for it but his dick got tired of waiting.

    Has happened to me in the past I've had a boner waiting but if things don't escalate after a while it basically says "sod this and wake me up when you need me for some action"

  • A guy can only stay hard for so long. It's a natural protection because staying hard for too long can be harmful. That's why the Viagra commercial warns guys to get medical attention if a hard on lasts over 4 hours. When a guy looses his hard on it can be hard ( pun not intended) to get it back.

  • Definitely over thinking!
    Just make something happen, and suck him off, you will both love it !
    I hope he also pleases you sexually !

    • Aw thank you you made me feel so much better!

    • How long have you been together with him?

    • About 6 months

  • There's no reason for this incident to stay toxic. Going forward just try to be understanding that his penis may not always be erect when you start to give him oral. (Some girls even like taking it in their mouths when it's less than fully hard because they can feel it grow hard in their mouth *because of what THEY are doing*! And he needs to chill because the whole thing isn't that big of a deal and you didn't intend to belittle him.

  • No loving relationship have all this psychodrama.

    • I’m insane

    • Naah. He's right in there with you.

    • Thank you😂

  • Young love insecurities. Don't worry the next guy you fall in lust with probably won't have any problems...

  • yes you are

  • My is hard
    You want?

    • Please kill me

  • you're overthinking this

  • You guys are both adorably ignorant about sex. Talk less, tease more.

  • Y'all got into an argument over a blow job? Wowww.

  • You're overthinking this.

  • You are suppose to talk about it. You did nothing wrong. And don't beat yourself up over that. You will be able to get him hard without any effort. Believe me.

  • Trust me we won't have a problem getting hard

  • Why didn't you just suck him hard again? And yes, our cocks get soft when there is no stimulation for awhile.

    Instead of being a bitch you could have gotten him hard quickly and had a good fuck.

  • You are definitely over thinking this big time

  • Learn to enjoy the feel of his cock slowly getting hard in your mouth... don't neccesarily suck it. I t will soon get hard and thwn you can blow and suck it to your content

  • You seem to have communication issues with your SO. Dicks get soft. He doesn’t need to freak out about it. But you guys should be able to talk openly.

  • If you start sucking it it would most likely get hard right away

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