Guys, when you have sex with a girl, do you hurt her by doing these unpleasant actions?

Question

1. During sexual intercourse, grabbing/ holding her legs so hard that she had get bruises or her leg muscles hurt. You hold her legs so tight so she won’t move away from you when humping her.
2. During humping when you’re on the top of a girl she cannot breathe properly any more. She makes squeaky noises.
3. Penetrating her when she is not wet at all.
4. When she is busy with something, grabbing her whole body to take her to bed BUT she protests by grabbing the doors and walls not to go to bed.
5. when there are no contraceptions available, ask her to have sex with her and she is afraid of pregnancy.
6. still continue doing sex because you have to come/ ejaculate.

My fiance does all the acts, I wonder if marriage would improve the communication when it comes to sex. He also found me too panicky when I was scared that I may pregnant and our family is against sex before marriage so imagine the shame 😔 and I don’t want to get pregnant right now.
When planning a family, he says he wants to have a baby boy because a boy can be more meaningful than a girl. He can earn money while a girl cannot have a proper job, he claims. Girls aren’t that smart, he says. But I said that I have a proper education myself he said some women are smart but most of them are not smart, he claimed. He probably joked a little but I found his statements too harsh.
Lately, I have just lost my libido and I don’t enjoy sex and I don’t feel horny when he does all these sexual actions.

So by asking these questions, I want to know if this sexual relationship is normal. I used to feel horny but my libido is all gone now.