Guys: Would you mind if a girl wanted to keep her bra on when having sex?

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SteveSmith1985 · Accepted Answer

I actually HATE it when a girl wants to keep her bra on during sex. haha, seriously... it would be very high on my list of things I hope I don't have to deal with... when I'm with a new partner. Now let me explain why that is:

I actually really hope I'm wrong about this in your case, but... In my experience, the reason a woman wants to keep her bra on is because she feels self-conscious. If that's not your reason. You can pretty much ignore this.

Sex is good when two people are able to lose their inhibitions and get lost in the experience. To just zone into the animalistic intimacy of the experience. To enjoy each other fervently and passionately for a time, before coming back to the mundanity of everyday life.

The key to really enjoying sex, for me, is really founded on dropping those inhibitions. "letting loose". Not worrying that your partner is negatively judging you. That's why people often have good sex when they're drunk. They don't give a fuck. They don't worry about those little things they're self-conscious about. And everybody's got SOMETHING they're self-conscious about. Human beings are flawed. That's part of the beauty. Nobody actually wants perfection. At least they wouldn't more than once. Perfection is boring.

All that being the case:

A woman insisting she keep her bra on during sex... is literally like having a sign in front of my face saying: "She's not 'comfortable" "She's not 'letting herself loose'... she's self-conscious"

Then... well, of course, I'm thinking about THAT and not letting loose myself. So I'm not able to enjoy the experience of sex nearly as much as I would if... at MINIMUM I wasn't staring at that "sign" (bra) saying "she's not comfortable... she can't/won't let loose".

It DOESN"T MATTER what you think is wrong with you, or wrong with your breasts. What I'm about to say holds true regardless. Again... I don't know you or your body... but this DOES apply to you:

Guys want to see your body--ALL of it. Guys want you to relax and enjoy yourself. If you like and trust a guy enough to have sex with him, don't hold back. You're sharing yourself in the most intimate possible way with another person. Share all of you.

If you can 'let loose' in your mind, and not worry that you're being judged (you aren't)... you'll start enjoying sex more than you do now--no matter how much you may enjoy it now ;)

Finally. In the history of sex... NOT ONCE has ANY guy EVER had this thought during sex: "this would be so much hotter/better if she put a bra on." EVER.

PrudentGuy · Accepted Answer

Oh yes. I mind. I have only one bedroom rule: clothes off lights on.

Reason: sexual. confidence.

If we are adult enough to have sex we are adult enough to talk, to flaunt, to "get dirty".

And it takes a lot of sexual confidence plus a large degree of vulnerability to do so.

Hence unless it's a roleplay or something special, only 100% naked, no bra, no jewelry, not even makeup.

AshZ36 · Accepted Answer

Lol most girls can't wait to get their bras off in general sex or not... so im assumimg there is a body image issue here

AustinMan · Answer

Absolutely.

livingthelife19 · Answer

No it's normal. If it makes her feel comfortable fhags cool

Cyrus03 · Answer

Personally I find it hot keeping some clothes on during sex, so I would like it. It's mainly about the mind imagining what is under that clothing, so for me I find the woman more attractive.

sawno · Answer

For some sessions i would be into that as a way of teasing me, in the beginning i also wouldn't mind. But ultimately it has to come off most of the time.