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Sexual Health Girls, have you ever cried during sex?
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My gf is 18 and so am I. We've been dating for about a year. Anyway, the 1st time we had sex she was crying. She kept telling me not to stop but I felt terrible because it looked like she was in pain. She still cries about 50% of the times we sex. Have you ever cried during sex? If so was it because you were in a lot of pain?
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I don't think she cries from pain because I sat her down yesterday and told her that if sex is painful enough to bring her to tears I'll do everything I can do to change that even if it means not having sex for awhile and she told me it wasn't necessary. I think she's just very emotional or had a traumatic sexual experience she doesn't want to talk about
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(65)Omg!!! Nuts
No...
But maybe it was just extremely emotional to her or it hurt...
Nope. Never. But not to worry I have heard that sometimes girls can get overly emotional in such vulnerable state.
i cry when im sad sometimes that has been during sex. my ex didn't seem to mind just did his thing.
I guess I'm too nice because it really bothers me seeing my gf cry especially when I think it's my fault
why not ask her?
I have asked many times. She won't tell me why
I doubt it's because she's in pain. It's probably an emotional thing. My best friend said she did it and she didn't even know why she did it. It wasn't that she was in pain.
Reassure her that if she's in physical pain it's okay & not her fault & maybe she should see a doctor but don't push it & tell her if sex is painful she doesn't have to do that. She doesn't ever have to have sex w/you. Lots of girls (I think) reckon they are obligated to have sex w/their partners (especially male partners;--cuz I think, if a girl's w/another girl, at that point you've already abandoned the heterosexual norm of a woman compulsively providing emotional and sexual labour for her boyfriend w/little, in my opinion, in return) so I still have to be reminded of this by my girlfriends: we don't /have/ to have sex; I hardly ever want to have sex.. but I feel obligated to bc that's society.
.. And how sex is thought of part & parcel of almost any romantic relationship which is troubling to me as an asexual[?] lesbian. Anyway, she might have a physical problem yea--or it could be psychological, just reassure her that if she doesn't want to have sex it's okay and you don't expect it. And that you're willing to talk to her & support her w/it if she wants you to. That's all you can do.. I think. I'm not sure what to say if she disregards this and still wants to have sex? I wouldn't personally feel right about it, but I'd also feel wrong refusing her sex but that's me feeling bad for refusing sex again -- but if yr worried about her you can say 'no, I don't want to' too! Consent is a mutual agreement :)
Yeah. I always tell her that she doesn't have to do anything she's not 100% comfortable with and I never pressure her to have sex
If I'm crying I'm in pain. Yes, that has happened several times before.
Is there any reason why you wouldn't tell him you're in pain because my gf won't tell me why she cries?
i did.. the guy was an asshole. If your g/f is crying and you are showing honest concern about it I don't understand why she would continue if she was in pain. Props for not using her for personal pleasure. That is gentlemen behavior.
Nope, I haven't.
Once, due to a flashback of sexual assault.
I'm sorry. That's happened to me too. It's awful. <333
That's terrible. I'm truly sorry that anyone would do that you
Same. I understand.
It's probably just all the emotions overwhelming her. I've read something about this once, it's not because she's in pain or anything you're doing basically.