Have you lost your virginity after you have been raped?

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Is losing ons’s virginity a biological or an ethical thing? If someone has been raped (and has not had sexual encounters before) can they still call themselves virgins?

btbc92 · Accepted Answer

Virginity is virginity. And I can say this as a virgin, that being a virgin is more than just a biological thing. It's who you are as a person. Somebody that never had sex, somebody that never experienced it, and somebody who does not have impure thoughts about sex. In other words you are not in agreement with it. And you believe in the Purity especially when waiting for marriage to have sex. You won't be watching pornography, you won't even be in agreement with it. You won't even masturbate, and you won't do it willingly.

But being a rape victim sadly comes with it's problems. Now Not only was the experience forced on you, it was deliberately taken from you. That's something that you had no choice over. And once you have no choice over that, whether you're a virgin or not wouldn't even matter. What matters is that it was an experience that was forced on you and you did not have a say.

So if you was a virgin before you got raped. Then you were a virgin. You may not be physically a virgin anymore. But you can be born again as a virgin. If you still have the Purity in mind and have a desire to truly be virginal and you keep yourself all the way into marriage. Then you're still a virgin at heart. But sadly physically you're not a virgin anymore. And that's what makes it hard. Because again you didn't ask for that, and hopefully you didn't put yourself in a position to get raped. But again, sadly there are people out there that will take advantage of you. Thank God I never been raped. But I have experienced sexual assault of some form of way as sexual harassment. And I understand to some degree how very hard it is to not get over those experiences. Some people just want to say oh I'm sorry, I hope this that and the third. But while it may sound thoughtful, people truly do not understand how much becomes taken from you because you did not again ask for those experiences. It was forced. All you can do is just accept the love of God in your life. Understand that he loves you. Understand that he will never abandon you. And understand that no matter what he knows what happened. And you owe nobody else an explanation for it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It counts, just like any other thing you can lose.
For example, you can lose your cell phone by accident (it fell out of your pocket), you can give it to someone as a present, or you can lose it by force (e. g by getting robbed).
The same applies to virginity, you can lose it voluntarily, or you can lose it by force.

Derekk · Accepted Answer

Whatever the circumstances, just know that if this ever happens to somebody, it does NOT diminish their worth, it does NOT reduce their appeal, and it is NOT their fault. The man is a scumbag, and any man who believes that a scumbag can "taint" a woman through coercive sex is himself a scumbag who does not represent the common opinion of decent people.

wondering_guy · Accepted Answer

Technically yes you've lost your virginity but wouldn't count it as your first time. Sorry to hear what happened to you but this was forced on you, not something you chose, so when you do have sex properly, that will be then when you lose your virginity

Berethor · Answer

Yes she lost her virginity, she was defiled, forced sex is still sex, if she say she virgin, she lie.

SjE78 · Answer

if w female's hymen is broken they are no longer a virgin, so doesn't matter whether rape or consentual if that happens they are no longer a virgin anymore...

hassan9873 · Answer

In my opinion yes.. i mean getting raped is not sex.. and sex is what should be counted.

SlothySlob · Answer

By definition, you are no longer a vaginal virgin up having vaginal sex, same goes for anal or oral. You can deny it, but you have no way of proving that you are or aren't.

chriscdi · Answer

no but to me, a girl thats been raped still has my respect and i would still see her as a innocent first timer

Browneye57 · Answer

Yes. If you have been penetrated you are no longer a virgin.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

No.. no they can't.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

This is an issue that I worked through in my mind philosophically just recently (over the last year), based on a post that one of my friends made.

I now feel that virginity must be lost willingly. So, if it was taken from you without your consent, then you're still a virgin. Someone's status shouldn't change just because they've been the victim of a violent crime.

Twalli · Answer

They may have lost their physical virginity, but I wouldn't say the haven't lost their psychological virginity

admles · Answer

It's a social construct, so if you think you're still a virgin after being raped, then you are.

Nachowedgie · Answer

Yeah

maxflame · Answer

Depends PM me

Anonymous · Answer

In that kind of situation I'd say unfortunately the physical virginity has been stolen. But the ethical virginity still belongs to them.

Anonymous · Answer

i'm sorry you went through that

Anonymous · Answer

I think that you have lost your virginity after being raped. Part of the reason rape is such a terrible thing.

Anonymous · Answer

That counts, yes

Anonymous · Answer

Neither. Losing your virginity is when a penis enters a vagina. Biologically, the same effect happens when you use a dildo. Ethically, it happens if you engage in any sexual activity of any sort, be it oral, anal, or vaginal. Literally, it is when a penis goes inside your body.

Anonymous · Answer

nope. no longer virgin

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