He slips out during sex sometimes? Does it mean im too loose?

He says I'm really tight and that he likes fucking me. But sometimes we'll be going at it and all of a sudden he slips out and it kinda hurts. I don't think I'm extremely too wet or anything like that. Is it normal for this to happen quite a bit or am I too loose or is my vagina nit "grippy" enough? Or is he losing his erection inside me?

Also, if a guy loses his erection inside of a vagina or during a blowjob, does that mean he isn't attracted to you?

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  • It sounds like he is slipping out on purpose so he doesn’t cum to fast , What most girls’ don’t realize is a guys’ penis is very sensitive to her vagina , especially the head of his penis , if he is very sensitive to her vagina , it could cause him to cum very fast , Sadly most girls’ get upset if her man cums before she does , because usually a guy will go limp after he cums and isn’t able to maintain an erection to finish her off , so she can have an orgasm. Every girl is different , but a majority of girls’ want to be pleased before he cums . Most guys’ want to please her as well , especially a girl he wants to be in a relationship with , so she keeps coming back for more. Once a guy gets use to her vagina and they are having regular sex on a regular basis , his dick will get less sensitive and the sex between them will get better. If he keeps failing to please her , she will more than likely get it from someone else. So if your boyfriend really likes you and wants to be with you , his mission is to please you. He is more than likely. Pulling out on purpose so he doesn’t cum to fast is my guess

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  • "He says I'm really tight and that he likes fucking me." So he is attracted to you.

    "But sometimes we'll be going at it and all of a sudden he slips out and it kinda hurts." I don't understand why this would hurt.

    "I don't think I'm extremely too wet or anything like that." I doubt that is the problem.

    "Is it normal for this to happen quite a bit" Not unusual. What is his level of experience? What positions are you using? Does this happen in every position?

    "am I too loose" EXTREMELY unlikely.

    "is my vagina not "grippy" enough?" Maybe he is losing his erection or maybe he is thrusting too vigorously or frenetically.

    "Or is he losing his erection inside me?" Good possibility.

    "Also, if a guy loses his erection inside of a vagina or during a blowjob, does that mean he isn't attracted to you?" No, not at all. That is ONE possible explanation. He could also be fatigued, drank too much alcohol, has an illness - such as diabetes - that can cause ED, or has performance anxiety.

    Is this the first sexual relationship for both of you?

    • He doesn't seem super tired, he doesn't drink, and he's had a lot of sexual partners in the past and him losing his erection is a new problem between us. He's not nervous. We have been talking and sleeping together for about 3 months. The first couple of months he never lost his erection with me. I don't know why it is just now happening...

    • What positions are you using?

    • The same ones we've always used. Doggy, missionary, cowgirl, reverse cowgirl, etc...

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  • Slipping out during sex can happen.

    It could be too much lube, or wet. It can be that you are very excited which is good but makes you less 'grippy'. It could also be that he is on the smaller side.

    However 9/10 times its none of those and the real issue is just that one or both of you are moving a little too.. enthustiastically.

    Typically if a guy were to go soft during sex it is because of his headspace, not attraction. Speaking for myself I could not manage to get fully erect my first time in bed with my first girlfriend. I was nervous. Worried about performance. So on. Never did I find her unattractive.

    But well, just encourage a bit more grinding motions rather than long thrusts and you should be having both better sex and reduce any slipping.

    • I'm wet but not *too* wet. And he isn't small. Also, the first month or two we started having sex, he never ever went soft. Him getting soft has just kind of started happening. We have been talking for like 3 months. And when he goes soft, it happens when I'm blowing him and he uses his hand to get it up again, but before I can sit on it, it starts to go soft again. Once he's inside me, it pretty much stays hard but sometimes when we switch positions I notice that sometimes it goes soft inside me too. Is he losing attraction or am I just not good at sex or maybe my vagina isn't very good?

    • Again. Its much more likely to be his headspace. He could be self conscious about the slipping issue. He could be stressed from work. Eating poorly or just different. A thousand other things. Any medicine he takes can easily be the cause. He might just be picking up on your insecurities. If it is his headspace the trick is simply to be encouraging and lean into whatever turns him, and hopefully you, on. Sex is as much in the head as anywhere else after all.

  • Sweetie, there are a ton of reasons he could be slipping out and most of them don't have anything to do with you. If he is in control of the stroke then he is slipping out because he needs to work on his stroke or the two of you need to work on your rhythm together. Your wetness or tightness have nothing to do with it.

    With guys the loss of an erection can happen if we start concentrating on something other than what's if front of us. It doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. It could mean he has too much on his mind, is it of shape and getting tired, or is watching you much porn, but you shouldn't internalize it as it's totally in his control.

  • A guy slips out when his penis withdraws far enough to slip out. That is him moving out of you and usually no fault of yours. If you have "too much" lube it can be less enjoyable, but still, as long as he stays close and in he will not slip out.

  • He could be misjudging his strokes and popping out. As you say he said your tight so if he's done that with other girls because there pussy is gaping then when he thrusts back in it has just slipped back in but for you it's too tight to manage that.

    Or and I've experienced this before maybe your squeezing him out as the end of a stroke.

    Either way I encourage more practice so you both can perfect things together ;)

  • What a rookie. The guy clearly needs to practice his stroke.

  • No, it doesn't.

  • Slipping out is common, especially ially if long strokes are involved.

    Guys sometimes lose an erection because they are tired, or have had too much alcohol or may just not be in the mood. It may be lack of attraction, but more likely not.

  • I've been with plenty of women of different shapes and sizes and nope, it is not because you're too loose. Very probably anyway. It's more likely that you could be balancing his thrusts at a better angle, moving to the side a bit less, and from his perspective judging his strokes vs his length a bit better, or being a bit more upright. You didn't say what position this happens most in but the same basically applies. If anything, he forgets the depth because he likes having sex with you so much he gets caught up in the moment. Which he should.

    And if a guy looses his erection, no it doesn't mean he isn't attracted to you. It's always possible, but there's no reason to think that without other signals. There are other factors that much more commonly explain losing an erection.

    Thinking too much is one of them... which is a point you'd do well to bear in mind too :)

  • He has a small penis, that’s why

  • Is this the first time?

    This falling out is pretty common especially the first time
    Also guys who are not very experienced with penetration might not be able to do so in a perfect steady way like we see in porn

  • He might be too short for his strokes or his strokes are too big. I wouldn't put this on you!

  • Slipping out happens at times,... it is not because you are loose. How old is he? Is he able to stay hard for round 2 or 3 sometimes?

  • First he just might be pulling to far out while he thrusting and it can fall out sometimes which is normal tight or not. Secondly if he loses his erection it’s not your fault or thinks you not attractive it’s his problem.

  • Most guysnwed a certain rhythm or speed to stay hard. Also he can slip out based on going too fast or a slight change in angle.

  • My girlfriend was also like this !
    The first time i was surprised how wet it was , and then i loved it so much it’s honestly the best … i guess it works better with bigger cocks tho

  • No. Wrong motion. Also lots of variability in erection quality, even while having sex. I often get noticeably bigger and harder before ejaculating.

  • You have lose vagina

  • Maybe just talk with him and see if there’s anything going on that’s affecting his mood, is he big or small?

  • Either your super wet or he's not fully erect or he's short if you know what I mean cause I never slip out

  • It’s not you sweetheart ❤️

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