He used me for sex and played with my feelings. I can't get over it. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

He knows im such a soft & sensitive person and he acted on that. He would pretend to care about me for weeks straight by asking me how my days were, how i was and asking me all these personal questions. He would plan out perfect dates and everything. Now after we had sex he says he isn't ready -which even though he sounded sincere, i dont believe. Im a firm believer in that people are ready when they want to be. I hadn't felt this way about someone in forever. How do i get over him when i still have to see him every day?

[slatyb]

How did he "use you for sex?" Do you imagine every man you have sex with will eventually propose marriage? If you didn't want to have sex, why did you? There must have been something you expected to get that didn't happen. The only thing you can reliably trade sex for is money, and if you do, you should insist on payment up front. You can't trade sex for love or commitment. With condoms and contraception sex is pretty safe these days. Have sex because you want to have sex. / Then enjoy it (if possible) and don't regret it. If you aren't feeling it, then don't do it. If he dumps you, so what? You weren't really into him.

[Asker]

I was really in to him thats the problem and i thought he felt the same.

[slatyb]

Relationships end. That's why we date, instead of just having babies with the first person who is willing. Are you sad because the relationship is over, or are you feeling cheated because you feel that you gave him sex but you didn't get what you wanted? How was the sex? Did you enjoy it? If you did, then be happy for that. If you didn't, then it's good that it's over.

[boxcarjoe]

Alittle lesson for women. Guys have these horrible things called hormones. They will make you do and think whatever they want. They can make you think you are in love with a girl. But the magic happens after sex. Litteraly during the guys orgasm all those hormones die down and his true feelings for a girl come out. It has happend to me before. Thought I was in love then less than a second after organs. Boom. I wanted to get as far away from her as possible. I'm sorry it happend to you but he might have had no control over it. He might have genuinely thought he wanted to be with you. Just keep looking.

[Unit1]

Hope you learned something. There are users and not-users.

[Valnac]

Some guys are trophy hunters, one and done, quantity not quality.
You can do better than that loser.

[fxllenone]

You need to be patient and panic less.

[Asker]

Patient and wait for him?

[fxllenone]

Yeah.