Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health I'm been on birth control for 17 years straight and take it regularly. This guy I've been dating for a month keeps pulling out, even after I asked him not to. Sex feels like it ends abruptly when he pulls out. Also, I like when my parter is into it and about to cum cause it usually turns me on and makes me go again with them.
So, I finally asked why he keeps pulling out. He says that is what he's used to and always done. The girls he's been with haven't all been on birth control. I asked, "well you don't want to try it just once to see what it's like? I think you're missing out on the best part." He responded with, "I'm used to pulling out. I think it would feel weird if I didn't." WTF
So, my main point is that sex feels so much better when you share in the other person getting off. I think it's a turn on and it gets me off. Sex just ends so abruptly and weird pulling out... I feel like I'm in high school.
I would respect and understand this better if he at least TRIED it then said, "Nah, I don't like it." But he won't even try it!!! I feel like he's focused so hard on not blowing his load too quickly then he's focusing on making sure he pulls out in time... that has gotta make sex way less enjoyable if you can't let loose? Right?
He's not very vocal during sex either. I'm the only one making any kind of sounds. I think he's focused so much on holding it in & trying to make me go first.
I want him to fully enjoy having sex and let loose and just nut all inside of me instead of it being so procedural.
How do I get him to TRY it ONCE? & how do I get him to let loose? Is ejaculating quickly that big of a fear? & why is he being weird about going inside of me?
I don't get it 🙈.
He won't cum in me? How do I get him to try it once?
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I tried riding him and he seemed nervous and asked to do it from behind. If I get on top again and refuse to switch positions he will probably throw me off of him! I just want him to let loose and enjoy sex. It's less enjoyable for me with him being so uptight!
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So I've given it some time and patience... I was even just going to accept the pull out. But, twice I've been on the verge of getting off like about to go and he pulls out !!! So he's sitting there jerking himself off and leaving me hanging. He asked if I went I was like almost... til you pulled out! We could've gone together. So I'm at a loss. He's rather jerk himself off than let us both get off. Wtf I just have a look of disappointment after & there is no round 2 :/
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What Girls & Guys Said
8 24Ride him take the matter in your own hands
Last time I did, he asked to switch and do it from behind. He's going to have to throw me off of him! Am I being disrespectful in not just accepting he doesn't want to do it? I just want him to try it. I think sex would be so much better. It sucks fucking someone who doesn't seem really into it & enjoying it.
No you do it
Let me
he may be cautious and wonder if you are saying you are on BC but you really aren't... like you are trying to trap him. Maybe in time he will earn your trust... you could discuss this comment with him and see if that's what he is afraid of. Also say, there could be sexual compatibility issues if he doesn't give you what you want.
He sees me take the pill daily. I'm giving him time to get more comfortable. It's been 2 months, but I've stayed at his place every night. I see how the trust needs to develop. I think he trusts me. I know he does, he just isn't budging on this. I was about to get off and he stopped to pull out... so frustrating! There's an easy solution. He could've kept going & we get off at the same time.
Then directly talk to him about this... say this is a sexual incompatibility issue.
If e doesn't want to then he doesn't want to.
This guy looks pussy. Find me. *** I mean find a guy 🙊🙈😂
Need another guy to blow a load in you?
If it was me in his lucky shoes I'd definitley cum up inside of you all the time I think it feels great and he should man up and at least do it once who knows he may like it after that ;)
Yeah I think you're going to have to ride him and tie him up and just don't stop! Sounds like lots of fun to me! Hehe :-)
Yes. I was thinking I should get on top. The last time I was on top, he asked to switch and do it from behind. I stood up and we did it from behind. Maybe I'll sit reverse next time... he'll probably ask to switch again.
If he doesn't do it this time, let me know I'll come take his place! Hehe :-)
Haha. Thanks for the offer. 😊I just feel like I shouldn't have to force this lol
Aww yeah I understand. I never get to do it with my girl, so that's why I offered. Hehe