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How do I get my boyfriend to be kinkier?

Boyfriend isn’t kinky at all, he’s so vanilla. I’m super open minded and would try anything. His idea of kinky is dirty talk, fucking outdoors and toys and lingerie. Most of the time we have the same sex , in bed , a few different positions and we come and that’s it.

So I’m super open. I like and would try with my boyfriend, threesomes, orgies, sex parties, I’ve even asked him to sext other girls and show me the convo cos it turns me on.

He has done this but I don’t think he enjoys it. I also have suggested that he meet a girl and do what he wants, and show me the videos after. I guess I’m a female cuck but it’s kinky. He said he is uncomfortable doing this which is disappointing.


I don’t know what to do at this point, how can I make my boring boyfriend more open and kinky
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  • Not sure about others, but my experience has been either you are open to kinky things or not... Reason being... a girlfriend I had at 20 something was similar to you, in that she would masturbate to a guy that we saw when we were out together and she would tell me she was going to go home and masturbate... At a semi wild party she took off her slacks and spent the remainder in pantyhose and bikini underpants.. I tole her that most of the guy there would have a hard on the whole night.

    We broke up when she wanted to marry... and she went on her own, in her company, (large manufacturing company)... and fucked two other men, and later called me and said they were vanilla', and neither of them would show her how they jacked off?

    I was stupid for not marrying her... but not just for those traits, because we know people change... even in their sexual preferences and practices. I wish she had been a female cuck... if there is such a thing... I'm just glad to hear that women like you are still around and do like different sexual practices

    I hope you find a guy that meets your needs... good luck

Most Helpful Guy

  • Your at my point

    Between my wife and me. I'm the kinky one.

    I had the sex parties (one time there was 30 people all having sex at once), orgies, threesomes in all combinations, gender reverse role plays, Master/slave roles, and so much more

    Over the decades I tried almost everything, but I drew the line with anything that involved shit and piss.

    Now my wife is just like your boyfriend. I have to damn near beg for her to wear a strap-on.

    Kinky is not in their DNA

Most Helpful Girl

  • I think the things you're describing are not the kind someone just suddenly gets into. If he finds it all uncomfortable, you just have different tastes and you have to decide if it's a dealbreaker for you because I find it unlikely he'll change his feelings about that stuff.

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  • I don't know that anything will resolve this for you. It sounds like a sexual mismatch and I'm not sure why you are together. If you want to try something different, suggest playing a game:

    https://www.girlsaskguys.com/ sexual-health/a54411-need- some-excitement-in-the- bedroom-are-you-willing-to- take-a

  • Slowly introduce some of that stuff u mentioned…my guess is he will get comfortable. Most guys like kinky

  • You both sound like you're on different pages. Not wrong, not bad, just different.

    He is kinky -- a guy who likes toys is kinky. Just not your level and that's okay.

    What you're asking is legit but it's a whole new level. He's not comfortable with it. Not sure for those specific things he should compromise or change. What you want isn't like asking to try sex in the kitchen or do 69.

    I think you need to assess whether the sex you want means more than this specific guy. Okay if it does. But in that case change to a new person rather than changing your guy.

  • I think this is a fundamental issue between the two of you. Sounds like be wants a monogamous relationship and you are open to a polygamous one.

    I personally prefer sex in a relationship as a guy then ONS because you can do wild things with your girlfriend if she is down to it. But this I think doesn't have that kind of ring to it.

  • Suggestion - Only do this if your toilet is clean. Wait until he has to pee and he stands in front of the toilet. Quickly walk in, say shh…. Then gently grasp his penis and help him pee in the toilet. Give his penis a shake or two, clean his penis with toilet paper if necessary. Flush the toilet, then push him down gently on the toilet seat. Start giving him a blowjob and possibly handjob combination. Then slowly pull away and kiss him, tell him to take off yours or his clothes, then push him back on the toilet and slowly face him and straddle his legs and let his penis slide into your vagina. Ride him on the toilet and if you want you can get off and ride him so your back is towards your face. He should ejaculate inside your vagina very easily and spread your legs, the semen will come out of you and ooze into the toilet bowl. 👍🙂

  • He just may be a bit more vanilla than you. Do you have a girlfriend that might want to join you two for sex? Do you ever get him to go for round 2 or 3? I would think the outdoor sex would be fun for him.


    Out of curiosity how often do you have sex with him? How old is he?

  • Well the certain thing he's does I consider kinky but your just kinkier than he is. Maybe try to compromise with him and say if you do this I will do this for you. He might not the idea involving other people into your secs lives because that seems that's what you want and he might be afraid that someone might be better sexual than him. anf you might keep having sex with that person.

  • need a girl like you, the girls I have been with are too vanilla and I am very much how you describe yourself

  • How to get your boyfriend to be more kinky?
    Mmmmm let's think about that.
    You can't, so dump his ass and come see me, I'll show you all kinds of twisted kinky. Lol

  • The hardest part about making someone kinky is managing your own expectations. It's certainly possible but for different reasons it could take time. In your case your boyfriend may feel inadequate and therefore he associates being kinky with something negative. It could also be that he's afraid involving others means he lose you or you start to want something in return for his freedom to cuck you.

    Communication is key. You have to be willing to talk things through, both what excites you and what you fear may be the consequences.

    What I've found works best is to mention some of your fantasies and then step back. Let him think about it on his own and they'll eventually feel like his own. Remember to encourage him when and if he starts taking the right steps instead of complaining that it still feels vanilla or that it's not progressing as fast as you want.

  • You don't

    • I’m bored sexually though in a relationship you should be fulfilled

    • Chances are if you're not matching well sexually, you're not matching well with other things, such as communication. Perhaps this isn't the relationship for you

  • It doesn’t sound like you’re sexually compatible

  • Ohhhh thats bad
    I wish my exwhere like u lol

    • E* were*

  • Maybe watch porn together and see if he will try some moves

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