How do I make it right after sleeping with my friends husband?

Question

She caught us and she won't talk to me anymore. I don't really know how to make it up to her or if it's even possible.

hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Well you are a homewrecker and you betrayed your friend in the worse way possible (short of trying to murder her or her kids) so no, no their is no making up for this. You fucked up, you were a shitty person and its made even more shitty because you betrayed her multiple times (you betrayed her in engaging with him in that manner, betrayed her when you kissed him, betrayed her when you got naked, and then betrayed her when you had sex. It was premeditated and you didn't care until you got caught and the consequences of your actions set it. which means you don't care about what you did to her, you only care about how it has affected you.). So no, their is no fixing this. Though to be fair I think this is a troll post.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

It's not. You destroyed your relationship permanently. It's over.

You need to understand that some betrayals are too big to be fixed, and that's one of them. And the price for such betrayals can be higher than you can imagine.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

I'm about 99% sure that it will never be possible to make this up to her. I'm not surprised that she's not talking to you. I can't even imagine how painful this must be for her. Also, it's not right for you to call her a friend. You didn't treat her as a friend.

This is a very very serious thing. It's much worse than sleeping with someone's boyfriend, though that would be bad too. I get the impression that you have a casual vibe about what happened, like you just did something small to hurt your friend's feelings. You don't seem to realize how much your actions can impact these people's lives.

yucychan · Accepted Answer

Whatever possess you to do such a thing behind your friend's back will always be a bewilderment to me. I feel as a human being, it is your responsibility to at least apologize to her sincerely.
But don't expect any forgiveness, because you don't deserve it.
You and her husband are scum. Sorry, I take that back. It should be "You and her husband are worse than scum."
You have lost a friend, you have lost any self-respect, and you don't deserve any pity or sympathy from us, I hope you understand that and reflect on your actions.

Zannika02 · Answer

U might not b able too. All u can do is put it all on the line, apologize ask if she can forgive u or go to couples therapy could help. If she wants to salvage she may b open but she may say fuk it too and not b able to trust u again.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Try baking her a chocolate cake. Or say, "I'm sorry and I really, really mean it!". Maybe if you get married or settle into a LTR, you could invite her to seduce your SO and fuck his brains out.

Not really. There is nothing that you can do to erase the harm to have done. Of course he is responsible for violations his views to her, but that doesn't relieve you of responsibility. You violated the trust of your friend and she will never again trust you.

Red_Arrow · Answer

You can't. You fucked up big time. That is not something that she can forgive or forget.

ushagomez · Answer

Sleep with her as well?

Tamera952 · Answer

You can't.

G3tAClue · Answer

There is nothing you can do but apologize and hopefully one day she will forgive you. But she also doesn’t owe you anything including forgiveness or your friendship back. Honestly, I’d my best friend did that, I’d kick her out of my life forever.

Amanda2 · Answer

You cannot

likelyOK · Answer

I don’t think u can u should tell her though

Hermes-Paris · Answer

It's beyond repair. Like when an airliner crashes into a mountain. Can it be fixed? Duh. I would suggest going somewhere far where you can start again. Like Bhutan or Botswana. Maybe change your name. Wear a wig. Stay away from men. That is a start.

Dragonstarterplus · Answer

Buy her flowers and chocolate. Women love flowers and chocolate

Mickey9999 · Answer

If i were your best friend there would be no apology nor any reason that would justify that betrayal. With that said, I’m not judging you, I’m just saying you have little hope... i don’t see her forgiving you and if she did, she’s either a saint or she’s planning some sort of revenge and wants to keep you close. If you already apologized, then leave it at that. If you haven’t, then you can try. But in that she hasn’t spoken to you, I’m thinking your chances are slim to none. Either way consider it a lesson learned

sensible27 · Answer

Is this a troll post? You 18 how does your friend have a husband... secondly maybe make it up... tally up. Or equal or let it up to her...

lanadelrey25 · Answer

I have no clue, that's a sick thing to do

dublin_sexyeyes0 · Answer

I findin these situations the friend loses out big time. Apologise to her and leave it alone. There is really nothing you can do. Its up to her.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

End the friendship and give her an apology

ElDiablo666 · Answer

Where to start here... Why did you shag your friends husband? Why did he shag you? Why hasn't she split up with him? What other reaction would you want after she caught you fucking her man?

AmeerX · Answer

Tell her she should share her husband as you have come to love him as she love him. Do a MFF to make her feel it is alright to be in love with same person