Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health How many of you guys believe that sex is an actual need?
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I’d argue that sex itself isn’t actually a need. You won’t die if you don’t have it like you would if you don’t eat. It’s actually more about needing what you get from sex such as connection, self esteem, security & autonomy. If these are t being met in other ways sex is one way of helping to achieve these. And if you’re unable to get these through sex too you’re likely to develop neurosis - which to be fair would explain many of the odd opinions you see here quite often.
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3 34For Sex is a need. People who say that tend to be miserable.
It’s not really a need, but a strong desire! 🤣👍
I think it's needed by many for Overall Health. So yes, I would consider it a need.
I disagree
You have clearly never had a proper orgasm before.
I’ve had plenty!!! Many good by myself too
Then what makes you think sex is unneccessary?
What makes you think it is? It literally isn’t going to kill you. It’s a desire that’s further up the list, not a need.
It is if you want a relationship to last for more then 2-3 years
Nobody is saying you shouldn’t have it! They’re just saying it’s not a need like food, it’s a desire. A homeless person just trying to survive the basics is hardly going to care much about sex. He’s going to care about getting scraps to eat and shelter to avoid hypothermia, the rest is secondary etc.
Not an actual need. It is just a deep desire.
Yeah I get it
Definitely a need. since my divorce. I'm living that priest life. But my head is not in a good space. It's like Christmas has been removed from the calendar
Have you tried getting the four aspects met elsewhere outside of sex? You might find that helps.
Sex is not the only thing I'm looking for obviously. But I like it being a need it's just one of the things humans were meant to enjoy.
I agree it’s a desire. I just don’t believe it’s a need and I think this stereotype creates toxic interactions.
True creates unreleastic expectations
It creates distance. If only people were able to be more honest about wanting the same things, neither would feel used.
Lies and deception it turns out very ugly hence cheaters etc
Yeah. Although I wasn’t even going that far. I just meant if two people aren’t getting their needs met in a relationship because they both can’t be honest about what they wants then distance will ensue and a toxic environment will occur. Ie. Men feel it’s not manly enough to admit that they actually get connection, security through sex, and women can’t admit that they get autonomy and self esteem from sex because of shame etc.
Then they each feel used by the other as they’re unable to fulfill each other’s needs properly.
OK I get u now and if u think about it it's nature and should be natural. It's like u said denial. Nothing better than two people just being and behaving the way nature intended
I agree, but also included is the element of connection as well as enjoyment. I couldn’t have sex with someone I couldn’t connect with on some level, just not going to happen. Often times those that prefer that generally have avoidance issues trough.
*though. That’s not saying you have to marry them. But you should have a certain level of connection between you both.
Yeah I agree there has to be some sort of emotional connection
I'm a guy and this will sound cheezy. Other guys might laugh. But there's something awesome about having sex with someone u like not love of admire or whatever. I fail to understand how some peopls settle for random sex. I did it once or twice and I felt shitty afterwards
I completely agree with you. And honestly, I don’t think you’re alone at all, I don’t think many guys will admit it here though since it takes real strength to not try and BS just to look good. Kudos to you.
The irony is guys look better being honest about this rather than talking BS. At least in women’s and mature men’s eyes anyway.
Lol not all woman trust me. It's amazing how the jerks always drawn to the sluts and vice versa
No sex for nearly 5 years... still breathing
Exactly
For humans, and certain animals, sex is NOT needed
But, for most animals, it is
Just a need to orgasm
It’s a desire and it would help with my emotional being
So true
Nice to see at least one balanced person here 😊
I wonder if anyone had said this before.
I’m a prisoner of war. If you deny me sex, you are denying my human rights.
I doubt prisoners of war even had basic needs met.
I know I get stressed out if I don’t masturbate
Yes it helps reduce stress, but it’s not the only way. Women find talking really helps with this too and my guy friends will go and have fun playing extreme sports with their friends or whatever.
Sounds like fun