If a drunk guy made out with me, does he actually find me attractive?

[Anonymous]

We spent over two hours touching and kissing each other. He wanted sex later on but it didn't happen, he was quite horny and said to me that "I'm usable" (what a compliment I know), then told me he "does more than like me" — what is this supposed to mean? He was in awe of my figure too. Later on, he said he finds me sympathetic.

Why am I asking this silly question? It's because he was significantly drunk.

So does he or does he not find me physically attractive? I know being drunk affects a lot of things, lowers your inhibitions but still, I personally wouldn't go after someone I don't find cute even when wasted.

I know that his previous gfs were my opposite, dark, brunette. I am fair, blond so I guess he either wanted something new for a change?

[Finchie40]

Well his comment about you being usable should of been your answer not to continue making out with him period , That right there showed his true colors , I don’t care how drunk someone is , saying shit like that , is a huge red flag that you shouldn’t ignore period. He clearly was just trying to use you for sex and probably nothing more. So no he doest’t really find you attractive , he finds you average , just enough for him to be able to stick his dick inside of you , his intentions was to just use you to get off on if you ended up having sex with him , he more than likely wouldn’t call you back to see you again , unless he gets drunk again and decides he wants to get laid again. You were just a convenience to him , be grateful you didn’t sleep with him

[Asker]

I remember that he said it sometime later during our time spent together. I called him out on it, he then started saying how he more than likes me and such. That hurts to read but it's possible it's true (that he finds me unattractive), but at the same time I am often told I am attractive and before all this I have had a good healthy self-esteem. I know people are different but usually people act upon stuff they wouldn't normally do when sober. I gotta believe in myself ya know... I've learned that he's in a relationship with his girlfriend whom he chose to stay with, he said he doesn't know what future holds and blabla but right now doesn't wish to jeopardize what he's got (laughable when you think about it, fck him). I dunno how big of a cheater he is, fact is I don't know him that well, you don't really know a person 100 % perfect. I just hope I'll find a decent man soon enough to get past this you know. Just don't know where to look for.

[Asker]

I guess I need to stop looking and focus on the good stuff. If only I've had some good girl-friends. What I hope for is that karma gets to him sooner or later. It usually does. And maybe he'll realize it one day what he lost and could have had but was too scared to leave his boring relationship. I don't believe a truly happy man (or a woman) who actually LOVES his partner would cheat.

[Finchie40]

Well if he is cheating on his girlfriend with you , then he is the piece of shit period , , don’t listen to anything he says because he is a selfish POS. Karma will eventually smack him in the face and all you have to do? Is just sit back and laugh

[Asker]

Thank you for responding back. I hope you're right about the karma, it usually does its thing one way or another. For some reason he does text me from time to time, just after the last training he texted me "you do know how to scratch well" - I was like wtf? Why does he text me this double meaning shit if he doesn't want me? I can't be friendly and fake stuff, I am willing to say hi to him but that's all. Dunno if he's just this dumb, trying to be friends or trying to keep me close for whatever in the future.

[Finchie40]

Yea it sounds like he might be trying to keep you on the back burner , just block his ass

[boggboss]

He was drunk and horny nobody can give u a objective view on how he sees u drunk horny guys tend to want to fuck any girl giving him attention

[Asker]

Even an ugly one, if she's chubby and all that? I wasn't really focusing on him, we talked during the evening but still, I just wanted to go home lol

[boggboss]

Yes have u never heard the term beer goggles some guys will fuck anything with a hole if drunk and horny it's a terrble way to determine actual attraction

[Asker]

Damn, now I feel like an ugly ducling.

[Asker]

Are drunk guys usually honest about simple things though? Like, he asked me what kind of guys I like, I told him and asked him about 2 girls from our gym group and he said about one that she's just not his type but he knows she likes him and regarding the other one he said "she's got kids" but if he wanted just sex and he does know this girl with kids better than me, shouldn't he gone for her instead of me? It is easier and less risky to sleep with someone taken rather than a single girl (like me) who could get interested in him later on.

[boggboss]

Why wpuld u feel ugly when u have no clue how he sees u

[boggboss]

Just talk with him when he is sober to get a understanding

[Asker]

I guess it's because I have a certain "type" and he is that 100 % and this thing not working out well for me just really made me lose all my self-esteem... I feel not good enough for anyone I truly want. I'm scared I'll never feel reciprocated love. Well, we mostly chatted about the whole thing and then talked on phone, he said he doesn't wanna ruin what he's got with his girlfriend and that we should take what happened between us lightly, kind of like sportsmen. Knowing this, I guess there's no chance, I'm not sure if I'd even want to be with him now but I am just so sad and hurt. I really thought he liked me and that he was different. He's just weird to me now. I hope karma gets him.

[DaisyM23]

i chose the 2nd option, not because you're unattractive i have no idea what you look like and just because he usually gets with brunettes doesn't mean he's any less attracted to you BUT what i find weird is the usable comment, wtf did he mean by that? and the sympathetic thing, that's a weird way to call someone nice lol

[Asker]

The symphatetic means slightly something different in my language. I didn't know the exact English word. By usable I believe he just really started to get horny and wanted some. My sis said to not think of myself as of some ugly "but still good enough to fck" duckling. Everybody is different, but we all doubt he'd go for a girl he ain't attracted to at all. I asked him about those 2 other girls and he could have simply said they're cute or something, he didn't, he grimaced. I just can't let him ruin my self-esteem. It's not like he's the only dude in the world, right? I am younger, cute at the very least, I got feminine short figure and long ass hair. His girlfriend is my absolute opposite.

[Daniela1982]

If he is drunk a dog would be attractive to him. 😯

[DrPepper12]

If he said it drunk then it's honest. Why not get together with him sober? Simple coffee or go for a walk

[Asker]

It's complicated. He decided to stay with his girlfriend, she's probably his first girlfriend and they have been together for a LONG time, like 10 years. Not sure if he is a real utter sh! t-cheater but he ain't no way innocent and even if he's bored or unhappy or anything, he probably won't leave her. He's that type I believe.

[DrPepper12]

Adios fuckboy! Like Ariana said, thank u next

[Badgirlnatalia]

Seems like he finds you attractive

[MasterKS]

Its a game of drinks!

[AnAmazingGuy]

The alcohol must be attractive and you were drunk without having alcohol

[Asker]

I'm confused by how you worded it out.

[AnAmazingGuy]

I mean he is drunk so he has lost all his sense, but you have lost it, without having alcohol and that's why you think that he find you attractive,