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How should I tell him of how I feel about sex?

My fiance and I have sex often but not as often as I would like. I would love if he could be spontaneous once in a while. For example, he would fuck me on the couch or while I do the dishes, he comes over and fucks me from behind. I don't know how to tell him how I feel because he is egotistical (which he admits to) and he CAN'T take any constructive feedback. I've though about an extramarital affair because it would be less drama than confronting me (he throws fits, rolls his eyes, and storms out of the room) but I don't really want to cheat on him.
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  • Damn that sucks. You mentioned that he can’t take constructive feedback when it comes to this issue. That’s not good. I know plenty have mentioned sitting him down and having a talk with him and I’m going to agree with them. Communication is a huge part of a relationship and if the two of you are planning to get married and can’t communicate now (especially over your relationship needs) imagine what it’s going to be like 5, 10 or 15 years down the road. You’re looking at a being married to a man that will certainly sweep your concerns under the rug and pretend like everything’s ok. That’s no way to live. And if you’re already contemplating an extramarital affair (even if it is just for sex and fulfilling that need you aren’t getting at home) it’s bound to happen even if it’s by accident. What I mean is your man isn’t providing and there’s always someone willing to do what he won’t.
    The two of you aren’t married just yet but you should really talk to him and maybe re-evaluate the relationship. I’d say spontaneously get some D from the guy but it sounds like he’d probably not be turned on by a drive by random fucking. On the other hand if you do it enough and tell him you want some spontaneity he might get the hint and start sneaking up on you when you’re doing the dishes like you want.
    But talk it out first. Then make your decision. Don’t go looking for it outside the relationship because that will just ruin things in the long run.

  • He's still just your fiance and most likely things will only get worse after marriage. Think about it you can still get out of this relationship before you're locked into a more difficult situation.

    I really don't understand why he isn't already doing all those things you desire as you're a beautiful and sexy woman. I know if I were him I'd sure be doing everything I could to pleasure you and satisfy the both of us.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Just pull him aside in a non-sexual circumstance and tell him you'd like to talk (so he knows it's serious). Then just say pretty matter of factly what you told us above. That you'd like more sex, as well as a bit more spontaneity when you do have it.

    Don't let your fear of him getting pissed stop you. I mean, he is what he is. You're not married just yet and if his ego is so bad that it'll stop you from being able to express yourself now, let this be something that helps you imagine what life will be like with him 10-15 years down the line.
    Are you sure you want to marry someone who you're already unhappy with?

  • Are you sure you should marry this guy? If you can't even talk to him about this, what will it be like when you encounter other issues and problems? Do you want to spend your while life with someone who won't listen seriously to anything you babe to say?

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  • I'm just wondering if he is just young and hasn't really got to the point in life where he really enjoys sex. Dang if I had a girlfriend and she suggested the things you mentioned, I'd be all for it! LOL...

  • HUH? so what are you asking exactly?

  • If you can't even communicate with him how do you think this relationship will work 😑

  • You're engaged to be married and thinking about an extramarital affair. Wow. . .

  • Just tell him

  • Communicate that to him. I don't know how many times I have to say communication is the most important thing in a relationship before people get it.

    And rather then cheat on him if it gets that bad then just leave him, irregardless of what he's done the dude doesn't deserve to get cheated on no one does.

  • Just tell him you desire more than one cock if he can't fuck you frequently

  • What about you say honestly that youd love it if he would just surprise fuck her while she is doing daily stuff

    Most guys would jump at the opportunity of being given a "fuck me whenever you want" pass

  • Break up with him if you want to fufill your selfish desires.

    Why are you still waning to get marries to him to just be a cheating dishonest betrayer. It shows the quality of our ethics which is low and it illuminates our true intentions that ou are probably using him for something.

    Be honest with him, if it is a deal breaker, leave him to be with someone else or you can lie to youraelf and others about your awlfish desires of affairs.

    Find your spine and open up to him.

    • I've never cheated nor do I want to. What's your point? I want to push you off a bridge but I won't. I want to shoot trump but I won't. I want to cheat but I won't. What's your point?

    • The point is you actually put some thought behind desiring an affair, thinking it would be less drama with NSA. Considering it an option because he's not having sex with you as often as you like. You are engaged and not married yet, be open with him and tell him what you really want. If you don't you will go on living this way, being deprived from the stuff you want and never cheating on him or you'll end up being an adulturer. It is less complicated beofre being leagally married, so just open up. There is no shortage of men out there who will givebyou what you want. I come across as very blunt and I'm unapologetic Also Trump has done a lot , and was the better pick of the two running for potus. HRC will be testifying in court for treason, corruption ane crimes against children.

  • He sounds immature to me. Why did you marry him?

  • Show by example, climb on top of him, start making out and tell him it's fine for him to do the same

  • You need to learn how to communicate more openly with him. If you can't, it's best to dissolve this now

  • You just open a coservation about anything related to sex and tell him what you want by the way.

  • Don't bother just dump him an find someone more compatible would be my advice. Because deep down you know you're worth it

  • If he can't take constructive feedback... you will be stuck forever.

  • Tell him you need more sex and if he doesn't hook you up you will find someone else who will.

  • You should ask him to surprise fuck you

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