How to Turn down sex with a partner when ur not in the mood?

Question

there have been times where i just wasn't in the mood (i was upset or just didn't want to) but my boyfriend wanted me to give oral, i dont say anything, i just do it And get it over with.. I feel like i can't say no, not because hell force me or anything, but just cause i have a hard time saying no to people, I'm a people pleaser. But anyway.. Is there a nice way to turn them down?

Tstrbrainer · Accepted Answer

Just tell him: "sorry, I'm not in the mood tonight" or "I'm tired tonight"

hamadazopry · Accepted Answer

Just say no.. I'm not into it now you have the right to say no

AustinMan · Answer

Is this a frequent occurrence? The frequency and length of your disinterest is important in how to handle it.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

yes, be honest and tell him you are not in the Mood.

If he is the right man for you, a gentleman, and respects you, he will accept it.

If he pushes and pleads, and threatens things like his ex would have done it, then you are with the wrong man.

NOW, my husband has learned if I am not in the Mood, there are ways to get me in the Mood, but it requires work and romance on his part... and sometimes, i give in coz of the Puppy Dog eyes... I have only faked 3 orgasms in my life.. all with him..

Agape93 · Answer

Just apologize and tell them not tonight, maybe the next night

chriscdi · Answer

the nicest way to say no is "im not in the mood right now"

Wise4myage · Answer

You just need to learn how to say no and mean it without coming across in a rude manner.

CharlieDMX · Answer

There's no polite way or nice way to do it. If you are not in the mood you should just be honest and say it. If he still tries to force it then you should get away.

scooogy · Answer

I'd tease her more and more until she would masturbate and get off by herself.

Smirnoff23 · Answer

Explain to him your not in the mood

bradbradley · Answer

yea just ask if he is ok doing it later let him know your not in the mood if he cares about you he will understand

anewme · Answer

Funny stories. lollllllll 2 times maybe more but these 2 ... one time chick was already prego like 3 months she said she can't get prego twice so go ahead raw dog up in there she was so vanessa williams like but her mom left to store her sister was still there another room... so we went to bed and this would been my first time cuz i was 15 then she was naked as i was dressed.. i got in bed with her.. then all of a sudden i just dipped... and told her good luck... i just didn't want to lose mine like that and feel weird first time... another time girl 18 from mall need a ride home she worked at guess... she said she would do me if i gave her a ride... I was like uhmmm are a cop or something... then i was like ok... we got to her house... she explained her boyfriend across st she told she wasn't a virgin but she really was... she wanted me to take it... maybe she totally lied to me who knows anyways we got butt naked then i just dipped i got creeped out i left her with her legs wide open i thought you know what i dont wanna catch nothing u know lollll