Husband can’t have sex at night?

Is it normal that my husband doesn’t have energy to have sex after 20h? Doesn’t matter what day it is. It is annoying me very much. Also he is ok with having sex once every two weeks! If I try to iniciate he doesn’t get hard. I don’t know what to do. We don’t have kids.

Maybe he has low testosterone?

Have you guys experienced something similar? Thank you

Updates:
2 mo
He stays up until 00h, 01h watching golf or doing anything else, out drinking, playing… looks like he is not tired for anything else
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  • Let's assume he's not having affairs, and avoided masturbation.

    Then I have the "use it or lose it" theory.

    Yes, sex is like doing rigorous exercise. The more you engage in it, the more you want it.

    Assume you two WANT to improve your sex life. (Cannot be one-sided) try these steps:

    1. Communicate honestly. No secret masturbation. No porn. But share sexual thoughts each day. From morning till night. Talk, chat, email, be positive, be jovious, be naughty.

    2. Keep the mentality of "have mutual orgasm daily, no excuse", for 3 months. Extend if successful.

    Best case: Orgasm from PIV

    Worse case: Orgasm from mutual stimulation or oral.

    3. Live a naked lifestyle whenever have privacy. Pheromones help increase libido.

    Cook and eat more aphrodisiacs.

    Use scent that stimulates your sexual desires.

    4. Try meditation, together, for 30 minutes a day. Nothing religious. Just sit, relax and listens to soft music. Free from the "noise" of society. Think sex. After that start the daily orgasm session.

    5. Start wearing butt plug as a lifestyle. Especially for him. Prostate stimulation raises libido. And you wearing a tail-butt plug may look sexy and stimulates him further.

    Good luck and have a lot of fun. Start with "an orgasm a day to keep the libido alive". His erection should return after a month or two.

    • That’s great. Thank you very much!

    • Hope it works for you. At 27 I had sex like rabbits. And it was the most memorable part of my life.

    • Yeah, I am at that moment of my life. He is 36, but still young. Sometimes he says that my bad humor turns him down, but I just think that is bullshit 🤷‍♀️

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  • I would be tired too if working a lot hours, try initiating it during the afternoon when he isn’t working but he should still want it 3 times a week especially at your ages. Either it’s low testosterone or he isn’t as interested anymore with you

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  • Does he look at porn?

    Or is he on antidepressants?

    If he isn't seeking fulfillment of his desires somewhere else then he may have lowT.

    Antidepressants can wreck a libido.

  • What about in the mornings? Is he ok to then?

    • We have never tried, but last time is what he suggested. When the time came, he said he would have breakfast and take a shower first, and guess what… it didn’t happen

    • Maybe you should ask him if he has something he wants tell you. And when he says, what do you mean? You should look into his eyes and see if he looks away. I am willing to bet on one of two things, but I don't want to say just yet in case I'm wrong.. Try it and let me know what happens!

    • Thank you for answering! I can think about two things too, but I would appreciate if you could share your opinion with me, so I can be aware u know? I am really trying to understand and trying to fix whatever can be. I am kinda lost. But I would say he either has low testosterone or might be “addicted” to porn? I don't know. That is my guess. He said he was open to go to the doctor and get some pills if needed.

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  • Is something fucking up his sexual energy, such as porn or excessive masturbation?

    How's the relationship in general.

  • Drinking is his issue. Alcohol contains a high amount of estrogen.

  • Could be: Medications. Mental health. Low testosterone. Don't know his age but that could be a factor. Performance anxiety if you are trying for kids. I hate to say it but guilty conscience over cheating also possible.

    • You got it right. He has perfomance anxiety, but not bc we are trying to have kids. But he had some issues in the past. It is so hard to deal with it

    • I would say then admire and compliment him in the AM when his soldier is saluting you and surprise him with morning BJ's. Hell likely wanna return the favor that nite.

  • He probably works his ass off during the day.

  • He might have a medical issue he is hiding. Certain meds also can change sex drive.

  • Come on...

    • Seriously… what do you think about that?

  • You poor thing! At your age I was fucking three times a day. I hope you have a lot of wild toys.

  • He probably lost a bit of interest in you?

  • WTF is wrong with him