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I can only orgasm from oral sex or him rubbing my clit?

Is this normal, I feel very self-conscious about it...
thanks
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  • You sound like my wife... my penis is short, below average I'm sure, and currently having problems staying hard due to age and surgeries in that area.
    I don't think I have ever been able to bring my wife up to her orgasmic level during vaginal sex.
    But working with my fingers and sliding my face down between her legs up into her pussy and a lot of delicate licking and sucking and fast tongue flicking against her clit I can always bring her up to that HIGH. Then suddenly she grabs the sheets and locks her legs around my head and forces my face deeper into her pussy. It feels like an earthquake as she shakes and bucks her hips, then a sudden gush of her warm cum juices flood my face and throat. Then laying there still slowly licking and sucking her pussy as she slowly comes down off her high.
    I can only hope it feels as great or better than I "Use To Feel" when I'd blow my load into her pussy (which I can't do anymore).

Most Helpful Guy

  • Very normal. It just means your lady bits sit a bit higher up and don’t get the friction from penetration that would help with an orgasm. There are certain positions and angles your partner can use that would help (might have to Google them). If you don’t want to do that have him, or you, rub your clit while he is thrusting and that can get you there as well.

    • Thanks I agree with you but prefer him to rub if possible

    • Cool. Try him sitting and reverse cowgirl and you should be in an adequate position for him to easily reach around and rub you to orgasm.

    • Good idesy

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Most Helpful Girls

  • Oh Honey, Yes! This is totally normal. I was concerned with why I couldn't orgasm until I gave myself time to myself. I can't orgasm through sex or oral. I can definitely orgasm through rubbing. Girls take time. We're all different. (:

  • It's totally normal. I can only cum from being fucked and rubbing my clit too.

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  • Very normal. If you look up the statistics, they say that anywhere from 50-80% of women struggle to orgasm from only penetration. Most need additional stimulation to get there: oral, fingers or a toy to do so. My wife can only really when she has already gotten off once already before penetration. So you are fine and have nothing to be self conscious about.

  • That is normal. And lots of us love giving oral, so that is the kind of guy you need to find.

  • Oh I think that’s quite normal for a lot of people. We’re all different. Just make sure your partner knows how best to give you your pleasure.

  • Not many women I've been with have orgasmed from penetrarion alone my ex-wife never had an orgasm till she met me and I was willing to do more than climb ontop and hump away.

    She is super vanilla and never touched herself in a sexual way and assumed the man is fully responsible for her pleasure. Makes me wonder how many women have never experienced orgasm due to being unwilling to fiddle!

  • It's normal. Many women, probably most, do not orgasm from penis penetration alone. They need other stimulation on their clit.

  • Yes normal

  • Many women have found that they need clitoral stimulation in order to orgasm too. Don’t worry about it!

  • Was like that for me too with my first boyfriend. Second one made me orgasm by penetration - - - He's dick was a lot bigger.

  • Unfortunately, it is as normal as rain. Fewer that 25% of women ever come from intercourse. Skilled fingering and oral? More like 80%

  • I think it's pretty normal. I heard that women much easier have orgasm from oral and clit rubbing, than from standard sex.

  • Everyone is different. Don't feel self conscious. If you want to try having an orgasm during intercourse try rubbing yourself at the same time. It can be a very sexy thing for the guy to watch in cowgirl position. If you want to be more subtle, try it during doggy style and they guy may not even realize you're doing it.

    • I can’t do it in doggy style because I was raped in that position and I don’t like it I feel weird about touching myself during sex anyways because when I did it before my ex would move my hand Is it a turn of to touch my clit during sex

    • I never find it a turn off when a woman touches her clit during sex. Hopefully you can forget about what your ex moving your hand and that your S/O does not care.

    • I don’t have an so I was also raped by this ex and am paranoid and don’t want to have sex

  • I'm sure you're not the only one

  • Totally normal, I can only get off from clitoral as well

    • Honestly, absolutely nothing unless it's long enough to hit my cervix

    • I've got no sensation there, never have. It is something I've been self conscious about ever since I discovered it

  • i mean not every girl is like that but i consider that in the range of normal. nothing to be ashamed of. if it works for you, then why the fuck care? all that matters, is that you got your shit figured out. some girls don't even know how to cum. that sucks, i tell you.

  • Vary normal and sexy. 💞

    • What is sexy about it?

    • When the boyfriend rubs the clit and he looks up at his girlfriend's eyes and she getting into her pussie clit being sexually rubbed. 💞 Back when I was dating I always rub their clit for them for that sexy feel-good sensation to be that's sexy. 💞

  • That's fine, and I see no reason why you have to feel self conscious about this.

  • Totally normal

  • It's the easiest way to get one..

  • My wife's the same and I'm delighted. I could spend all day down there.

  • Not every girl can cum from penetration

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