It is selfish that you want to receive but want to give or at least but. If you have that need and you want it to be satisfied then you should understand that he has needs that he wants to be fulfilled as well. I know a girl who never gave head until she was 30 she thought it was disgusting and never tried it not she does it to her current boyfriend but she always expected it to be given. There are guys that find giving oral to a woman is disgusting or don't like the taste but they still do it to please her. I am not saying to do something that you don't want to do but it is selfish. I am sure there are somethings that everyone does in a relationship to please their partner not just sexually that is how relationships work. I used to dislike it as well but as I got older I realized how much pleasure it gives and then it started to get me off as well.
It might be a little selfish... but at least you were honest with him first. I've heard of guys who do the same to their gfs, and they weren't upfront about anything :p Anyway, if you really feel like it's unfair, you could ask him if there's anything else you could do that he really likes for sexual stuff... like fetishes, or if he'd be more comfortable doing certain positions instead of other ones... it's just a sex act, so even if you don't do the same exact thing for him, that doesn't mean he can't get pleasure from you in other ways. You should talk to him if he's really okay with it or not, and you could even tell him to only go down on you when he feels like it and not when you demand it.
I'm shocked so many guys answered lol. Anyway, I saw some of your replies to them, and you're actually having sex with him, and I thought this question was like a pre relationship kind of thing. In that case, he is getting pleasure from other stuff, so I don't see why it's not fair for the both of you. You're getting pleasure and so is he, just with different sex acts.
I think it's a desire that has to come naturally to you, if you don't feel like doing it is fully understandable. Although it's always beautiful when you can please that other person one claims to "love". I personally don't like the idea of blow jobs, but sometimes I get this weird instinct with the one person I like and just start thinking "huh, I would like to give him a bj".. I suppose it's only happens when you just desire the one person you really really like and you wish to see him happy and please.
You were straight up which is good. But I would still think he would want you to try. I believe it's pretty selfish to 'need' him to do it but not even entertain the thought of it. You never know, maybe he isn't the biggest fan of oral sex on you and his doing it just to please you?
What's the harm in trying? You may like it or realise it's actually not that bad
It sounds nasty to me. I can't get past that.
Why don't you do it straight after he has a shower? Then he is absolutely clean... it honestly is not bad at all... it's actually really really fun
Fun for him or you?
You told him at the beginning and he insists on doing it for you. I don't know. It doesn't matter you are selfish. It does seem working for you, both. Good luck.
This is what I think, if he is going down on you because you NEED him to do so then if he ever asks for it you should suck it up and be a good girlfriend - pun intended! If he is being a good boyfriend in other aspects of the relationship and does want that from time to time I think you should reward him every now and then... Wash it for him if you think it's a cleanliness issue. I do find that women tend to lack creativity which can make for boring sex later on... Unless he said he doesn't want you to do it then that's a different story, if not I'm sure he'd appreciate it now and then!
I don't think so at all. He can come with sex, you can come with oral. It's completely balanced. He's the selfish one if it bothers him that you won't blow him.
I told him from the beginning that I didn't give oral. He says it's fine. I orgasm from receiving oral and he orgasms from me giving him anal and vaginal. Plus he gets to cum wherever he wants. Maybe I will give him a bj, because I do love him. I love looking at his face as he cums. I love to please him. But giving oral always disgusted me though. And I do feel a little guilty that he's willing to put his mouth on my genitals but I don't. I dont know. Maybe I will. I'm thinking about it.
I'm telling you I think it's fine. I do think there's a certain double standard there because you think putting your mouth on genitals is disgusting but you'll let your boyfriend do it. Maybe it would serve you well to try and shift your perspective on it, so that at the very least there's no hypocrisy there. Although even if you do realize that it isn't gross, I think it'd be completely ok if you still didn't enjoy it.
If we break up then hell tell everyone I sucked him and everyone will call me a slut. I dont want to be called a slut.
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!A little bit... though I think he wouldn't mind if he's into it and cares about you.
For sex to really feel special it's all about reciprocity... that's when you really feel an amazing synergistic bond
maybe you can reciprocate with another type of stimulation or something?
it is selfish and absurd. you cannot expect a man eat you while you consider him being 'disgusting'. that is not only selfishness but is disrespect. generally a woman's vagina is more likely to smell and be 'disgusting' than a man's penis, how would you feel if you called yours smelly and disgusting? while that could be even true about your vagina but isn't true about penises. that penis is the thing going inside you and gives you the pleasure, even if you do not enjoy it, that I never understood why a woman should not like and enjoy blow jobs, you have to respect and give him a blow job because of the fact he is doing the same with you.
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Well you told him from the start that you don't give head. But he keeps eating you out. No its not selfish. Its his choice to do it. But you expecting him to eat you out, it is selfish of you. Don't expect the same action from others, if you don't give the actions back yourself.
You have have high expectation of others in how they should treat you, but you don't have high expectations of yourself how you should treat other people, now that is selfish.
You bet your ass you are. I'd not only not go down on you, I'd make kissing noises an inch away. Then I'd give you a bare bottom spanking for being such a selfish brat.
But I told him from the beginning.
That's super selfish. That's a really crappy double standard.
If I give him oral and we break up, everyone will call me a slut. It's a double standard that if I say he gave me oral no one would care but if he says I gave him, everyone will call me a slut.
Giving a guy head doesn't make you a slut.
To everyone it does. I don't have casual sex. But I've had failed relationships in the past. He's my 3rd partner. I'm 24. I just don't want people to think a slut. I already had too many partners. Now if they hear I decide to give oral, that's worse.
well if you were straight up and told him you don't do it in the beginning and he still accepts it and gives you head then your not wrong
If a girl told me she doesn't give head, I just wouldn't eat her out that's all. That's all. If she wants it bad enough she'll have to be 50/50 about it with me. Gotta earn your fair share!
He likes to eat me. I told him no but he insisted. Ever since then i am hooked on that wonderful tongue of his
Yes you're selfish. If it repulsed you that much you wouldn't want him to do it to you either.
Now if he's okay with giving you oral but not receiving head then that's fine but regardless it's still selfish.
It's suppose to give your partner pleasure "ergo" a two way street.
I like repaying them for their lovely efforts!
its incredibly selfish, you can't really expect to get more then what you put in yourself. If you dont wanna give him head, fine then he should respect it and not demand it and neither should you.
Depends if that's your one hangup, or the first of a laundry list of them.
Yes, I think it's selfish. I even believe you'd have the easier end of the deal if you were doing it.
If I was in his shoes, I'd be telling you that I suddenly found it disgusting to eat you.
Yes, very selfish...
compromise... do 69 with him diving the muff and you just licking his willie.
well, i think it's unfair to demand something that you yourself do not give. but if he doesn't mind, then i guess that's all that matters.
I'd be okay with this.
I love cunnilingus.
I give as good as I get.
I find it a bit strange that you won'tput YOUR mouth on genitals, but insist that someone else can do you.
You say it is disgusting, but you want a guy to suck yours.
That's not a two way street.
You don't have to suck to completion, every time.
Or you could suck him if you are on your monthly, and don't want to fuck.
You ARE being selfish about insisting on penetration for YOUR satisfaction.
You have to mix it up.
Let him eat you, you suck him, he fucks you, you cum.
I read the responses, and I think you can suck, if you readjust the thinking a tiny bit.
It's just like sucking a thumb. No big deal.
But whats the point? I've tried to initiate back to back sex. And he cant. He says once he cums that's it. And he loves anal. So I'm not gonna suck it after he penetrates my butt. That's really gross.
You can suck prior to penetration, you do not have to finish him, but it would be nice on occasion. He should be able to rebound in 10 or 15 minutes. Half hour if he really pounded you.
He says once he cums its done.
I would dump you lol
everyone has their boundaries and their needs. There are guys who like eating pussy but don't like having their dick sucked. it's unusual, but it happens. Personally, I require that my girls like anal sex.
I'm one of those guys.
I don't like the idea of my penis being inside someone's poopshoot. Thanks but no thanks.
It depends. If you oblige him to eat you then it would be selfish. Some people don't like that, and I respect it, but don't get mad if I don't to eat you out every time we do it.
Anyways, you told him, so he knew where he was getting in to, and he still accepted, so I don't think your guy gives it too much importance to that. Guys enjoy to eat out a girl (or at least I do), so it's not like he's doing something he doesn't like.
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