I had sex with my fiance's friend now I'm pregnant?

Question

I found out last week that I'm 7 weeks pregnant. About 2 months ago, my fiance and I got into a huge fight and left. His friend came over (who is my friend too, but my fiance's best friend) to comfort me. We tried to stop ourselves but one thing led to another and we had sex twice. Once when he came over and once in the morning when we realized he fell asleep but my fiance was still gone. When he came home, we had make up sex. We also have a pretty frequent sex life so I have no idea whose baby this is. I told the friend, he told me he wants a DNA test and that if it's his baby he wants to be in its life. I told my fiance and he is really excited, as he has no idea his friend could be the father. The good news is they both look alike, tan skin, brown eyes, black hair, native American. They have similar features too so if the baby comes out looking like the friend I doubt my fiance would question it. But there's a big chance this is my fiance's baby too so should I scare him unnecessarily if it could be his by telling him?
Oh yeah, my fiance pulls out 90% of the time, his friend came in me both times.

yucychan · Accepted Answer

For all the ladies out there, please do not ever get yourselves in a situation where you have to question who the father of your baby is. The more I try to understand your situation, the more depressing it is.

Firstly, you don't seem to grasp the seriousness of what you and your fiance's friend had done. You cheated on your fiance. His friend betrayed his trust by sleeping with you. The worst of all, you don't seem to be sorry or feel any remorse for what you have done. I feel sad that you still have this happy-go-lucky attitude; you feel glad that your fiance and his friend looked similar, so your poor fiance wouldn't suspect the baby might not be his, wouldn't suspect that you cheated on him.
Secondly, the DNA test is a must. The child has a right to know who his/her real father is. And the father has a right to know if the child is really his. But knowing who the child's real father is isn't solving the problem. So what if the DNA test really verifies that the baby is your fiance's, it still doesn't discount the fact that you cheated on him.
And judging by your unremorseful attitude about the whole situation, are you telling me every time you'd quarrelled with your fiance in the future and he storms out, you are going to fuck his best friend?
I would advise you to come clean and admit your mistakes. Handle this situation like an adult, instead of having to lie and cover up your whole life. Please show some respect to your current relationship, respect your upcoming marriage, show respect to your fiance and the baby, and also have some respect for yourself.

yasii · Accepted Answer

If your fiance pulled out and the other guy didn't it's more likely that it's his friends baby. You should tell him regardless. Making someone you cheated on marry you or making someone believe he is a father when he really isn't is a whole new level of evil

Love2Jackit · Accepted Answer

I would say tell him now. Reason being how he is going 2 feel later on. When u have the baby and his so called best friend. Wants u 2 get the baby tested 2 see if it's his. That's when things are not going 2 get good. But they may go bad real fast. The trick 2 all this is how much does he love u. If he loves u then he will forgive. Now as for the part about for getting. That will probably be hole another story. Basically put ur self in the situation. Let's say he had sex with another girl and knocked her up. He didn't tell u. then after the 2 of u were married. From out of nowhere this girl comes up 2 u and him. Then says i had ur baby. Hows that going 2 make u feel about him. The longer u wait the worse it will be.

zozo7880 · Accepted Answer

Beyond all the badmouthing you should receive, you should probably find out if it is your friends before you tell anyone. You will already be living a lie the rest of your life if you end up with this guy so I guess that is on you. If it is your friends though, hopefully your fiance will be able to move on with his life and find a better person than you.

btbc92 · Answer

You better tell your fiance and stop using him because you wanted to sleep around. Get that DNA test done. He's going to leave you, but that child needs a father and you should have thought about sex before marriage. That is your fault. Now you deal with it. This is obviously his friend's baby.

Logorithim · Answer

Well, you have quite a conundrum here. I think your fiancée will leave you even if the kid is his, so I would advise you not to say anything to him and quietly get a paternity test for your friend.

englisc · Answer

You need to tell him. It sounds to me like you're planning not to, because you say they look the same so even if it is the friend's baby you might get away with it. That's terrible. It sounds like you don't even have any guilt over this. How could you do that with no guilt? You're an oxygen thief.

luvstoned4him · Answer

Well am pretty sure its the friends kid. You need a DNA test to see who the father is still though, after that, you can proceed from there but I bet whoever it is will want to be in the child's life regardless. Sad to say, 2 relationships ruined :(

Badkittymeow1 · Answer

If you truly forgave him you wouldn't have done this

Secret6620 · Answer

Quite the mess of a situation 😱

markscott · Answer

The friend has already made it clear that he wants to be involved if he is the father, which makes it much less likely that this will be kept quiet. At some point he may want a DNA test. Also, consider that your fiance will likely find out sooner or later, and if nothing else, if your child some day decides to get a DNA test, like lots of people do now. So just as a practical matter, you may want to tell your fiance of the possibility. Especially as he usually pulls out and the friend did not.

cavmanier · Answer

I'm amazed at the level of terribleness of people like you i the world. Obviously tell your guy everything that's happened, but you won't because you prioritize your own unethical interests.

Cammy137 · Answer

Well your relationship sounds SUPER healthy!

Factshurt90 · Answer

Call Maury. This is is Maury shit

Miristheiss · Answer

As a member of the human race and as someone who loves my country and wants it to thrive and succeed to be full of as many high quality people as possible... I think you three or so should be swallowed up by a sinkhole never to be seen and heard of again. Society is better off without people like you and the gene pool would be much better without you three contributing anything to it.

11110000bbbb · Answer

Disgusting. Eww. How could you do something like that?

EroticArab · Answer

I'll put the immorality of the situation aside as I'm sure you're not here for moral lessons. The only solution is honesty here. You won't be able to live with this lie over time and the faster you tell the truth the better.

SexyAshh · Answer

Hopefully you dont live in alabama👌

andreasderjuengere · Answer

And I myself am 'prejudiced' to be with a Thai woman. God: help this world. To be productive here: You, 'Anonymous' will have to live with your shame until you are called off the planet. The best course I can think of is to seek the path of least damage. Especially for the kid. A word in your favour: your 'fiancé isn't an angel as well. His 'friend' is just an ass-hole.

SnoodlePoodle · Answer

This post is a mess of crap from start to finish. I'm not going to lecture you though. You already know what you're supposed to do. You are a whore though, and you'll get what you deserve.

Giggletr0n · Answer

Rather than worrying about the now why not consider the future. What if the baby is the friends but you decide to tell your fiancé it is his and the kid finds out and the fiancé finds out? That's two people leaving you there. Best to be honest with whoever it is and accept the fallout if it comes to that.