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I feel like I need to shake up my strategy a bit. I need to think outside the box. Maybe I need to do something that I wouldn't normally do.
So that brings us to fetish dating. Specifically, FetLife. It's a website my friend (female) told me about a few years ago. FetLife has been called the Kinky Facebook. Now, while it isn't technically a dating site, you can still meet people there. So, I figure, why not give it a shot?
Well, I will address the negatives first: For one, it's kind of, shall we say, "seedy." And I generally don't go to places that are seedy. Because I wasn't raised that way. It could be bad for one's reputation. Also, I'm somewhat afraid of the potential characters that I may meet there. Frankly, I don't want to become too close to a bunch of weirdos. (No offense.). Lastly, there's the issue of exposure to NSFW material. I'm trying to turn over a new leaf and stay away from nudity these days, so that could be a detriment to my intentions for my lifestyle.
However, there are some potential positives: I could meet a nice girl. One of the benefits of revealing one's sexual preferences is that you can have a more precise match. Granted, none of that really makes a huge difference to me at the end of the day; all I really want is a virgin (like me) and someone who I can get along with personality-wise. Still, matching on kinks couldn't hurt, right? Even though my preferences don't exactly qualify as kinks.
(Now, obviously, there's a risk of her being crazy, but that's something I'll have to deal with when we cross that bridge.)
So what do you all think? Do you think there's potential here? Could this turn out to be a successful venture?
What Girls & Guys Said
17 22Lol when I first red your question I thought Fetlife was kinda MGTOW and the image of an empty dark alley like joining some mob.
It was so right synch.
Well sone princess gor her prince by kissing frog so who knows where you lr love is hiding I still wonder what kind of kink she was trying on to kiss a frog lol 🤣.
And is not possible for you to ask the pastor of the church to find you good Christian catholic girl as you desire?
@Aakash_Hangargi I'm pretty sure Christian pastors don't act as matchmakers. Lol. They'd be afraid of getting sued.
I think they are the match makers since they also make marraige happen right? Suggestion can be given taking of or not it's on individual
@Aakash_Hangargi No, they're not. T'would be nice, but that's not how it works. 😄
Oh , so who fixes the marraige which is arranged over there
I am prety sure he might know someone I'd definetly ask them. They would be knowing good or seemingly good families that visit church
@Aakash_Hangargi We don't have arranged marriages in the U. S.
@Aakash_Hangargi. Good families don't mean sh*t, unfortunately; sorry. There are a lot of good families that have naughty children.
😂😂 this convo tho
@VIVANT What? Lol
Not sure, but trying doesn’t hurt, best of luck buddy!
Thanks, bro.
(: Anytime
If it is a fetish site I doubt you will find a virgin. You might find a sex crazed woman though. I've never heard of the site so I'm just guessing. If you do it, good luck to you
I’ve been through that phase of my life… Alright let me make this easy for you.
Pros:
• great “hunting ground” for a quickie or something more
• super kinky people who are also pretty average & decent human beings
Cons:
• don’t ever trust couples right away
• some guys are creeps stay away from guys with only one or two pics
• some girls are creepier
Damn- I have to have 3 pictures?
I don't mind creepy girls, though. I think that's hot.
Ask her what she means by creepy- you might not be on the same page lol
@VIVANT Okay. 🙂 @pinaypixie What do you mean by "creepy"?
@Jamie05rhs “creepy” meaning they’re actually a little psycho. I met a girl who wanted to do knife play so I was like um cool sure. I thought she meant knife play being fingers… nope. I came over to her pad and she meant it like with actual knives and needles. They were already set up on her table
@pinaypixie 😯😬 Yeah, I am strictly against any type of "play" with knives. I was raised by a father who taught me that guns and knives are not things that you play around with. You must use them in a correct and safe manner or not use them at all.
I have a page on there. I have a pantyhose/tights fetish and it's a great way to find similar folk with the same interests
Cool. Thanks for sharing, man!
Hello
Hello to you.
How are you doing
@analian I'm fine. And I want to welcome you to GAG. People don't usually have personal conversations in comments, though. Unless it has something to do with the subject of the original post.
Where are you from
I think @Slim57 may have a thought to share
I jave a profile on there, its honestly not easy to navigate but that's mainly to prevent guys from harassing women on there
But that's a good thing, though.
It is, but it doesn't stop it from happening. It's honestly a double edge sword tactic.
@dragoblack That's unfortunate. :/
I've been on fetlife for years. You will have pretty much no chance of meeting a woman on there
Good to know! Thanks.
Fetlife is *really seedy* but give it a try anyway.
Alright. Haha
I did it.
It wasn't a good experience.
@BlackCatBone How so? Would you mind telling us about it?
Most people are very much the same. We didn't share the same values at all. Many were pretty "fake" in my view.
@BlackCatBone I do not doubt that there were many fake people there. That doesn't surprise me at all. What were that values that you wished you would have shared but were not shared?
Monogamy, not being particularly "pro" sex-work, not being into some kinks whereas most people seemed to be into them...
@BlackCatBone. Oh. I see what you mean. Well, for the record, I do share all of those values with you.
I may have a thought to share
Let's hear it, homey.
Nah you'd be better of digging in the trashcan than getting with women online
@Slim57 Oh. Damn. Alright, then!
what is Fetlife
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/FetLife
What are your fetishes?
Nice try, "Anonymous." How about messaging me instead if you want to ask personal questions.
That's even worse than joining tinder in hopes of a wonderful romantic date that would lead to an exclusive and longterm relationship... Seriously?
So what would you suggest?