I want him to be more aggressive and dominant during sex but he's really gentle and I'm kinda turned off. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

[lightbulb27]

he's probably not being honest with his emotions and feelings or he thinks thats how it's supposed to be from what he thinks. A lot of guys don't undersatnd women. Someone who took a lot of abuse as a kid may be like this or someone whose more "love" than "lust". It's not an easy path to change someone elses view and emotional state.

A. talk about why, work with this boyfriend
a. have him read books about this if he's interested and learn how to seduce, how to pleasure a woman, etc..
b. therapy - if he has emotional issues
c. explain to him reality
B. go to the boyfriend exchange system, trade in on new boyfriend and different set of problems

don't think things will magically change... they won't.

[mrdimples78]

2 words... TELL HIM... As you get older you will learn the importance of communication being able to communicate how you feel... Tactfully not always brutally honest... lmao.. but yes it's that simple tell him talk to him he might really want to be more aggressive but think that you may get turned off by it at your age whatever your age maybe I'm seeing that it's between 18 and 24 it looks like men and women don't know what each other want and that's how we learn by being told when I was young I used to ask my female friends questions till I was blue in the face during sex I would ask my sex partners questions questions questions questions that's how we learn you're welcome

[AustinMan]

Have you asked him to be more dominant sexually?

[MaidenMandy30]

Have you communicated your desires to him?

[OlderAndWiser]

Play "Winner Says, Loser Does."

Need some excitement in the bedroom? Are you willing to take a challenge? ↗

[abc3643]

Get a new boyfriend.
I am serious.

[Lynx122]

I don't know if you can do much it's kinda based on your personality and sex drive. Talk to him but you might just have to move on.

[madmaxx416905]

Suck his cocktail like a savage and tell him to slap your ass and fuck you
... communication is key

Some guys do that so they don't make the girl feel like a " hoe" or whatever... tell him what you want and he will give it to you

[0112358]

Talk to him outside of sex. Make sure he knows you’d like it. It’s possible he doesn’t like being rough in which case you have a problem. It’s possible he would love to manhandle you and is just trying to be thoughtful.

[Ripper_E]

Tell him
You also can't expect for someone to be someone they are not.
But the best way to resolve it is by talking with him

[Phoenix98]

Sit him down and communicate that to him.

[Marklaw12]

He's a submissive. You dominate him. Go full crazy. You got the power. Control him. Girl, you shouldn't be complaining you should be dominating.

[Shamalien]

Tell him to take his foot off the breaks

[navyP]

Tell him what you like he will never know unless you tell him

[Twalli]

Have you told him specifically how you want him to be more aggressive and dominant

[KrakenAttackin]

Go find a brutal fuck buddy on the side.

[mT2359]

Pinch his butt during sex.

[OddBeMe]

Tell him. Talking about our sexual proclivities could lead to better sex and a better relationship.

[andy530]

Tell him what you want in the moment. Say things like fuck me harder, fuck me like I’m your filthy whore, etc

[sonu789]

Tell him , I hope he will be happy

[Lunatic1]

Tell him what you want. If he can't give it to you, you may have to move on.

[beatcoock]

Communicate with him