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I may just want to rant but a guy asked me out 6 days ago, he asked if I would do anal with him and I said no. He of course tried to persuade me but I kept rejecting it. So that's when he dumped me. Yes haha I'm 'butthurt' but does anyone even think of anything beyond sex whilst in a relationship!? I'm not heartbroken, just fed up with relationships. The first boyfriend I've had in 3 years and it ended after 5 days because I wouldn't do something for him. For the record, we didn't have sex during those 5 days.
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Oh and when I say 'dumped' I mean he blocked and deleted me on everything I have him on without actually telling me we are through.
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Thank you all for the opinions (only directed to the ones who expressed sympathy!) He should have broke up with me BEFORE he cut me off - that pissed me off more than him dumping me for anal - I just don't do it and if he can't accept that then fuck him. If he wants anal go and find a gay man or a girl who is willing! Thank god I didn't sleep with him, I'm grateful for that! I also have an friends with benefits on call, he thinks anal is disgusting like me so he's great. I'm over him :)
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What Girls & Guys Said
14 32Find someone else and Try to dig a litt le bit into his sexual behavior so you don't have to pasa through the some situation again. This guy is not going to chance his mind, he'll find somebody willing to satisfy his sexual desire at least he didn't hurt you physically
Lol he clearly didn't want to be your boyfriend, just friends with benefits.
Some dudes deal with the whole 'relationship' thing to get into your pants.
Thank fuck I didn't sleep with him then.
Atta girl, you did the right thing.
Consider yourself lucky to have found out so early what a complete jerk he is.
He's immature. As men get older they realize it's not all about them.
Got to love the guy who downgraded this opinion - most guys figure it out sooner than others, some later than others and some not at all. I have a male best friend and I think in a way he sees me a bit more as a friend but won't admit to it, either way he's always there for me when I need support. He has done things for me that most guys would expect sex for, but he's never asked anything from me. He once carried me to A&E when I was having palpitations and it hurt to walk (turned out I had a chest viral infection). I always hate when I post questions/takes about me and him on here and some anon would talk bad and say he doesn't care about me etc... He has done more for than most - I just realized I'm rambling. But yea I know there are some guys out there who aren't all about sex. Most guys can't even be close friends with girls without having sex with them sooner or later.
Most older guys I know are more likely to do something like this not less - not in the way he did it though. Older women too tbh. You figure out what matters to you and uou find compatible people.
He sounds like a real douche. in my opinion your better off without him.
so he asked you for anal before you even had sex? that´s awkward... i mean it´s understandable though, if you have this preference which is important to you and your partner is not going to do it, you´ll have to go looking for someone else.
you shouldn´t be upset though. it´s not your fault that you don´t like doing it. you just don´t fit together then... literally :P
He didn't want a relationship just sex. He was using you. Best to move on and forget him
JACKASS! you deserve better.
If you don't want to venture down Hershey highway that's your choice!
5 days doesn't equate to a relationship, but I feel your pain. He's a dick, and you're better off without him.
Not really in that much pain, was just angry about it.
then he's a shit... move on to somebody better.
Well you're in a 'shitty' situation. If he was like that then he did you a favour by dumping you because he wasn't worth the time
You've already done what you're supoussed to do which is satisfy men.
Unfortunately you didn't do it right for sure, cause men values women who do it, so it's basically your fault he did it.
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Do you?
lol @asker great response!
@thewanderingme could have made a better one but thanks :) as for your comment on accidentally upvoting some other guys opinion (I blocked him from making any further comments) you are forgiven :)
Well it sounds like it's for the best. I think you dodged a bullet there.
You chose not meet his sexual needs, so he chose to find a woman who would. That's life. You have to live with your choices.
meh. Him wanting anal doesn't bother me, it's the way he 'broke up' with me that I'm more mad about.
Here's how I see it. I would do anything to please my woman and make her happy. If she is not willing to do the same for me, she is not worth my time.
It's not that I wouldn't please the guy, but I have my limits. If he had a fetish of having sex with animals would you really expect me to say yes to this just because it pleases him? I don't do anal. End of.
Like I said, I would do what it takes to please her. Your limits are your choices. You choose between them and pleasing your man. I don't do women who like you. End of.
That's fine, not that I want you to since you don't seem to understand the word 'limitations'. I do what I feel comfortable doing and if you have to force me to do it then we aren't a match. For most of it, I exceed expectations when it comes to sex. This is just the first time anyone has asked for anal from me and that to me is a limit, it may be a choice but it's something I'm not comfortable doing especially with my germaphobia - you'd be lucky if you could even touch me without me throwing up. You don't do women who have self-respect and are whores. End of. By-de-by I'm blocking you from further posting comments on this opinion. You clearly can't respect women who have respect for themselves and claim them to not 'please their man' if they say no to something they don't want to do. To me that makes you an asshole. Bye bye :)
Should've asked him if he is gay deep down inside? And been like here I can call up my gay friend and help you out!
Hahaha love this :)
Lol what an asshole legit! No wonder he's so fond of them;) hahaha
wish I could like this more than once lol
That pun was so intended! xD
If sex is the centre of a relationship, it's cursed to be doomed.
what an asshole. and what a stupid bitch getting involved with him on the first place...
How am I stupid, or a bitch for getting with a guy I thought was nice? That's just a narrow minded insult.
you are twenty something and can't tell an ass from a good man? plus this thing was probably just an excuse. he probably dumped you for an other reason which you dont reveal or even realise yourself.
whoops!! I upvoted before reading the whole thing. :/
Oh I'm so sorry I didn't see someone's true colours from the start! I somehow doubt he dumped me for another reason but my last comment still stands, calling me a stupid bitch was a narrow-minded insult. I wouldn't get with a guy if I didn't think he was friendly/nice and a good person. So to you every girl is a 'stupid bitch' for getting with a guy who treated them right and then turns out as an asshole? Okay, this probably explains why you're so hateful. Either way, I think it's good judgment to block you from commenting any further on this opinion. It's clear you're going to make me look like this was my fault for not seeing something from the start. Goodbye.
You weren't sexually compatible, so why should he stick around?
Other than that, relationships offer absolutely nothing to a man today, at all. They're more likely to be a detriment than anything, so why are you getting upset? There's nothing unexpected about a guy not wanting things beyond sex given current conditions. If you want a guy to stick around, be a more valuable offering.
I'm not upset about him. Just relationships are nothing but a waste of time.
That's right, relationships ARE a waste of time, which is why guys only want sex now. Relationships have no value.
Lol.. this convo.
Okay I may be down about relationships right now but some actually do hold value and I'm talking about relationships of ANY kind, it's just about finding the right person to be close with and this guy was obviously too set on one thing to care about everything else. My best friend is male and he has always been there to support me and loves me for who I am - not all relationships are a waste. If you want spend the rest of your life alone, that's your call.
I wasn't talking about platonic or business relationships, just romantic relationships. Romantic relationships have no value. I can fuck women without being in a relationship. I can have kids and raise them without being in a relationship. I'll have more money and time for my interests if I'm not in a relationship. A better quality of life, overall. What can a romantic partner offer my life that I can't get in a better form somewhere else? And when you consider the turnover rate these days, it makes no sense to get too attached to any one partner.