Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health If men are wired to have sex with multiple partners, why are they still in relationships?
Anonymous
First and foremost, I'd like to point out that this is not to be misconstrued as an attack on men or their behavious in any way. The reason I am asking is that I keep seeing hearing these things everywhere, according to which we are all ruled by primitive instincts, and especially when it comes to men, these arguments seem to come in handy. My question is, if there is such a simple explanation for either men cheating, ot men watching porn, or just men having a difficult time being happy with just one woman, why do so many of them ultimately choose to hav monogamous relationships? I know for a fact no one forces anyone into it. Well, hopefully not - I've never tried. Aren;t they in relationships because they fall in love? Because they want to be? This has always seemed profoundly illogical to me.
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4 26Because back in early times when religious ideologies pushed their opinions onto society and forced people to adhere or die (back then you would have) it became a societal standard. And now that we live in a society which still hangs on to bronzed aged beliefs, we are forced to adhere to the rules or face consequences like being shamed or attacked (having our lives destroyed financially, and otherwise), simply because we falter outside the barbwire fence which is structured around the female mentality. Women are given credence for their female biology. A woman can kill a child and use hormones, "depression", or stress as an excuse and most time will be given a light to no sentence because "women are emotional" she just "snapped".
Men are expected to conform, change, or become socially ridiculed. People will stand behind her and push the shame against his actions.
If a woman cheats.. . she is given the "he mustn't have been doing his job" bullshit. It's excused. It's forgiven because again, women are emotional and require emotional support from the male or she is given a blank card to cheat. Men are always the ones who are expected to be the support, take the responsibility for doing what it takes to make shit work. We are not given the ability to be ourselves.
The reason it's illogical to you is simple. You're a girl, you don't have to deal with the same pressures, expectations, ridicule, responsibilities, etc.
Men are wired to always consider adding sexual partners. We're also wired to use our brains and decide which course of action is the best long term option. 99.99% of the time, that means a long term relationship with one and only one person.
Compromise.
You can't always get what you want.
But if you try sometime, you might find, you get what you need.
Most of the men's propensities , when it comes to relationships, are based on their sexual desires from the very start when he falls in love with a girl. And he is polygamous by nature. So his falling in love with girls also depends on this fact i'e his polygamous sexual instincts.
' Aren't they in relationships because they fall in love? ' . Yes they fall in love ( and you know their falling in love is mostly , at the core, based on what ) but the fact is they can fall in love more than once. And with more than one girls.
So they myths are -
1- A man falls in love once and with only one woman.
I've met people who, after marriage indulge with other girls , sometimes even with prostitutes. I have seen men who go to prostitutes when their wives are pregnant or sick and cannot have sex with them. So you know sex is a thing, they never get over with it even in their 80s.
So the fact is men, in rel or marriage , are always temped to other girls , some of them follow their instincts , rest suppress it in both cases they are infidel at least at heart.
2- True love lasts forever.
This is not necessary. love changes. Nothing is forever.
love is a psychological thing and psych (mind) changes. So don't expect a man to love you all your life. in most of t he cases he doesn't.
3 - This is my personal opinion , there is nothing like fidelity. If are you are forced to be faithful because you are in a rel and inside you want to have sex with every girl you see on the street , what is the use of that faithfulness. In my friend circle I haven't seen a guy who is not interested in other girls than his girlfriend.
So the answer to your question is - yes they fall in love but, not just once.
and other question , why they end up in a monogamous rel?
That is the most fake thing that they do, for few things-
permanent sex - mate ( otherwise it takes either efforts or money )
some social reasons ( you have to be with someone after all, acc to the society and the family )
to have kids
some wants a homemaker
for the fear of loneliness
for future security
at last , they are monogamous only in the eyes of their girl until they are caught.
I don't want to have multiple partners. I prefer and physically desire just one per relationship.