If someone lost their virginity to rape, would you still consider them a virgin after it happened?

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I still would. Rape isn't sex. You have to have consensual sex to lose your virginity.

ak666 · Accepted Answer

I don't care much personally about whether or not a girl is a virgin.

In fact, if I do care, it's kind of in a negative way. I tend to want to steer clear of virgins mainly because I don't want to end up depriving them of their virginity and breaking their hearts.

It's taxing enough on my conscience to break up with a girl, more so if she was a virgin, valued her virginity, and I took that away from her. It's why if I'm with a virgin and she really wants me to be her first, I have to be absolutely sure that she places no significant value on her virginity since there's a risk that things won't work out in the long run.

That said, for the types of guys who do care and prize virginity a lot, I would think this idea of "purity" they worship doesn't allow even non-consensual sex. Once a girl has had sex in any form, consensual or not, I think they would hold it against her. I'm not saying it's fair, mind you, I just think that's how the traditional view works with virginity being something prized. That ties into ideas like "innocence" and probably a rape victim doesn't fit that idea whatsoever.

notallthere98 · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I think you would still be a virgin. You haven't experienced sex yet, so you can still call yourself a virgin if you want. People are going to say "but your hymen!" but the majority of women break their hymen before sex. It has to break for you to have your period. The hymen isn't virginity

shan_shan · Accepted Answer

honestly virginity is a term used to describe a person who never had sex and here what it means for women is penetration from the vagina and for men penetrating
for women they say it is hymen and yeah it is but you can break it during sports like cycling but that doesn't make you non virgin having it is like an extra point but the real thing is the penetration that makes you lose your virginity
rape involves the penetration so the victim will not be virgin and regarding rape not been sex thats wrong rape in other word it is called forced sex
spiritually and mentally they are as innocent as before but physically they are not virgins in relates to what i explained above... I dont want to discredit them or something but thats is the truth but thats not important they are still the same people virgin or not virgin

fauchelevent · Accepted Answer

Meh, I probably wouldn't consider myself a virgin if that had happened since I don't really consider someone a virgin if they've had any kind of sexual contact, but it's a personal thing, I guess. So if the person considered themselves a virgin, I wouldn't object to it.

ShaunaM95 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I agree with you. If it's forcefully taken, then it's rape not sex.

redeyemindtricks · Answer

You can't "lose" a thing unless it's actually a thing in the first place. And "virginity" is not a thing. End of.

Kkaos · Answer

Interesting question and I agree with you. I don't think of virginity solely as the physical act of having sex. If a girl tells me she is or isn't a virgin, that's simply telling me that she hasn't found someone she's wanted to have sex with yet.

watercolor_lions · Answer

No. Virginity isn't a preference. It's reality.

Onepiecefan2000 · Answer

Yes, your still a virgin, I say it only counts when you actually wanting it.

PrincessPie · Answer

well was a technical point of view no but emotionally of course it wasn't who they wanted to lose there virginity too

Bubblesxxxxx · Answer

Physically their hymen is broken and therefore lose of virginity but mentally they are still a virgin because they didn't want to give it up.

victoriameliegray · Answer

They wouldn't be a virgin anymore, but I wouldn't disrespect them in any ways for not being a virgin. It was not their fault.

AleDeEurope · Answer

Rape is sex, it's not consensual sex, but it's still sex, so no, they wouldn't be a virgin anymore. It's a very sad way to lose it, but you're no longer a virgin.

ShortCircuit · Answer

Although I would feel sorry for her, no she is technically not a virgin. That's just the way it is. No amount of sympathy can change the definition of a word.

zombiebabe · Answer

good question.. i've never thought about it

rustyjones1986 · Answer

I don't consider virginity an actual thing. it's a social construct to make people feel guilty for doing one of the most natural things. You can't "lose your virginity". don't ever let someone tell you otherwise.

Puppylove94 · Answer

I would probably tell the guy what happened before I had sex with him if that what you mean. I wouldn't consider myself a virgin tho because by physical standards- you aren't one

sp33d · Answer

Rape is forced sex. Virginity isn't exclusively psychological. It's actually quite annoying how freely you people toss around the word "rape".

lord_chilled · Answer

Id consider her a virgin. You lose ot once you have PLEASURABLE , consentual sex

Sha84 · Answer

of courses not sex is sex

Try6Curious9 · Answer

Virginity is a social construct anyway. There's no scientific definition.

CT_CD · Answer

Not if a penis penetrated her vagina.

Vicforfun · Answer

Not a virgin anymore

kay536 · Answer

we need to keep morality out here. Coitus or penetrating in any form inside a vagina leading to break of hymen makes you lose your virginity. Here, we need to understand that virginity shouldn't be an issue at all.