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If two people are drinking and getting drunk and might possibly end up having sex but no guarantees as they have never done it before?

One then tells the other that if they pass out, it is okay for them to have sex with their unconscious body.

Would you consider that consent?

Would you actually do it?

Would it matter if sex started first and then one passed out? or would you consider a unconscious person, cannot give consent no matter what, regardless of what they said before and stop.

What if no sex started but it is just drunk talk, stating if I pass out you can have sex with me and then they pass out?

Not asking this from a legal perspective, more just what people would do.
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This question was inspired by some other questions on saw on here. This isn't something I would do, as I like interactive men. I'm a light weight though, I'd be the one to pass out first, just doesn't sound remotely fun to me at all. Seems like it would be painful the next day when I wake up sore.
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  • Everyone has a duty of care with others.

    a lot of it is simply being polite and not pushing past people, saying excuse me etc.

    however, it does mean when with someone, then we respect their wishes but also recognise when we are doing something wrong, something that breaks this duty of care.

    it’s morally wrong, it’s legally wrong, it’s wrong on a number of levels.

    there is a thing in BDSM called Consensual Non Consent, which is basically giving prior permission to do stuff even when they say ‘no’ or it’s wrong, such as sex while other is asleep.

    There are also certain things to be followed such as.

    Personal Responsibility In Consensual Kink emphasizes personal responsibility for choices and consequences and has evolved into Personal Responsibility Informed Consensual Kink (PRICK). Basically risk assess everything but remember you are personally responsible for your actions and any consequences.

    one of reasons contracts get written out for the darker side of edge play.

    I include the above as even when CNC is occurring, a safe word stops it, after that it’s abuse, rape, etc.

    • Thanks for MHG

  • As much as part of me would want sex in that situation (we're guys - we want sex), I would definitely not go for it. Not only is it illegal (a drunk person can't consent), but you have no idea if the girl would wake up tomorrow and remember saying "take me as you like" or if she would wake up and think "there's no way I'd ever say that to anyone - he raped me!" Even setting aside the legal issues, it would destroy the relationship forever and it could give the guy a bad reputation among his friends/peer groups. It's not worth it.

    It would be very different if you had that conversation while sober, but nothing anyone says drunk should ever be construed as "permission."

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  • If someone is drunk enough to pass out, whether or not they were in the right mind to be able to give consent is questionable in and of itself. Meaning, I don't know that the "consent" actually counts as consent in this case. But aside from that point, why would anyone want to have sex with an unconscious person? I like having a willing and enthusiastic partner, and a sleeping person does not qualify as that.

    • I have known guys that want this, that way they can do whatever they want. I agree with you though.

    • What would you do to a passed out person that would be pleasuable?

    • @BillyBalls I have no idea, if it was me I don't know that I could get a guy erect to do anything with him.

  • That’s a really tough one legally and morally but regardless I wouldn’t have sex with any unconscious person for any reason.

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  • Jesus fucking Christ. I would not be having sex with any unconscious girls... regardless. Once you are no longer conscious... Sex is off the table. If you become unconscious during sex... I'm not going to continue fucking your comatose body. That's creepy as hell.

    This really shouldn't be controversial. If she doesn't know your dick is inside her. It shouldn't be inside her. That seems pretty straight-forward to me.

  • From a legal perspective, it is consent, but fucking a sleeping/passed out girl who can't enjoy it and participate sounds rather lame.

    • It also sounds painful to me, if he didn't use lube or something. It isn't like I'd be turned on or anything while I'm passed out.

  • I would wonder about the mental state of a woman that said that. I would be afraid to do anything sexual with her.

    • I wonder about the mental state of a man who would say that, I mean what are we suppose to do with that flaccid thing anyways if he is out of it. Anything is possible though, I just can't imagine any amount of touching would make it erect while he is out cold but I don't really know.

  • This has happen to me before. no I how to get her as comfortable as I could if she was the one passed and I would lay down next to her and I would go to sleep and it has happened to me before where I at that's out. And then next morning I get a dirty look in I should have just taken advantage of you I can't believe that you passed out like that on me and all I can do is smile if they will you should have I told you we've been working 16 hours a day the one I had sex with a girl I want to make it all better I want her to feel everything every little touch Every Little Kiss every little moan what her to be in that moment with me

  • What's the point if she's not participating? And in this day and age, that a glare in the wrong moment can get you sued? Absolutely not.

  • If we’re at the point that somebody could pass out 1. I probably would also pass out or 2. I’d be too drunk to notice personally I’d wait to sober up a bit first anyway

  • I'm not having sex with an unconscious person, period. And the only time I'd engage in sex with an intoxicated person is
    1) we both were
    2) we were already committed a whole
    3) we plan on marriage anyways.

    if she feels unwell of is too drunk then no. forget about even being unconscious at that point. Too drunk is already bad. I'm more into a deeper connection anyways. Sex is not sex in my world. It carries a deeper meaning. I wouldn't want to 1) Break boundaries but 2) cheapen it

  • I would not do it. i would probably just pass out next to her and hopefully resume it in the morning.

  • I have a free use policy and sleeping is a part of that. We can use each other whenever, sleeping included. Have fun with it, in my opinion.

  • No, don’t ever do that. I think anyone who would actually want to do that is a sick person.

    You take good care of them and if they feel OK in the morning, perhaps your good deeds could then be rewarded.

  • i don't get it, did he pass out because he was having sex?

    • No, they just hanging out drinking, maybe making out a little bit... starting to get drunk and one of them just blurts this out. In your case you could say it was her that did, since your a guy. So she says this and then is a light weight and passes out five minutes later, what would you do?

    • they may have done this on purpose to have sex and it may have been what they wanted

    • No an intoxicated person cannot consent. Leave it be, wait to see what's what on the morning. Be clear and know their feelings and practice discipline as the man.

  • No matter how atractive or how much she is into me, I find the idea of sex, sick to my stomach if there is any bit of drugs or alcohol involved in either of us.


    There are few girls who start seducing guyz while drunk and then the next day they end up getting rape charges or reputation of a rapist.

  • Having sex with an unconscious person is quite fucked up. Why would you even date someone who might be ok with that?

    • Never said this is someone I was dating, this question was inspired by a different question. Yet if you see the answers, it is still very mixed. I was curious what others though.

    • I still maintain... sex is a two way street and requires active, conscious participation by both parties. If not, you might as well be fucking a blow up doll or dead person.

  • Morally questionable but it all is down to how much you trust the other person.

    Legally if the girl reports the man goes to jail.

  • That is not consent. Because they were drunk when they made that statement.
    It would even be questionable if they said that when they were sober (before they started drinking.). Maybe if they had it in writing; I don't know, though...

  • You do this category, you have no right to abort. Period.

  • I probably wouldn't do it, but as consent was given it's not rape. However if the unconscious person wakes up having sex and changes their mind and verbally withdraws consent, any sex that happens later is rape.

  • Hell yeah, as long as she gives consent while in the right mindspace.

    • The law says that if she's intoxicated then she can't consent. If you proceed you raped her and will see time Also never take the word of a person under the influence. I've said shit under the influence that was not true.

    • No shit sherlock, that's why I said "while in the right mindspace"

    • Um did you even read the question. You make no sense. She can't be in the right mindset if drunk.

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  • If you tell me I can fuck you while we are both drunk, I'm going to fuck you.

    If you tell me I can fuck you if you pass out while we are both drunk or both not drunk, then you pass out, it's questionable. I'd fuck you if I thought you were really hot.

    If you pass out during sex, I'm finishing.

    • Thats rape under the eyes of the law, just saying.

  • I'm out

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