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If your girlfriend asked for a threesome, what would it take for you to believe it isn't a trap?

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  • Well, let's put it this way: this happened in my last relationship, and we ended up talking about it for three months - going through all the likely scenarios in depth and articulating the possibilities. It wasn't a "let's do this!" momentary decision - it was thoroughly discussed and thought through, and lots of "how would you feel if THIS happened?"

    I made it clear that while I might enjoy it, it wasn't something I needed or was pushing for, and would be fine if it never happened. I also made it clear that if it was going to happen, that there couldn't be any arbitrary limits - for either of us - and that it was going to be expected that the "third" was going to get more of the attention - from both of us - than we'd probably give each other, because that's how those things go, and that she needed to expect that and be okay with it. It wasn't something that was taken lightly.

    I think having those discussions, and talking through what was likely to happen and how we'd feel about it and why, made all the difference, and prevented any problems. It also made a big difference that SHE was into girls too - I don't think it's likely to work if the girl isn't into other girls.

  • Keep asking for a while and if she sees serious will bring the girl in and ask her again to be sure before anything starts. Also I will tell her that she can stop it whenever she wants if she doesn't like it

    • So respectful :)

    • Thanks☺️

Most Helpful Girls

  • I know someone who did this to her man, convinced him she wanted it... they did it then she moved her man over to her girlfriend so she could divorce him, say he was a cheater and move back home to her mother.

    By move over, I mean she encouraged him to get together with her when she was at work.

    Never thought someone could 'unload' their man that way but WTF it was strange and technically a trap.

  • My bestie would be there

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  • It might depend on whether she’s asking for a two girl threesome or a two guy threesome. 🤔

  • First, the "Trap" thing. What kind of trap are we talking about here? She brings it up, you say sure, and then she loses her shit and wants to break up because you said OK to something she herself suggested? If so, she can get fk'd and take a damn hike. If she brought it up, one would assume she has interest in it. As a partner, one would think you would at least discuss the possibility, but you would also figure you would try and figure out a solution to something she implied she enjoyed. To turn it around and then attack you for it shows a high level of immaturity and her head is stuck in high school drama BS. Time to dump.

    I've never experienced this kind of encounter, and perfectly fine if I never do, but I'm also not against it either. But the chance of such a thing would ever happen would be slim to none.

    Whether it's two guys and a girl or two girls and a guy, there would need to be a detailed conversation to be had before any decision is made.

  • My girlfriend would never ask for a threesome, and neither would I. This is as likely as Martians landing in my backyard tonight.

  • I’d need to know why we are doing it, what we want to get out of it and who is the 3rd. I think 3somes can be an incredible experience if all 3 involved are on the same page and all consent.

  • If a girlfriend of mine asks for a 3-some, she gets a 3-some as soon as I can make it happen.

    I’ve never played the too-clever-by-fucking-half-drama-mama-‘trap’-bullshit in my life and I’m not likely to start now.

  • I'd ask her to do an admial Ackbar impression if it's no good then I know I'm safe!

  • Nothing, PERIOD.

  • If she had previously had sex with the girl and enjoyed it.

  • Been there, done that. It wasn't a trap, albeit it was quite a let down. One on one is waaaaay better.

  • I wouldn't like it. Sure, guys fantasize about 2 girls but it's just fantasizing. If I love my girl, I want no one but her.

  • I have done threesomes with two guys and two girls.

  • Honestly I've been in the LS for a bit and my kink is mfm or male female male. I'm a giver/pleaser so a threesome I've done has only been mfm.

    First, there's something sexy about watching for me anyways.. I also enjoy the build up. Hot knowing she's listed over and to see/hear her response and reactions while feeling another set of hands touching her, feeling another set of lips kissing her, another tongue tasting her...

    There's no such thing as a trap or you got to do it why can't I... aka keeping tabs.

    You talk n talk n talk n talk someone. Why are you even thinkn bout a 3some... then set rules.. one of mine is in regards to kissing... I'm fine with having them kiss just no kissing when either one is actively cumming/orgasming. After talking bout kissing we agreed that some things still need to be for us.
    Also, all contact went through me.. and then we would do a meet n greet.. then I asked that I get to be the first everything.. kiss etc.. that helped my unknown fear of being left out...
    Sry, what was ur question? Lol

    • Ok the third a girl.. I would luv to still be involved but only as the director. And if I did participate it would be only me with you. I'd never want you to feel any type or form of an insecurity. I'd make sure you felt that prior to adding anyone first and foremost. I'd wanna learn your reasons to adding a third.. and why a female and not a male? I'd ask you what your expectations are from me. Then after learning that I'd follow up with reassurance to you and for you.. again limit any possible insecurity. Remember if one person says stop.. all play stops

  • If I was worried about her “trapping” me, she wouldn’t be my girlfriend.

  • I would trust my girlfriend so i wouldn't think it as a trap at all. And if it was then I am happy to dump her cause i don't deal with liars.

  • My girl wanting sex with someone else is a deal breaker. I would most likely break up even if she triwd to take it back.

  • Nothing. Why would I believe it was a trap?

  • I would turn it down and show her the door.

  • I'd be skeptical about it unless we were actually in bed, hot and heavy and she stopped for a breath and said she had a surprise for me she wanted to get - then opened the bedroom door and the other girl was right there, naked, and she brought her over to the bed and guided her onto my cock, THEN asked if I was ok with it.

    Somehow I don't expect to have the experience. Frankly I think it'd scare the life out of me

  • If I had a girlfriend, I’d believe her and we’d have to talk about what we want for a 3some.

  • if her best friend was already waiting in bed for the two of us to show up..

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