Is it normal if I only want to have sex in the dark?

[Anonymous]

I hate how my body looks naked.

[Citizenkirk]

I think it's strange for a person too be so obsessed with what other people want too do in the dark or light while having sex.
I'm not the best person to answer that one because I don't know what's normal I suppose because I really don't give a crap what's normal. I do what I do when I'm having sex because it makes me feel good and what other people doing regards to that is irrelevant to me but that's just me I guess and the people I have sex with and anyone else who wants to enjoy sex rather than comply with some whatever this is social convention about approval for the amount of lumens you require to engage in release.
Fortunately for you my name is Nick strike eagle of Bolton tactical light gear here to offer you the ultimate and tactical sexual engagement lumination tactical equipment because in a sexually tactical situation your life may depend on the amount of lumens our high capacity brighter than the sun tactical sexual light gear can offer you oops sorry I got distracted there by this really stupid commercial about tactical light gear go away how many tactical situations have you been engaged in this morning before lunch time oh never mind that's stupid about the stupid is this whole what's normal thing. anyway I'm going to get off that subject and get back to the party request questions that I can answer honestly with a straight face which is there's nothing unhealthy about doing what you want to do in the dark it's not going to hurt you in any way though to my way of thinking doing it with a light on isn't going to do any harm either so my thinking is that illumination really doesn't have to be a barrier for you either way but if it is there are lighting fixtures that have progressively dimming or brightening features to them you can gradually work your way toward darker or brighter lighting situations and see which one works for you if that is in fact an issue for you. if you're looking for permission to do it in the dark you got it if you're looking for pain medicine you do it in the light you got it and fact I give you permission to do whatever the heck you want to do in regards to your sexual release that you want because it really is your decision when you come down to it and I think you should feel empowered to make that decision for yourself without regard to what anyone else thinks or whether it's normal or whether anyone else thinks it's healthy cuz I'm telling you this sexual release on a regular basis is healthy no matter how much to light you are do it by, and to prove my point, a female friend of mine and I are going to do it with the lights on, and the lights off, right now, and we'll get back to you to see, and not see, how it turns out.

[bowenw]

There is no normal, so don't feel bad about your preferences. Many people are not happy with their body, but I suspect yours is beautiful and seeing it would arouse your boyfriend. For now, explain to him how you feel and that you prefer darkness. A good guy will understand. If you develop some confidence over time try turning on a dim lamp and then work your way up to more and more light. Also, try wearing lingerie and leaving it on for sex with some dim lighting to get some practice.

[loves2learn]

If he’s having sex with you he obviously finds you attractive. You’re still young, so yes it is normal to feel insecure about your body. But try not to focus on it.


Try just turning on a lamp or having sexual during the day with the blinds shut.



Take a deep breath. Relax. Have fun. You’ll both enjoy it more.

[ChrisMaster69]

It can be yes, not only if people are not comfortable with their body, but also the act of sex.

the darkness can allow us to do things we would not do in the light of the day.

[ohshee]

Can I ask you what you don't like about it your body that is best ways to fix that they're very simple

[TonyV]

Well it's not exactly normal, you shouldn't be so insecure about your looks, you need to love yourself.
But lights off isn't that weird, I'm sure plenty of people prefer the lights off

[JPrez]

Nothing wrong with it. Once you get older, trust me, you won't care.

[kkirk4442]

It depends on your definition of normal. Some women only want to have sex in the dark, because they feel that they are too heavy, and it's embarrassing for them to be seen in the light. However, if you need the lights off to enjoy sex because you feel that it's dirty or wrong, etc., then getting some counseling may be order. There is nothing wrong with sex in the dark, but sex in the light can be very different, and seeing the bodies, etc., can add to the enjoyment.

[boggboss]

Its shows your insecure about your body and is a turn off hun

[Dargil]

If that is what it takes for you to be comfortable, then do it.

[Britishclassic]

pretty weird, whole point of sex is that your comfortable with someone enough to let them stick it in you - if your not comfortable with yourself. - how're you allowing someone to be vulnerable with you?

[Nik1hil]

What if I found your body beautiful and wanted to see.. Touch.. Lick every inch of it..

[magiusX26]

that insecurity would be a major turn off and a deal breaker. i honestly mite give you one shot in the dark (literally) but after that it would just send me packing and i will not guarentee that 1 shot because its a good chance that too would send me away.

[JC103]

Does it really matter when he’s the one enjoying it?

[Andres77]

My wife used to feel the same way but now we have sex on the beach in full daylight (on a closed beach in the bed of my truck so others can't see her). It took years of reassuring her that her stretch marks and scars didn't matter and she was still the most beautiful and sexiest woman in the world to me.

Mutual support in a relationship based on love fixes so much shit.

I hope you find someone that really appreciates you for you and makes you feel loved and desired. Your body doesn't matter, it's his heart that makes his eyes see your true beauty.

[loveslongnails]

It's normal if you're ashamed of your body!

[Wise4myage]

Not normal, but common for girls who don't like their bodies.

[Noodle_fan]

You know what, i had been with a woman like you before,
doesn't matter much to me , as long as she helped to guide me to find correct hole then i can start pounding her lol.

[Jhon24]

It's fine, you are doing him a favor.

[Gedaria]

No , a lot of people like it in the dark.

[SirJohn42]

I think its natural we all see imperfections in ourselves. Some more than others. Some not very much. I've dated several women who love sex in the dark.

But you must see the beauty within. Learn to love yourself.
Learn to admire yourself in the mirror. Look at those things you think are great.

[Lucious22]

I think that depends, I’ve never really done it cause I wanted too

[Twalli]

Your boyfriend loves how your body looks naked. Guys like seeing girls naked. If he likes how you look clothed, he'll like how you look naked even better