Is it OK for me (a single mom) to have an explicitly purely sexual relationship with a guy?

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I'm a 44 year old single mom. I'm super busy and don't have time for a real relationship right now (nor do I want one). However, sometimes I just want some hot sex. I've ignored this desire for a while, but recently I started a "friends with benefits" relationship with a guy in my apartment complex. There was always sexual tension between us, but (for reasons I explained) I never pursued anything. However, a couple of weekends ago (when my kids were with their dad) we broke the tension and had sex. This last weekend (when my kids were with their dad again) we had sex 2 more times.
Even if I didn't have higher priorities right now I wouldn't be interested in a real relationship with this guy. He's 23 years old and I have no desire to be in a real relationship with someone that age. However, I am loving the sex. His sexual stamina is amazing and he goes above and beyond the call of duty to please me sexually. I get a huge ego boost someone that young/sexy would be so physically/sexually attracted/interested in me. I also am extremely physically/sexually attracted to him (but not emotionally)
However, there is another part of me that wonders if this is a good idea. I've told him directly I only want sex. He acted happy about that, but there is a bit of me that's worried feelings could potentially creep in for him. I'm also worried if it could potentially negatively affect my kids if they knew about me having a purely sexual relationship ( I have made sure to keep it hidden from them thus far). Although I don't want a real relationship now I am concerned this could be a problem if I change my mind later. I also feel a little dirty for wanting a purely sexual relationship and from wanting it with a much younger guy.
There's a huge part of me that wants to keep this up for a while because I am enjoying it a ton, but part of me wonders if it's a good idea. Is it a bad idea for me (a single mom) to have an explicitly purely sexual relationship with a guy? Or is it OK?

MackToday · Answer

You're using sex to get high like a drug. You don't need sex it's a want not a need and what you're doing is gross and sleazy. Your kids will find out to be sure.

Laozi · Answer

You're a human being and you've evry right to make yourself happy (emotionally and sexually). So, don't feel bad about it and do whatever you like.

Agamogenesis · Answer

No honestly I'm happy for you. Have a good time you deserve it.

sdrawkcabosmi · Answer

Uh yeah it's okay. I gotta say I'm kind of jealous of this guy 😂

Browneye57 · Answer

Just don't replace the time you owe to your children as a parent.
In reality, this is about all a single mother is good for anyway - EVERYTHING else in her life takes precedence over any guy. I guess you just get what you can. Too bad, so sad.

MannMitAntworten · Answer

Have fun and stop worrying about the age difference.

letssee89 · Answer

Why would it not be okay?

mandowood · Answer

Go for it, just don't start to hang out as friends or something, otherwise feelings will definitely get involved

worldscolide · Answer

Nothing wrong with just wanting sex. I can't do that. but i have different priorities.

es20490446e · Answer

How does it feel having sex with strangers to you?

pleasestopthis · Answer

Some guys get attached when they have good sex. There is no way to know for sure this will happen to you though, you'll always have this possibility when having a friends with benefits.

EABsTUQ · Answer

I don't know im just some guy on the internet.

Strahd · Answer

in my opinion having a purely sexual relationship is all good as long as both parties know. Feelings inevitably creep in sometimes so attempt to be prepared for that.

Bang away as far as I am concerned. That being said I have had several 3 somes that was awesome!

RLovesD7792 · Answer

bad idea because it's like you said feelings will develop from this maybe not from him but from you and one of you's is bound to get hurt by all this. it's best to break it off now and cut all contact before things get really out of hand and one of you's gets hurt bad by all this

genericname85 · Answer

well that all depends on what sort of lifestyle you wanna teach your child... you gotta be the person you want her/him to become.

Riddler1412 · Answer

As long as you explain to the guy that you're not looking for something serious just ( mainly) sex, I say go for it.

Thatsamazing · Answer

I have no idea why he would do that, he sounds like a pussy, so I don't know what you mean by "is it okay."

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

If some how your kids come to know which they will someday you can't be hypocritic when they Wana pursue similar kinda relationship so instead of playing hide and seek educate them to understand the situation then you will be free of tension but at first it will be challenging I guess because of the age gap but truth is truth hiding will do no good..