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Sexual Health Is sexting considered chewting?
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So, my husband is currently serving in the military. I've been uncontrollably horny while he was gone. I just couldn't help myself. I created a Tinder, and then met this French-Canadian guy on there. I told him that the most we could do is sext each other, but now he wants to come to the U. S. to see me in person. We've been sexting for about 2 months. He has no idea I'm married. I have no idea what to do. I feel like a cheating whore.
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Just to let you all know, I still love my husband. We have a precious little boy together. I just have a high sex drive.
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9 42It is looked at like cheating.
The fact that you have to ask this... You're still being unfaithful regardless of any exceptions you try to make.
Does your husband know about him?
No, he doesn't.
When are you planning to tell him?
I don't know, but soon hopefully. I'm afraid that what I've done will fuck up our relationship.
It depends on some things. Could be something that breaks it. What do you want to happen?
I would understand why he would be pissed, livid even; but as I said, I still love him. I don't love the Canadian guy at all, and he's taking things the wrong way completely.
Well does the Canadian guy even know where you live?
No doubt you love your husband and I also have a high sex drive so can understand the temptations and frustration you must have felt. It’s likely this guy will not come and see you right?
He said he plans on it, but I honestly have no idea. He seems serious about traveling beyond borders to see me, but I don't want that to happen. It's not his fault that I'm a dumbass.
Also, yes. He does know where I live. That's my main problem.
I doubt he’s serious about seeing you but you would know more if he is or not. Happy to help if you wanna discuss it more but my guess is right now your guilt is the overriding emotion because you are worried about cheating on the man you love?
Yes, right on the spot.
The Canadian guy, I'll call him John (not even close to his actual name, just an example), and I have been roleplaying on and off, sending nudes to each other, and even masturbating over FaceTime. Now, he's saying how much he wants to see me, and so on; he'e even planning on it. I've taken this whole thing too far, and I just want to stop it before it gets any worse.
When did he last contact you?
A day ago.
You must feel trapped, oh no. I didn’t think John was serious, and it’s part of the role playing.
I don't want to hurt his feelings. I thought he was playing around at first, but I'm sure he's being dead serious.
Sorry for asking about these details on a public question tho, I am free to talk more and give you a guys perspective as you may not be in as a shape as you fear
You're completely fine. I need someone to talk to right now, so ask away.
Follow me if you want to talk
How long has your husband been gone?
He's been gone for about 6 or 7 months.
I find it laughable in the most disgusting way that you have the audacity to put "I still love my husband" in this same post. You are a first class piece of shit.
How would your husband feel if he found out? How would you feel if your husband was doing that with another girl?
Yes; you're cheating. Stop it.
Yep, it sure is. Its called emotional cheating.
Then put a stop to it, and imagine how you would feel if your husband found out. Also, DO NOT invite him to come and see you.
It'd be cheating in my relationships, but some relationships talk about it and agree with each other that it wouldn't be cheating for their relationship.
My rule of them is "if you haven't discussed it and both agreed that it's fine, and if you have to question whether it otherwise would be, it is."
I feel if you guys are just sexting that's find even though you should do it with your husband but like you said it might be hard for him to find time to do that. I feel to tell the guy no and if he feels he wants to see maybe Skype, zoom, or do face time on your computer or phone especially if you don't want to cheat on your man. If he insists or pressure you he might to break ties with him or tell him your married.
Yes. That's cheating. But you can stop rn and block him at least you could say, you didn't cheat physically.
There maybe times when you're alone and your husband is away. That's when we realise how loyal we are. You just made a mistake, but you understood it. Thts okay.
Use your free time to improve yourself, find a hobby or start some small business, make yourself engaged. If so horny, just watch some porn and blast
Yes it is cheating
if you have to ask then you know it is in your case so YES!
yeah duh
Ask your guy. But most women are whores so you really aren't special.
Sexting is only okay if your SO is fine with it. My girlfriend is okay with my sexting as long as I NEVER promise anything, and I'm open with them about being in a relationship. Since I am, any girl who wants to sext with me knows 1) I am not interested in meeting them and 2) I am in a relationship that I have no desire to leave or end.
The thing is, I don't think my husband would ever be okay with me sexting anyone but him.
Then as far as he's concerned it it cheating. That's really all that matters. What does your SO consider cheating. Some people say that porn is cheating, some don't.
My husband considers looking at or talking to any other man that isn't him in THAT way is cheating.
So you're cheating, sorry. I don't think you're intentionally cheating. You just want intimacy when your husband is unable to provide it. That's how my sexting works, I don't sext at all when my girlfriend is here.
Husband away in the military... You already have or will cheat on him, guaranteed.
If you're feeling guilty then yes. And just imagine him sexting too, would that affect you? Your answer is the one you're looking for i think
You are well on your way to being one.
Ask your husband; he'll tell you if it's cheating or not
Well u r a cheating whore lol