Sexual Relationships 
Sexual Health Is this considered rape if it was my boyfriend and it was my butt?
Anonymous
So at a party with my boyfriend of 2 months. I went to bed earlier and he was drunk when he came to bed. We started having sex and then he tried to put his penis in my butthole (I’ve never had anal sex ever in my life) and I told him no, and backed away. He pulled me back and tried again, again I said no and pulled away. So he went for my vagina again and then a few minutes later he tried for my butt again, here I pushed him off. He tried sticking it in without any lube or anything and it didn’t feel right so again I said no! And few minutes later he tried again and I guess I let him for a a couple minutes but it was so painful I pushed him off again and then it all ended. The next day my anus is torn and bleeding all day, and two days later still faintly and hurts. When I brought it up to him he said he didn’t remember but I know he wasn’t that drunk because he remembers our conversation from around that same time of the night.
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What Girls & Guys Said
12 43You let him a couple of minute so it's not rape and by the way I gonna defend him in here. Rapist or not he was MORE THAN RIGHT to force you into anal sex, you have to understand that you have to satisfy his sexual needs whenever he wants. So stop complaning and get over it!
Next time be the women he needs in bed so he won't look for someone else.
I'm not gunna lie, I've had anal with a girl before and it's all I wanna do with my current and she's not into it. Since he had been drinking he clearly wasn't thinking straight and when you're sexually arouse with your partner, you start doing stuff without thinking. In his mind you letting him have sex with you is giving him the ok to try new thinks, despite you saying no you still kept giving him sex so he thought maybe you were enjoying it that much he was going to try again. I don't think it's considered rape, given you pushed him off and it ended seems like he got the idea that you weren't interested.
What's wrong with you he is your boyfriend and he is allowed to shove his dick in any hole he want and your duty is just to take whatever he gives you
Not only is that rape imho but it's actually also sexual abuse - and saying he didn't remember is a total cop-out ! He sounds like a self-entitled jerk ! Why are you still with this guy?
Probably yeah
For sure YES.
Yes, it is 100% rape. If he is capable of doing that to you then he is capable of even worse. He will do it again or he will hurt you even more next time. RUN.
If I make a noise that even remotely sounds like "no" during sex my boyfriend freezes up and he cannot continue until he is sure I'm okay. That is the normal response.
Yep, that's rape alright.
its not rape but it's also not very nice... I mean you tried to say no and he kept pushing, didn't even use lube x. x that is cruel
Unfortunately I don't think that could be considered rape. He was definitely wrong for persisting after u repeatedly told him no but like u said... u let him for a couple of minutes but then u pushed him off and it ended.
Call the cops.