Lights on or off in the bedroom?

Question

Do you like the lights on or off during sex? I like both.. Lights on if I'm mainly focused on his pleasure. Lights off for me, so I can really let go. What's your opinion?

possum04 · Accepted Answer

Lights on... what's the point of sex if you don't see anything? Haha, seeing the partner's body is one of the main turn-ons! Most of the people I know that like having sex with "lights off" or "under the covers" do it because they do not want to be seen naked, or have major insecurities, either of which is a sign that you shouldn't be having sex in the first place. If the person you're having sex with makes you so uncomfortable that you can't bare to be nude around them - which is sorta the point of sex - why are you having sex with them? Sex should be enjoyable and comfortable, not filled with worry that you might be seen! :(
Dimmed lights and such for atmosphere is different, however! But even then, I like to at least be able to see the other person, haha!

CatcherSei · Accepted Answer

Doesn't really matter. Lights on if they already happen to be on, off if they already happen to be off.

SandPlanet · Accepted Answer

A bit of light is preferable, so we can see each other. :)

DodgersGM · Accepted Answer

I'll take it any way I can get it, as her comfort is of course important and is usually directly tied to how good the sex is, but if I get my pick then I want the lights on full-blast.

I want to see ALL of her, I want to see EVERYTHING I'm doing to her. It'd be a shame to waste that visual with complete darkness, ya know?

RichardBoehner · Accepted Answer

I feel like if you need the lights off just to screw someone you shouldn't be screwing them in the first place

xHoneyxBeex · Answer

I prefer lights dimmed.

med11 · Answer

On so we both can watch the action unfold which I personally think makes the event more erotic. Especially if eye contact and dirty talk is taking place.

WhiteSteve · Answer

Lights on, dimmed at most. Gotta see what I'm doing to hit that right, haha.

MissChickMia · Answer

Lights on because I would want to make sure everything goes smoothly and were not fumbling lol.

Shaggy5150 · Answer

Lights on! Minimum of candlelight. I am a visual creature, I want to see my partner and what's going on.

GrowStrong · Answer

dim lights are nice, i want to see her

EllipsisLee · Answer

When asked for the lights to be off, a lack of confidence is implied, and that's kind of a downer in such situations. So... Lights on. :)

Desiderata · Answer

I really really like low lighting

cavmanier · Answer

Lights on but the luminance doesn't have to be blinding.

Ezio1981 · Answer

Lights on! I like visual progress and see just how good I'm doing. I like to SEE her being pleased and it turns me on knowing that I'm turning her on and driving her crazy.