Men, do you currently or have you ever had a side chick?

[Anonymous]

[CubsterShura]

Do you think dudes who have sidechicks will tell you?

I know a guy who always talks about how he is a loving and passionate man, talks about how he would love his woman and never cheated on her and he is the one who turned out to have multiple side chicks.

If there's one thing I learned about men in all the relationships that I've had, men talk the biggest about things that they lack in themselves. The ex who told me to not have opposite gender friends openly had female besties and was found cheating on me with another girl. The ex who talked big about valuing me for who I am as a person sexualized me the most for my appearance. The dude who talked big about being religious and chaste and saving turned out to be the one texting women for their nudes.

At least now I got better at predicting what to expect from a guy by paying attention to what he talks about.

[Isten]

Dude, you are promoting promiscuity for men (and engaging in it too), but as soon as a woman has sex she is the ultimate hoe and "nOt WiFe MaTeRiAl". 🤦🏻‍♀️
Please don't invite me to your mysoginistic questions anymore, I'm not interested in your "iT's BiOlOgY" explanation to anything and everything.

[Asker]

How do you know I’m engaging in it and promoting it in men?

[Isten]

Your posts are obvious, "it's in men's nature", stuff you say too often to be overlooked.

[Thatsamazing]

Yawn

[Ellie-V]

I don’t completely agree but yeah it does come across as if he goes out of his way to excuse men from certain behaviors sometimes

[EAThomas]

I am not sure i can say I have a side chick but I recently got out of a long term relationship. I am currently see three different women (although I did just end one of the relationships). I have explicitly committed to any of them and although I have not spoke to the women specifically about the other women, I have told them that that is where I am and what I can commit to now. If I get into serious or committed relationship then a side chick is not acceptable unless it is discussed and there is full understanding for everyone involved. I have never had that conversation with someone but I think the point is hiding something, really anything whether it is another relationship, or anything else bad spending habits, using drugs or alcohol too much, whatever it is the secret that creates the mistrust. Took me aong time to learn that!

[JstForSmiles]

In my 20's, while married to my first wife, I had the most intense relationship of my 60 year-old existence. She was nine years my senior. No drama, I woke and hoped to see her each day, intense sex and an emotional drive that has yet to be equaled anywhere in any of my lifelong relationships. It has, ever since, been the bar to judge all my other relationships.
Ethically, it never should have happened. Realistically, if I ever found us both to be single: I'd do everything in my power to make her change her Facebook status!

[jalas4612]

"Side chick"? Self discipline and common respect for others go along way. Cheating is so tacky and I think should be a thing of the past. Do us men not have integrity and class anymore? It's too easy these days anyways. And disgustingly unhealthy. Here's a true challenge of pedigree: be loyal. Start hustling on that.

[AzureGirl]

The fact that 32 people voted yes on this so far is depressing. Loyalty anyone? Cheating is cowardly and stupid.

[jalas4612]

If they only knew it's not cool to be a blatant lazy retard. It's almost like those people that tattoo or pierce their whole body and think they're special because of it. Choices are not a social status especially when you make stupid ones. Crowds that support idiots deserve each other, it just sucks we can't take away their veil that hides their ugly deformed souls so no tattoo or ego can mask the fact they are not wanted and should not be taking the place of someone who actually thinks more than two seconds without being self absorbed.

[Yourluckypenny]

I know I'm not a guy but I had a side chick

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Kinda but I was in an open relationship so not a problem. Cheating is one of the lowest things you can do in my opinion

[ecfresh]

No, I am too loyal

[1CentWorth]

I hope for my vote it counts if my spouse is 100% ok with it.

[CarpetDenim]

Newsflash:

[CarpetDenim]

If you answered yes, you’re an asshole and you deserve to be alone for the rest of your life!

[Jaximus-Lion]

No! Never. I never had to, that is disgusting

[LoU_Hades]

yes, I broke my own principles
occasionally my ex, but the euphoria I felt earlier and I hoped to find again came never back.

[dmgstarfleet]

Women don't think of them as "side men" they think of them as the spare, always to be kept on 'warm standby" in case needed

[thomual]

Only if I'm either in an open relationship or an undefined one like an friends with benefits. I have cheated, but only in relationships where the status was in flux between nothing, open, and serious.

Warning to women, constant breakups is bad for loyalty.

[Miristheiss]

Never.
Always 1 girl at a time.
1 girl always got all of me.

[NineBreaker]

No, never. I hold myself to a high standard. It is never OK to cheat, even if your SO is literally just awful.

[F-eight]

No. Never. Only one chick.

[leahzrc]

when i was promiscuous i had side dicks

[Miristheiss]

Gross

[leahzrc]

just like having side chicks

[ChefPapiChulo]

I knew you were a thot

[leahzrc]

lol yeah were

[Miristheiss]

Are They doesn't go away. That is forever

[leahzrc]

how is that forever? i was a thot because i hated myself and couldnt accept that i was asexual. its been over a year since I've had any sort of sexual experience. i haven't had any relationships until a coworker asked me out a month ago after knowing him for 9 months. i haven't even seen him during quarantine and im not interested in anybody whatsoever. If that makes me a thot, so be it.

[ChefPapiChulo]

I remember that top early on, the white one. That was a thotty top. All that crying about "I didn't fit in highschool" lmao. I knew tho.

[leahzrc]

I wore a shirt that was tight and showed off my shoulders and belly button, but nobody was taking that shirt off of me, nobody saw pictures of that shirt off of me, it was my style, and when i left the house i wore it with a cardigan. i didn't fit in highschool for very different reasons...

[ChefPapiChulo]

it was a shirt that invites attention lmao. meaning attention seeking behavior.

[Miristheiss]

Chemical reactions happen in brain... dopamine is released... you "bond" with everyone you have sex with. That is with you for life. It doesn't just go away.

[ChefPapiChulo]

@Miristheiss that sounds like nonsense. What doesn't go away is attention seeking behavior. That's stuck with a persons personality.

[leahzrc]

@chef okay well my profile picture isn't showing as much skin and i dont post on social media but i really am such an attention seeker

[leahzrc]

@miris i never said i was a born again virgin but with sex it wasn't even double digits...

[ChefPapiChulo]

whooooo caaaarrrressssss

[leahzrc]

obviously you do if you had something negative to say

[ChefPapiChulo]

I was talking about the really tight white top. That was kinda sexy.

[leahzrc]

lmao sexy doesn't make me a whore

[ChefPapiChulo]

I called you a thot not a whore. Unless you were paid.

[leahzrc]

Same difference

[ChefPapiChulo]

you're not very smart are you? You should go back to school. And get a degree.

[leahzrc]

i know the difference but calling me a thot is equally as bad as calling me a whore, that's the same difference you goof

[ChefPapiChulo]

No. A whore is someone who does it for money and lots of it. A thot is someone who enjoys male attention. Doesn’t even have to be with sex although it usually does end up with sex.

[leahzrc]

i know the difference, it's just as insulting of an insult to use either or

[ChefPapiChulo]

not the same meaning. I could call you itty bitty titty. Equally insulting, but not the same.

[Miristheiss]

Who cares.

[leahzrc]

i love that my titties are itty bitty. not insulting lmao

[ChefPapiChulo]

whooooo carrrresssss

[theChineseWASP]

Yeah side chicking is great.

[Daniela1982]

Nice to know cheaters can sometimes admit it. :(

[theChineseWASP]

@Daniela1982 I was just joking around. Cheating is never a joke and I don't support it.

[Daniela1982]

You never know on this site who is joking or who is telling the truth. So if cheating is never a joke why were you joking about it?

[theChineseWASP]

@Daniela1982 I mean actual real life cheating not but still I understand what you mean and I apologize for my joke.

[Daniela1982]

Accepted. Although you needed apologize to anyone if it is something you really believe in.

[AlexanderBrunnrgaard]

I'm a one woman's man kind of guy.

[humanearth]

Yes I have

[Anpu23]

I had a kept mistress for a while.

[JustinTheGreat]

Nope. I would never ruin my relationship over some sex with a sidehoe