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Sexual Health My boyfriend calls himself a faggot during anal penetration. Does this make him gay or bi?
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So, my boyfriend has recently discovered he likes anal penetration. I oblige this because I love him and want him to feel good. Recently I used my dildo on him and he referred to himself as a faggot several times during "sexy" talk. After I was done on him, he said "sorry I'm such a little faggot" and before I used the dildo on him, he asked if I would be wearing it. =\ I've asked him several times in the past (before the anal penetration) if he's gay. I was joking, but he always assures me he definitely isn't gay/doesn't like dudes at all. He's the last person one would think is gay if you base it off of stereotypes. Occasionally he comments on the attractiveness of female celebrities, but never male celebrities. He loves boobs and female butts as he's always trying to touch mine. He likes to dominate by pulling my hair and generally being rough but he doesn't really like being the one on top. But because of recent events, I'm beginning to think that maybe he would be afraid to come out of the closet because his family would be disappointed if he were gay, and all the things he seems to like that are typical of heterosexual males might just be a show. Also, he's told me he has never been able to cum inside any girlfriend he's been with after a certain ex that really messed with his emotions. Sex usually ends with him jerking himself off with me "helping" during and afterwards. He's usually more concerned if I end up orgasming or not. He's really sweet and I know that he loves me because he invests a lot of time into our relationship and is very thoughtful, but sometimes I'm afraid he's only with girls because of how he was raised. His family is cool with gay people but probably would be disappointed if he ever told them he's gay. He's mentioned us getting married a few times (we've been together for a year and 7 months) but I'm so afraid that some time down the road, he'll come out while we're married. I'd love anyone's thoughts on the matter,
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8 23People can be weird that way when they're horny. It's kind of like being drunk---you're ready to say and do things you never would normally.
I'm guessing it's just fuck-talk.
It sounds like he worships you and clearly enjoys sex with you. (It's not "gay" to care if your woman finishes.) At worst he needs to relax and enjoy himself in bed more.
He could just feel gay cause he likes it an no man is supposed to but I've read so many guy like it on her there is a chance he is
I think he's getting off on the humiliation aspect of being degraded. But I might be wrong. Does he enjoy other aspects of humiliation?
He certainly likes making an ass of himself lol
No, sounds like he just likes anal and is into being submissive, with some humiliation.
Seems he used to have dicks
My boyfriend likes anal and I know he's straight, he's never called himself a faggot or anything but he does enjoy being licked, fingered, use toys etc on him. A lot of guys seem to like anal and are straight
Yeah, before the whole calling himself a faggot thing I just assumed he was one of those guys because I know a ton of them and they're definitely all straight. I wanted to ask him about it right after we were done, but I'm afraid it'll scare him. I guess if it happens again, I'm going to have to.. =\
Maybe he just feels that way because of the actions happening like your using a dildo in his ass. Just make him comfortable with doing it and if he enjoys it there should be no shame, should be private between you 2 what you each like.
Yeah, since it was one of the first few times, I'm thinking maybe he just felt ashamed of himself in that moment and didn't really know what to think about it and was just apologizing for it in the only way he knew how. Either way, if it happens again, I'll have to bring it up...