Guy I'm with is not playing with my boobs. What should I do?

I (26) recently met a guy (29) on tinder and when we were kissing on our second date he told me that it's his first kiss. I could tell that he doesn't have much experience but didn't think of it much. On the third date he asked me if he can touch my boobs and he only touched them. I was kind of excited and hoped that he'd squeeze them and play with them but he just touched those. Would it be weird if I asked him to do it or should I let him figure it out by himself?

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  • Oh girl, when it comes to learning each other's bodies every person goes at their own pace! Some dudes are shy at first.

    Since he asked to touch your boobs, it shows he's into exploring but may just need more comfort building. I say next time things start getting hot, gently guide his hands to show him what feels good to you. Something like "You can squeeze a little if you want." Said low and sexy will totally put him at ease.

    Communication is so important, so don't be afraid to speak up about what you like. But go slow so he doesn't feel pressure. With a little encouragement I bet he'll catch on quick! From the sounds of it he really cares about your pleasure too.

    Keep the vibe fun and trusting between you. With time and comfort level growing I'm sure he'll get bolder. Let your body language show your enjoyment too - that'll do wonders for his confidence. You got this girl!

  • The next time you are making out, don't say anything, just grab his hands and guide him in how you want to be touched.

    As a matter of fact if he is inexperienced and doesn't know what to do guide him as far as you want to go. And a great way for a girl to ask for sex is to present the condom or ask if he brought one. He will understand you are saying yes to his internal thought and will cease being shy about your intentions. But you didn't hear this from me.

Most Helpful Girls

  • Like two options he's simply an ass guy or second you say he's inexperienced maybe he just doesn't know whats normal and ok for you

    • @lowiu why are more girls not like you :D

    • What do you mean?

    • nice to guys instead of been man haters for not been confident and or complaining that guys touch girls when they shouldn't

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  • Don't ask him, take his hand and put it up your shirt and squeeze it while still keeping your hand on his hand. He will get it.

    • @pillubi why are more girls not like you :D

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  • Ask him if he likes your boobs. I'm sure he will say yes. Then tell him how much you enjoy having them touched. Show him how to touch them by caressing and squeezing them and playing with your nipples yourself.
    Once he gets the idea, tell him how much your enjoy having your nipples licked and sucked. Then give him positive feedback when he does it right.
    Tell him how horny it makes you feel.
    One girlfriend told me that the sensation went straight to her pussy.

  • Buy him a coloring book.
    Buy him a coloring book.
  • If I were in your position, I would ask him to play with them more.

    • @elliegirl why are more girls not like you :D

  • Ask him why... Simples!

    • Ahhh the direct approach...

    • @emmamary might scare him better to guide him with your hands ;)

    • @rebeliouse Do you know I actually thought of this, after I posted my first comment.

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  • Don’t tell him it’ll be very weird. Take his hands and direct them to your boobs and squeeze your boobs using his hands, he’ll take it from there

    • @msprosperity why are more girls not like you :D

  • tell him what you enjoy

  • Show him what you like. The experience he is lacking is knowing how to ask. If I were seeing you, I wouldn't know what you like but I would know how to find out, or I would make you comfortable telling me.

  • For some reason, some guys are not breast lovers and I have been guilty of not paying them any attention even after she said: "I used to date a guy that sucked my nipples and got them hard, and then blew on them, and it felt sooooo good"

    Even after she told me that, I was stupid enough or thoughtless enough to not do what she told me. ?🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️🤔🤔🤔🤔

  • If you are gonna go in and have sex then you may need to tell him what you like and/or take charge if he is shy.

    • why are more girls not like you :D @ladykitty

    • @rebeliouse There is plenty out there but I am just thinking this from a logical standpoint! Though then again I have always took initiative when it has came to my relationships.

    • @ladykitty are you vanilla or filthy dirty kinky?

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  • If you want him to play with your boobs, take his hands and place them on your boobs, then tell him how good it feels when he squeezes and plays with them.
    Guys are simple... sometimes you just gotta be blunt.

  • You can ask him to touch them again if you want. He’s probably just nervous

  • Tell him your tits need attention. Be clear and firm in your communication and needs

  • tell him what you want him to do.. use your words not your subtle clues that go way over his head.

  • You could try asking him, just an idea.

  • he's clearly not doing what he should be doing, and that is squeezing, licking, kissing and sucking and rubbing the boobs/the tits, hell if they were huge, what kind of guy ignores them lol 😂😆

  • You'll have to bring the horse to water. Get on top and open your top, remove your bra and offer them to his lips, he'll soon get the idea.

    if he's very inexperienced, he might also cum.

  • Your call. You know how he would react.

  • If he's. Truly got so little experience , we'll someones going to have to teach him.

  • communication. talk to him. don't just hope he'll get it, you gotta actually tell him how you like it.

  • he's obviously shy. why not encourage him instead? make them jiggle before he touches them again or motorboat him if you have to. he will eventually get the point

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