Have you ever had sex or a sexual fantasies with a bad guy, aka, a BAD BOY?

Tonytoutouni123 Xper 6

I mean, for example, a drug dealer, prison inmate, etc., or anyone else who harms others like a cheater, someone who exploits others.

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menina Master
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No, I've never had such fantasies. They're a bit sick in my opinion because realistically speaking sex or even a relationship with a "bad boy" would be terrible!
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mandyfire98 Master
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No and most of the time who we refer to as "bad boys" aren't the same as who men view as bad boys.
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- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 Who do you refer to as "bad boys"? Is there any other type of bad boys besides the one I described that you find attractive?
- mandyfire98
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  Yeah like what we say is a bad boy is nowhere near as bad as what men think. Men think bad boy means "drug dealer/addict, abusive, convict, sociopath. It's always extreme. What women mean by bad boy is merely, confident, outgoing, maybe a bit hard headed, can be opinionated, might not follow all the rules, outspoken, might be accused of being a bit of an asshole at times, passionate, not introverted, not laid back, might have been the type of guy to sneak alcohol to a function back in highschool but not even be an alcoholic. Guy might own something like a motorcycle, more carefree type personality. That's what we mean by an actual badboy.
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 Why is it attractive if the guy is a bit of an asshole at times, and what is attractive about being a bit hard headed? I don`t like people who always have to stick to their opinion even when they are obviously wrong.
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- mandyfire98
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  It's not even about being right or wrong as much as being passionate enough to stand up and have the confidence to maybe be a little confrontational sometimes and not fear those moments. As opposed to people who just avoid it at all costs and are constant "yes men" A bit of fire inside will always be more attractive than none. Doesn't mean the guy is just constantly mean or abusive at all.
- mandyfire98
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  It just means he has an upfront and unapologetic confidence and take charge attitude
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 Okay, I find it very disappointing that many women find men attractive who can't admit when they're wrong. But apparently, many women don't care about that; they prefer a stubborn guy. Well, I'll just avoid women like that like the plague. Thanks for your opinion.
- mandyfire98
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  Haha I never said they would argue and stand up for themselves when wrong. That's what you want to hear. That's not the truth. Hard headed and sometimes confrontational doesn't mean the person is wrong it just means they're willing to stand up and not just back down without a spine. They can be standing up for themselves and be 100 percent right in the argument. This whole bad boy thing comes down to what mostly introverted guys have made who they view as "chads" out to be these awful abusive horrible guys because that's the shy introverted non social guy's competition and they get mad when the women they want go for more confident and social men. So how do they cope with that? They demonize these men and claim they're bad guys who're abusive and borderline sociopaths. It's a coping mechanism. Whereas in real life these "chads" are normal guys who are just more confident, more outspoken and more social. So that gives them the edge. They aren't drug dealers and convicts and abusive at all. The competition isn't always the bad people. The more successful people aren't always bad.
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 "Hard headed and sometimes confrontational doesn't mean the person is wrong it just means they're willing to stand up and not just back down without a spine. They can be standing up for themselves and be 100 percent right in the argument." Okay, but what you're describing here has nothing to do with the word "bad," does it? I'm German, so my English isn't particularly good, and I work a lot with ChatGPT as a translator, but I believe my English is good enough to know what the word "bad" in "bad boys" means. It means that a "boy" has something morally reprehensible about him. Someone who just expresses their opinion is absolutely not morally reprehensible. So it doesn't make sense to call it "bad" when a man rightfully has backbone. But okay, now I know you didn't mean stubbornness when you were talking about finding it attractive if the guy is hard-headed. That aside, you also mentioned that he "might be accused of being a bit of an asshole at times." But assuming a guy isn't slandered, he usually is only accused of being an asshole if he behave morally reprehensibly. It doesn't make sense for someone to be accused of being an asshole if they haven't been mean to anyone. That's why I stick to my opinion that I don't want anything to do with women who find bad boys attractive. Its just totally repulsive for me. I have absolutely no problem with a woman preferring men who are better looking than me, better at flirting, more successful, more quick-witted and can articulate better than me, etc., but I don't want a woman who finds assholes attractive. But that's just a quirk of mine. I know that most men don't give a shit about that.
- mandyfire98
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  When I say asshole it's because some men are labeled that way because they speak their minds not necessarily because they are being rude or mean. Some men are more boisterous and can be labeled assholes that way but are actually not mean or rude just taken that way. This could be due to jealousy or just a clash of personalities. Not because they're actually rude people.
- Tonytoutouni123
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  But again, it doesn't make sense to me why you label these men as bad boys... If someone is falsely called an asshole even though he is not mean or rude, it doesn't make sense to call him a bad boy. He is not bad, evil, or anything like that. He hasn't done anything wrong. That's why I suspect that when women say they find bad boys attractive, deep down they actually mean men who behave morally reprehensibly.
- mandyfire98
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  You'd be wrong about women wanting morally reprehensible guys. Because the majority of women aren't in those relationships. The statistics would be far higher.
- mandyfire98
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  And they aren't. When we say bad boys it's just a saying. It doesn't literally mean bad. Lots of slang isn't literal.
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 "You'd be wrong about women wanting morally reprehensible guys. Because the majority of women aren't in those relationships. The statistics would be far higher." I dont believe that most women want relationship with bad boys, maybe when they are teenagers but in there early 20s, I think most of them want hookups with bad boys but relationships with good guys. "When we say bad boys it's just a saying. It doesn't literally mean bad. Lots of slang isn't literal." I don't know... I guess I can't believe that, but thank you anyway for your explanations. Undoubtedly, there are also women who say that they have never been attracted to bad boys, so I can just look for women like that. No need to go after women who say they have been attracted to bad boys and then try to interpret what they probably mean... I prefer women who from the start found these men repulsive and clearly state it without misunderstanding.
- mandyfire98
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  Well if you prefer women who don't want to actively be with actual drug addicts or abusive men then that's good. You're also in luck because the majority of women haven't been with men like that or even want that. You don't have anything to worry about
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 "Not actively being with actual drug addicts or abusive men" is not sufficient to meet my moral standards for a woman.
- mandyfire98
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  Oh I'm sure you have very very lengthy qualifications that need to be met overall. I'm not doubting that at all lol. But all I can say is good luck and you'll find what you're looking for. Godspeed
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 If she is attracted to or used to be attracted to "bad boys", i don't want her, regardless of which definition of 'bad boys' she subscribes to. Even if she was only attracted to a single guy that broke rules in class, I dont want her. Only exception would be if it was solely stupid rules that he broke. But even if he just "sneak alcohol to a function back in highschool" I dont want her to find it attractive and unattractive if someone refused to do drugs and alcohol in a young age.
- Tonytoutouni123
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  @mandyfire98 "Oh I'm sure you have very very lengthy qualifications that need to be met overall" No I just want a girl with a good character who isn't into guys who behave morally reprehensible, and besides that I need to be attracted to her. That's everything. Just these 2 points. I bet you bet your list of requirements in a partner is way longer than that. thanks. Good luck for you as well.
- mandyfire98
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  Most women aren't into morally reprehensible men. That's what I'm saying to you. That's why you won't have issues with that lol. That's why I think you have nothing to worry about. My list would be overall attraction and a person who I have overall chemistry with. So not that much longer. I don't know why you'd think I'd be more demanding.