Is corn the issue?

We’ve been together a few years now, happy for the most part, but one area always bothers me. He watches corn more than we have sex…. I’m not talking the occasional once/twice a week beat off, im talking every. single. day. Several times a day. I haven’t had sex (I have given him head) with my boyfriend in months. Every time I bring up how I’m in the mood or I try to make the first move… he turns me down… few hours later & he’s jacking off on the couch or in the bed right next to me while I’m awake. My friend mentioned that he might be gay or bisexual, which is fine, but at least tell me because at this point I am feeling extremely left out & insecure.

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  • if he's getting off to porn several times a day that definitely sounds like some kind of porn addiction, it doesn't really matter if he's gay or bi because COMMUNICATION is important in a relationship but this is extremely unfair and disrespectful to YOU - talk to him about this, about why he prefers porn to you because you deserve better

    • I’m beginning to think maybe I’m not his type. I have curves, I’m not obese but I’m not skinny either… I walked in from work & he was watching it on his computer… It was a super skinny blonde girl - I am a brunette & not skin & bone.

    • even if that's true, you've been together for how long? it's disrespectful regardless and if he can't give you something you need whilst HE'S getting it, then this relationship is incredibly unequal

    • We’ve been together almost 4 years now. I’ve tried talking to him, trying new things, outfits, etc.

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  • Porn is the issue. He is. I would speculate that he has an addiction, and that may have led to or he independently also has performance anxiety. Is he emotionally detached? Is he authentic in viewing himself? Like, if asked to identify false or problems could he accurately assess what his flaws are? Would he feel comfortable sharing those observations with you? I think I might try to encourage him to watch porn with you together and/or if you know what type of genre he likes discuss that together.

    • He is selfish. He doesn’t notice it is a problem and says “it’s just something I have to do”. When I bring it up (my needs) he says “I’m making a bigger deal out of it than what it is”. I’ve tried watching porn with him - he won’t. He is quick to turn it off if I walk in.

    • Really really odd behavior. I'm getting weird vibes from this tbh

    • I thought watching together might make it easier for me to maybe get action too, but, no. He won’t even share anything I could do for him, to him, etc.

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  • Awwww, I know how you feel I haven't had sex since I caught my fiancé having sex with some random guy snfbi broke our engagement and kicked them both our ogvthe house.

    • I am so sorry, that is horrible. I haven’t caught him with anyone, but, I did find blonde hair in the livingroom (im brunette) & he said he doesn’t know where they came from. That was 2 weeks ago, maybe 3.

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  • I am so sorry. I am slightly in the same boat, my husband likes porn and follows / browses naked woman daily on social media where I get his attention maybe once a week / 2 weeks or so for sex

    I wish I could give you an answer but I am just as insecure as you. It breaks me.

    He says he loves me the same it has nothing to do with me it's just something most men enjoy but it doesn't mean they don't care for you.
    It's an obsession, an addiction that he can't break.

    • @nessie6 poor wife.

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  • Unhealthy amount of porn is not good for anyone.

  • Yes, corn is empty calories he has to work off and that is how he is doing it.

    • I love this response, thank you, definitely needed that laugh today.

    • I can’t believe I didn’t catch that before I posted. 🤦‍♀️

    • I love that you didn't catch it! XD I do the same all the time!

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  • Is corn the issue?

    What can I say but..

  • sit him down and talk to him about it. if he feels a need over it rather than just doing it because he fancies it, then huge problem

    • I have, he always says if I don’t like it I can just leave.

    • so leave. he sounds like a dick.

  • Porn addiction. He needs therapy. If he continues, you won't be satisfied also in the long run and will start to resent him. It's much better to leave this relationship, in my opinion.

    • @seriouslynotserious logical.

  • How long are you going to wait for it to change? It sounds like you need to be extremely clear that this is understandable and it's going to change one way or another.

  • Man, how aren't you absolutely fuming. I'd be so mad if my guy did that. Porn is just cheating in my opinion

    • I’m upset, but at what point does the “take it or leave it” option work? Ya know. When will my brain and heart agree that it’s time to go…

  • Corn is more delicious on the cob and when you put melted butter on it. Popcorn is also good with melted butter.

  • I’m going through this and it’s devastating. It’s a lot bigger than just porn watching, 14 years and we have kids together, not married though, I have went above and beyond and I am just don’t at this point. It’s porn addiction. I find out more and more every few days and it’s heart wrenching, to the point I feel I want to die the pain is so bad. If you can get out of the relationship do so, I can’t just leave but wish I could, I will eventually just have to put things in order.

    • @K4keeps do you mind if I ask you for some advice? dm me if is okay?

    • Sure I don’t mind at all. And I can’t dm you says you don’t except dms

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  • Why are you saying corn?

    • It was a typo that apparently happened several times.