My boyfriend is upset because we didn't sext like we decided?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I decided we would sext today, but it didn't go as planned because I was exhausted from studying, fell asleep for a while and wasn't in the mood. I told him this and offered to do it some other time. Since then, he became distant for the rest of the day and finally told me that he waited all day and was disappointed. I told him he's lowkey making me feel guilty, to which he replied that it is kinda my fault. It really pissed me off, but I didn't say anything because I didn't wanna cause a fight. Is it my fault that I didn't sext when he wanted to?

[Koneko911]

I mean it's technically no one's fault. You were tired and didn't get to do something he wanted so he's upset. That's his feelings. Valid ones. You were tired and needed to rest. Your feelings are also valid. Shit happens. You gotta understand he's bummed. But he also has to understand people need to rest if they need to rest. You guys need to acknowledge how the other feels and just talk it out. Are you guys teenagers (only asking because most adult men would have understood you were tired)

[Asker]

Nope, we're 20

[Koneko911]

Ah so he's still basically a teen boy (he hasn't matured enough yet and his dick decides everything stage)

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I use to sext a lot with people. I stopped because I was typing all this stuff and got nothing in return. When sexting one person inevitably does more and the other reaps the benefits. Besides unless you’re a person with a great imagination and has good writing skill sexting could be difficult to do. If it’s not your thing then it’s not your thing and you shouldn’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Get upset because someone doesn’t do what you want is a red flag for your relationship.

[MittParekh15]

Well, such type of things should never be committed

It should be performed naturally, if not then the other person should also understand other person views

As it's not a individual work it's a team work, so better to have an honest conversation and try not to commit and perform it organically

Also try focusing on your studies as it will make your carrier and life.

[TommyMountainFigure]

It's really both your faults, but not for the reason you think.

You should never plan these things n advance, because when it goes wrong it can leave one or both frustrated.

[laly520]

thats a very toxic immature boyfriend u got there

he gaslighted u into thinking its ur fault n also wasn't considering how u felt or ur condition

in this case, his sexual needs came before ur feelings n well being

a major red flag if it keeps repeating which most likely would happen

[BarryLiverstone]

You both wanted to sext. So yes, you should apologize.

[Alex-Snow]

Both of you have to be in the mood for sexting. I'm sure he was looking forward to jerking off with you. Hopefully he took care of that anyway. How old is he? Just promise him another session when you feel up to it. Ur thoughts?

[Asker]

Well, we're both college students. Both 20.

[Alex-Snow]

Has it messed with ur sex life with him at all?

[Staximus]

He's mad because you didn't send him dirty texts? The guy is a ducking idiot weirdo. How is that even important?

[jahaims]

Look at it as a positive. Your partner is upset that he missed out on being sexual with you. Which is reasonable. How he is reacting isn't the most mature though. He is probably sexually frustrated and doesn't know how to handle it.

[George767574]

He just can't force something you because he wanted. Though it was planned and agreed by both but situation doesn't permit then he should understand.

Just relax and stay cool. Nothing is your fault.