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Sexual Health My boyfriend likes to spank my a** with a belt, as punhisment. Is that abuse?
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Me (20) and my boyfriend (26) are together for 3 years and i live with him for almost a year. Everyday when he comes home after work he asks me to go to the bedroom, bend over the bed and wait for him to finish spank me with a belt. He spanks me for like 10 minutes straight. My ass turns so red and sometimes it starts to bleed due to the bruises. Since im so use to it, everyday, i become very tolerate to the pain. I know this might sound awful, but i like it, it turns me on. It's our thing. He says that it's amazing how tolerate i am, because his two exs couldn't even take three spanks without starting to cry. So im kinda proud. I would do anything to make him happy. I know this thing it's not only a turn on for him but also a stress-relieving because he works really hard, and has a stupid demading boss. I can tell if he had a bad day just for the way he spanks me. Sometimes when we're having sex, he likes to demand me to do stuff, makes me naughty questions and i have to answer with yes sir or no sir. The thing is, i saw something on Tv once, they were talking about an abusive relationship. They said it was abusive because the guy use to spank his wife with a belt too, and with her consense, but since he couldn't control himself anymore he started to beat her up until she lost her senses... They said it was very common this to happen in relationships, the women think it's ok, everything it's nice first, and then their in a trap and can't differentiate what's good and what's not. I trust a lot in my boyfriend, and he never hurted me or did something i didn't want. He's always very calm, patient, sweet and a really good person. But I don't want my boyfriend to bring what we do in the bedroom to the outside. Sometimes i think about it, i don't want to end up in an abusive and unhealthy relationship. Do you think it's possible? Should i worry?
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*i said he spanks me with the belt as punhisment but not literally lol
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What Girls & Guys Said
14 21as long as you are ok with it no it is not abuse
It's assault
It's abuse unless you agree to his system of discipline. Everyone needs discipline. Do you have a safeword? I wouldn't consider it abuse if he respects your safeword.
Is he turn on by the spanking?
If you don't like it, then yes it is abuse.
if you dont like it yes- if you do and you consent- no.
Noooooo it’s not. My hubby has spanked me with a belt for 20 years. I got it Friday actually. Now if he hits you with his fist or slaps your face anything else but spanking the ass is abuse.
Just have a safe word in case it gets too much.
Why would you put up with this abuse?
I never saw it as abuse. Like i said, im ok with this but just a little afraid if he takes this outside the bedroom and becomes too extreme and without control...
Well it sounds like he could. I would never put up with this abuse.
IT'S ALREADY ABUSIVE YOU SHOULD BE WORRYING BREAK UP WITH HIM RIGHT NOW. (Screaming=Caps Lock ON)