My boyfriend ONLY likes doggystyle, like 100% of the time. What's the deal guys?

I've been with him for over a year, and I'm so terribly bored with the one and only preferred position on his part. I mention it sometimes, but somehow that's always how we end up. Don't get me wrong, I like it too, but like that is literally the only position he ever wants to do & it just seems odd to me...
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  • Your relationship is still new. Thing is with doggy style it’s very visual for the male. And if you have a nice ass he’s probably enjoying everything about it. And it helps him finish. I mean there’s so many reason guys (and women) like the position. Keep in mind that sex is all about positive communication. Each person telling Uhr other what they like or dislike. I’m sure every woman would love to have their man be able to read their minds. But would you really? You just have to tell him maybe open his eyes up to other things that you like. For all you know he may think it’s a position that you always like just the same as him. The same position done every time can get very boring real quick and take the sparkle out of it as well.
    Be confident. You say that everything else in the relationship is good. So confidently tell him you want to try something different. Maybe make a sexual game out of it. Tease him with messages throughout the day and when it comes time to get to it encourage him to follow the rules. Maybe make his winning prize be finishing in his favorite position. Unless he finishes to fast then you’re going to have to get creative. Sometimes guys minds are very simple when it comes to sex. So present his prize let him know he’ll get it ONLY if he does this that and the other.
    Who knows... by playing that kinda game you and him might find a different “favorite” position.

  • Stop doing it so much.
    As you start to curtail your availability, he should get the message at some point.

    However, if he refuses to change, move on.
    There were plenty of other men who would be happy to service your needs in just the way you want.

    Remember:
    Sex is about selfishness.
    If you can't be who you want to be and "have it your way", then sex is work.
    Sex is not supposed to be about work; it supposed to be about selfish pleasure and emotional release.

    • What you're saying makes sense. The only trouble is, we are in a relationship, and I do love him, he's great in every other way...

    • Being in love does not mean that your have the strength of Jell-O on hot day. I am not saying cut him off. I am saying deny the opportunity more. Master these tried and true sentences developed by your foremothers for thousands of years: 1. I have a headache. 2. I don't feel so good. 3. I'm tired. 4. I really have to get up early in the morning and don't want to feel beat. 5. I think I'm getting my period. 6. Can we watch a movie instead? Then there's the H-bomb: 7. I've changed my mind and don't want to do it anymore until we are married. Maybe I will change my mind back, but give me a few weeks to try this.

    • Sound advice... guess ill have to play a prude to help improve mankind 😂

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  • Hmmmm. I don't really know. But it doesn't seem good, does it. He's got some issue (s).
    Are you happy with him otherwise? If you're around 18 and it's been already a year, do you think you may have explored and given this relationship enough time?
    It doesn't conjure up a very good image of him. What else is he missing/does he do, I wonder...

    • I'm 22, other than that honestly all is well. We get along great, have fun, enjoy each others friends and family. I genuinely enjoy him... partially why I probably don't address it too much because I really have no other complaints.

  • Let him know that your needs aren’t being met and you need variety

    • I should have done that along time ago. I guess I just feel bad because I honestly thought at some point he absolutely would get bored of the same old thing lol... I mean we are young, and besides this weirdness everything is great. Now I'm just sorta concerned that if I'm like "I don't like that" he's going to get embarrassed

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  • Your face is too distracting to look at while he's trying to image your sister.

  • He might not be to the point in life where he wants to use some variety. The suggestion I would give would be to try to politely direct him to finish in a different position. I can understand your concern with it.

    • Thank you!

  • obviously, it's your fault for having such a nice looking bootie. duh :D

  • Sounds like a narrow mind.
    You need to have a talk with him and tell him that you want to try some different positions. Maybe buy a book on sex positions. If you both have a fairly limber body, there are a bunch of fun positions you can try.
    OR, get used to being on your hands and knees like you are now.

  • I like to start with missionary as we've been into some extended foreplay and using missionary we can continue to be intimate, the eventually switch to cow girl and as she rides me I can access and play with her boobs and nipples, then I do usually prefer to finish doggy as I can get deep, hold on to her hips and really give her a good pounding.

    • Makes sense I know guys have their style and finishing position preferences,. I don't know how to explain it, its not like he's completely inattentive. Leading up to the deed is all fine, but VERY quickly after any penetration starts its right to doggy... and then he tries to like reach around to like grab my boobs or clit... its just awkward. I've almost let it be long enough that im Not even sure what to say at this point.

    • Communication is key in the success of any relationship whether it be a sexual relationship, an emotional relationship or both. You must be able to communicate with each other or the relationship is not going to work. I hear you thou, what he's trying to do probably ends up feeling like he's desperately trying to claw away to reach your boobs and clit and yet he may very well think this is what you need send want. He probably saw it done in porn. Sadly it seems so many guys and gals don't seem to grasp how unrealistic and fake porn truly is. And probably wouldn't fathom what happens on a porn set. Fake orgasms, fake cum and the only reason the shoots his load on the girls face is because they must show the so called money shot. Myself after lots of making out and foreplay I like to give my girl at least two or three orgasms orally prior to penetration. That way she is set up and ready for another orgasm during penetration. Everyone is happy and satisfied when we're done and ready to cuddle and just enjoy each other's presence. I hope you can talk with him and make him understand your frustration. You deserve more!

    • Thank you!

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  • take a little control over your sex life. next time your fooling around with each other. push him safely onto the bed or couch and mount him. if he tries to move you into doggy style position. stop him and say you wanna try something different this time. if he says no then just cut him off for a while.

    sometimes being a bit dominant can be a good thing. if you don't take things to far.

    • I have subtly tried that, its just after less than 5 minutes, he wants to switch & I don't know maybe I'm weird but I'm not trying to make a scene in the middle of the deed... I'm probably over thinking it

  • Take control, climb on top of him. If it really bugs you then make him listen to you or ditch him

    • I asked to see if its a thing. I don't have a huge source of men to survey just hanging around me. Especially ones is feel comfortable asking when they know him!

  • I used to date someone who was the same way, they always wanted to do the same 2 positions and it got to the point where I was glad our relationship ended because I really wanted to sleep with other people...

    • Besides that... did everything else seem fine? Like he's great, honestly don't have any other complaints... but I'm so bored of the sex, like... I'm not tempted to cheat, but makes me think this is why some people do... I've only been with a couple other people, and I like this one MUCH more as a person, but his bedroom game is no good.

    • That relationship was pretty shitty in general tbh so the bad sex wasn’t exactly the deal breaker. i would just have a serious talk to him and tell him exactly how you feel. I wouldn’t break up with him over it if he’s a good guy

    • Good advice. Im just more of the subtle hints & why can't he read my mind type. 😂 lol but really I just don't want to embarrass him or make things weird, I honestly for the longest thought... okay his ex had no ads, its just new he will eventually wanna try something new... but nope 15 months later, and still the same thing 😵

  • Is the moust primitive position, maby for him that position is more interesting for his brain, like oure ancestors.
    Olso is a very easy position, you can fuck hard because you can get help olso from your hands and partener.

    • Fair enough.

  • Have you told him you want to try other positions some guys are perfectly okay with one position and only one if you want to try different things you need to make sure he knows that

    • Yeah, I don't really "get off" that easy & he's always like upset about it... I've mentioned more than once that maybe I would if we tried a different position... and rarely when we do "try" I try to be encouraging, but within like 5 minutes he's all turn around, and then that's that...

    • It sounds like he just wants to get off and be done and doesn't really care if you get off at all

  • "Don't get me wrong, I like it too" Okay, so...

  • Ugh... I feel bad for you, darlin'. (Please stop misusing the word "literally") :-D

    • Aww thank you I always appreciate a good grammar police man coming around!

    • Just trying to help, one sentence at a time !! :)

    • I'm certain your charity work has helped prep many people for success. If only they were more grateful.

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  • Since it's not really one of my favorites it seems odd to me too - but different strokes for different folks.

    I think the question may be more too the why.
    Have you tried what would be the same position in a different way? like reverse cowgirl for instance? Or the frog?

  • You get a great view, and it probably feels best out of all positions for a guy.

    But it is weird to not mix it up I think.

    • Yeah, I was asking to get a perspective I've only been with a few people.

    • Well, sometimes we all have our " go to " positions. But personally , I couldn't have sex in the one position without getting bored. Need variety. I hope you can have a chat with him about it.

  • He learned how to perform sex by watching a German Shepherd.
    Give it time.
    One of these days he'll bark or howl.

  • I don't like doggy style I night have you lay on your stomach with your legs closed for a few min to mix it up ( feel so different and good for both ) but I prefer to see your face I want to look into your eyes and as we both reach out point together I want to hold you as close as I can with my lips pressed against yours. That's the closest physically and emotionally we could ever be and I don't want to miss a single breath...

  • Talk to him not us.

  • Sex is for your enjoyment too, not just his. Don't let him dictate the position every time.

    • True. Its almost like I've let things go on like this long enough that I'm worried if I make a big deal of it he will like be embarrassed or something.

  • Maybe you should just take control after a bit. Or you could just refuse to do doggy style.

  • Doesn't want you to see his O face

    • Really? Lol I don't think it could be that bad!

    • I don't know what else it could be

    • Fair enough, its strange to me too, guess it could be anything.

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