You did nothing wrong and you sound perfectly normal.
Everybody is different - you like what you described, and you were honest about it, -and- you told it to him! That is -wonderful-. Do you have any idea how many guys would DIE to have a girl like that? One who knows what she wants and TELLS you straight up... you are worth your weight in gold.
What you do now depends on how you feel and how he feels. He sounds a bit selfish, if I was in a relationship and someone did what you did (told me - HALLELUJA! - what she WANTS without me having to guess, which is how it usually goes) I'd fall over myself to comply and do whatever she needs or likes sexually.
How do you feel about him? Is there love? His comment about "daddy issues" sounds a bit strange. It almost sounds like he's having an attack of conscience or something. TALK to him - maybe he was raised to respect women and it feels to him as if he is degrading you if he does that? Maybe his sexual preference just does not include even mildly "rough stuff" with a woman?
There is no way I or anybody else here can know.
A good idea might be to write him a note, or talk in a non-sexual setting and honestly and openly tell him that you weren't joking, that is what you desire and you NEED to have him do that for you (if you do feel that strongly about him.) He can either accept it, and start doing it, or he can deflect it again... it all depends. You'll need to decide and adapt as to how he responds. If a little hair pulling and a few sexy words (oh boy... taking it from the back - and you said it just like THAT - how wonderful - you're perfect!!!) is too much for him - I mean you're not asking to peg him or pee on him or anything like that - maybe he is not right for you or he doesn't feel comitted enough to you.
So don't stress, you're perfectly normal and what you want to do is YOUR preference - if I had half the chance I (and many guys here, I'm sure) would fall over ourselves to be with you - for the simple reason you are honest and open and say what you need - which makes it easy to get REALLY attached to you and intimate with you. It is VERY rare to get that from a woman, in my experience.
Hope this helped? :)
You did not sound like a freak. Just because you like different sexual stimulation that he does, doesn't make you a freak, and it was shameful he ignored your desires and criticized you for them before leaving to sleep on the couch.
Relationships should be about compromise and giving each other what you need and being understanding to those needs. You like to be choked. You like to have your hair pulled. These are preferences unique to you that make you the person you are, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, or you for that matter.
It is appalling to me he belittled your preferences by saying you have daddy issues, instead of recognizing how special it was that you felt confident enough and safe enough with him to open up about your desires, your likes, and what you enjoy in bed, and instead of praising you for such a gift, he sneered at it. That's is wrong on several levels and shows to me at least he's more interested in himself and what he likes, than in what gives you pleasure and in what gives you satisfactions.
Finally, I would suggest you think very hard on this incident and consider if you're in the right relationship if this is how you are going to be treated every time you open up about something you like or dislike, because if you're just going to get negative feedback then that's not a healthy or stable environment or relationship for you to be in and in the end you're happiness is just as important as his and you do deserve to be happy and to be with someone who's going to appreciate who you are and all that you are. No matter what.
Oh my gosh, you are my other half. Okay so I used to only be able to cum from oral sex, I like it rough too. I like taking it from behind and calling my boyfriend daddy and begging, and telling him to fuck me like a slut, really filthy dirty talk like that. I took his virginity about 4 months ago and was nervous to tell him hhow I like it because a guy I had been with before him had told me that I was a freak too. Thankfully he was open to anything that would make me feel the best and now he loves it too :) Sit down with him and explain to him that it's important to you to feel sexually satisfied in your relationship.
I know that cumming and not faking is very important to me and I explained to him that sexual satisfaction is a big influence on my happiness in a relationship. Explain this to your guy and if he's still not willing to even try it, it might be time to reconsider your relationship. Relationships are about compromise and if he's not even willing to entertain trying something that will make you happy, there are PLENTY of men who are into the exact things that you described and are willing to make you happy.
I've been in your situation. And actually had the guy tell me I had issues too. That ended it. If he can't give me what I want then it's time to leave. I understand you like him a lot but an orgasm is kind of an important thing in a relationship. If you have to fake it that's not good. And if he's not willing to do what he needs to do to please you sexually you need to find someone who does, he sounds kind of selfish in this also. Honestly your kink isn't that odd. A lot of girls like their hair pulled. And I think choking too, that's not for me but I don't judge people that like it, and it seems that there are a lot of people that do.
You're 18-24 years old girl. You're likely not going to marry this guy so I'd leave now and go screw someone that's going to get you off. Good luck to you.
Perhaps he finds them A... Turn Off Now Somehow.
I would not Use the Words 'Sound like a freak,' but More in the Lines of 'I am kinky,' and he May have thought it sounded More a Bit "Stinky" than Anything.
Sit down as a Two Mature adults who are this couple, and Talk This over. You both need to Get on the same page, so no Problems down the Path with Any sort Of... Real Issues.
Good luck. xx
You sound like a submissive and/or a masochist. Research bdsm a bit and show your boyfriend the articles you find, show him you're not that weird and there are lots of people who enjoy that kind of lifestyle. He might not be dominant though, prepare to live with that. Or to break up if you can't.
Why are you faking orgasms? I never understood why girls would do that.
I'm not into bdsm. Because I can't reach them
What do you mean, can't reach them?
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What's Your Opinion? Sign Up Now!He is not interested in doing that sexually, and I think your better off leaving it alone or find somebody else. All you did is talked about your sexually interest, and you two don't match. You can't force him to do something he doesn't want to do. That was just his opinion. I don't know how long you two were together, but that is the simple reality.
LOOL that's like vanilla kink. 😂
Not a freak at all. I like chocking, hair pulling and rough sex, considered kink to some but it isn't really, and on another note it's extremely normal.
But on the other side, who doesn't want a freak in bed? 😏
I don't even consider myself a freak or kinky to be honest I just like sex with action rather than be laying there having a thing coming in and out of my body
No you're not a freak. I think it's important to let your boyfriend know what you like during sex so it's enjoyable for you too. Maybe he just didn't feel like talking at that moment. You should bring it up again and next time when you have sex try to guide him a bit and see if he likes it (dont force it if he's not into it). For example you say you like to be choked so guide his hand towards your neck.
WTF is wrong with that guy? To have a woman who openly admits loving this stuff during sex is a dream come true for most guys!
You need to dump that boyfriend that isn't satisfying you and doesn't seem to share the same sexual things you like.
But I really like him that's what makes me stay
Your more than welcomed too. But after a while "liking" isn't going to be enough to keep you around when your not being satisfied. That's why I would cut my losses now.
You're not a freak and none of those things insinuate you have daddy issues. He's likely just more sexually reserved and you two may not be sexually compatible.
I don't think you sound like a freak, or like you have "daddy issues", ask him what makes him so uncomfortable about what you like? And if he can't get on board either you have to deal with what you have or maybe realise that you just aren't sexually compatible. You sound similar to me and I had issues like that with an ex, sometimes it's just like this.
That might have been a bit much for him, some people just aren't that kinky... Definitely talk about it with him. Everyone certain limitations in the bedroom.
if this is a new relationship, maybe you intimidated him.
Instead of telling him the list of things up front, why don't you mention one thing at a time WHILE he is doing you?
This is pretty standard I think these days as BDSM is becoming less taboo. Sounds like he just wasn't horny is all.
I'm not into bdsm tho
choking and hair pulling are elements of BDSM
Choking is pretty far from the norm. It's not a bad thing. You didn't do anything wrong.. just surprised him.
Your man might just be "vanilla" when it comes to sex/sexual stuff. You probably have to warm him up to the new things.
lol "fix it" You're funny :)
thank you
Well to him you did but I think it's okay... The thing is people have different views on things and he obviously doesn't like the same things that you do... Try and talk to him about it if you love him I'm sure you guys can make an agreement or something like that :D
I think he's just having a hard time coming into terms with the situation you put him in. It's hard for him to handle and adjust to it right away and there's nothing wrong with that. Give him time and maybe use baby steps so it's easier for him to adjust to the way you like it.
You didn't do anything wrong. He just isn't in to that, so he might see it as odd. But people like different things. The way he went about it was wrong. He could have just said he wasn't in to that in a decent way.
He was just rude. Maybe he's super vanilla but what you asked for isn't particularly kinky and most women liked it. I would talk to him about it and see what he thinks
he refuses to talk
Well... Sounds like you are sexually incompatable
Its clear that you two aren't sexually compatible. So you either sit down and talk about it and try to find a compromise or you have to decide how important sex-life is to you in a functioning relationship.
I need sex, that's not something that I'm willing to give up but he refuses to talk about it. I don't know if he's not comfortable talking about sex or about my sex style... I told him that we could talk about it over text messages if that way were easier for him he called me childish
Then your relationship issues aren't only about sex, but about the communication in your relationship as a whole. Him refusing to even sit down and talk about it is a huge red flag
Find a freakier boyfriend
That's not daddy issues that's just hot. Sounds like your boyfriend doesn't know how to fuck.
Heh heh heh you little Freak you...
Well Played... well played. XD
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