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My boyfriend told me big areolas are disgusting but he hasn't seen my boobs yet. Mine are huge. What should I do. I feel bad?

He once told me a lot of guys think huge areolas are disgusting. He asked me how big mine were and I told him big and he just looked at me and said, okay I don't think I mind. But I could totally see he was put off by the thought of it. Ever since then I have refused to show him my boobs or let him touch them. I just feel so bad because mine are quite big... What should I do?
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  • I really have a tough time wrapping my head around your boyfriend's point of view as he articulated it. I have heard that there are some guys that are put off by large areolas but I have never and I mean NEVER actually encountered someone like that in real life.

    On the other hand, I have known many guys IRL (myself included) that were quite turned on by large areolas (the bigger the better!)

    This leads me to doubt the level of his dislike of large areolas. Here's a thought... are you large busted or small busted? If you are small up top, he may have been indicating he was fine with that in a backward sort of way. Some guys mistakenly view large areolas as being associated exclusively with large breasts. To find you had modestly sized breasts adorned with large areolas would put him in a bit of a tough spot to get out of.

    What I'm saying is basically this, allow for the possibility that his mouth got ahead of his actual feelings for you on this matter.

    Talk with him about how what he said makes you feel. Hopefully he was just behaving foolishly, rather than displaying his true colors as being an actual fool.

    • Thanks for the MHO.

    • He has no idea how much of a turn on huge areolas are he's never cummed on them or he would think differently i love them drive me crazy many men will go crazy for them move on to one that gets off on them

  • My advice is dump his ass and his childish immature attitude can leave with him.

    Iam discussed and horrified to be a man when someone of my sex says hurtful stuff like this. He should be mentally castrated by other woman never allowing him to see or touch a them ever again.

Most Helpful Girls

  • This is why it's important to respect people's body and have courtesy and consideration for the way people feel when speaking on physical features. Had he simply possessed more decency, tact, and respect when referring to body parts instead of speaking on them as if he's a judge and jury, then this situation wouldn't exist.

    Honestly, the best option would most likely be for you to leave him and find a more respectful, courteous boyfriend. Deep down, it is always going to sting that he has declared a genetic trait you were created with is disgusting. You are always going to feel self-conscious, insecure, and anxious especially if he watches porn. It's going to be another reason for you to compare yourself to his ex. It's going to reduce the comfort level when you two are having sex and being physically intimate because you'll be wondering what he's really thinking. Don't dedignify yourself like that and settle for a subpar relationship experience because this guy chooses to be tactless and shallow.

    • Thanks for mho

  • some guys dont realize they dig themselves a hole when they say things like that. its like it doesn't occur to them that you can't just assume a girls areola size by looking at her or ask a girl u start to date to have a paricular size. she's gonna have waht she has, preferences about naked body appearance should go out the window once dating. its up to u what u gonna do. how much do u like him otherwise? do u think u can get past his comment? cause its true people can learn to love something different

  • If you're serious about him, you will have to how them eventually. Can't he change his mind? perhaps. I don't don't think that it's just about the aerolas but about the general look of your breast.
    It's your breast, learn to accept it. It's how it is.

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  • Tell him you only like guys who are hung like a horse then dump his ass.

    • Perfect answer -- but I'd kind of give it some time to let him feel uncomfortable about that first.

  • If it's that big of a deal then maybe you guys aren't a good match. In the past I preferred smaller areola until I had sex with a woman who was freaking amazing in just about every other physical way. I quickly got over that perfectionist bs that mass media brain washes us with.

  • He sounds like an immature child. I wouldn't allow my man to touch/see my boobs if he had said some stupid shit like that to me. Next time just tell him tiny balls are disgusting.

  • Mine are big. I've never had a guy complain. Maybe I was just lucky? If he's that shallow maybe you should find someone less picky. You should be comfortable with who you're with.

  • Don't worry, they taste the same as small ones.

  • First, I love them. You should not let one person's opinion, even if he is your boyfriend, change how you feel about your body. Quite sexy... ok!

    If he is any kind of man, if he treats you the way a man worthy to call you girlfriend would, then it will be fine.

  • That was shallow of him. He should love them

  • He sounds immature and I imagine you're going to struggle to get this out of your head. Find someone that doesn't have such a ridciulous attitude.

  • You are doing the right things + shop for a new guy

    He is disgusted by BAs so forget him until he grows up... Carol Conners had 'em and was famous ooohlala
    If he stupid enough to bring the subject up in order to get you to show them hahaha what a moron.

    If you still what to pursue this subject with this sophomore,
    1. visit this site to print out some BAs, ONE of which are identical to yours
    https://www.boobpedia.com/boobs/Main_Page
    2. never tell him that any of them are similar to yours, never
    3. ask him to judge each one - he'll ask why - you say b/c the subject turned you on & now curious, that's all

    He might not object to some of them

  • If he's mad at you for being apprehended from letting him touch you then that's not your fault. He already validated your insecurities & he's the one who has to deal with it now. If it makes you feel any better, my areolas are massive, & my right one (or is it left?) is bigger than my left one.

  • Tell him to fuck off! You don't need a guy like that.

  • Find someone worthy of your big beautiful areolas they are so sexy and erotic I love them what a turn on they are

  • Break up with him

  • Just be honest with it; he'll probably love it no matter what

  • Fuck him, not literally! But honestly dump the moron, he's definitely immature. You don't need someone else fucking with your self esteem.

  • He'll change his mind real quick.

    Tell him to stop watching so much porn.

  • Get a less shallow boyfriend because you can't control that?

  • the best way to conquer your fears is to face it right there rather than avoiding it, invite him, show him ur boobs, and if he doesn't accept u for what u are just kick his butt... he is not a right person for you then.
    simple :)
    good luck

  • First of all he can't answer for all guys on his self. Speaking for myself I like them big. If your boyfriend can't deal with your huge arioles. Get a new boyfriend.

  • I love huge areolas. I’d like a girlfriend like you

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