My boyfriend told me to suck his d... In front of his friends. I feel disgusted. What should I do?

Question

a few nights ago my boyfriend and his friend came home, his friend lives with him and they both work at the same place. After having a few drinks then coming home, i was working on a project. He walked in yelling at me, acting excited to see me. Then he stood for a few minutes, being a smart mouth and he said to me in front of his friend "suck my penis". I felt disgusted, due to his friend being in the room when he said it, i sat there feeling embarrassed, he kept asking me to. After saying "eww" and ignoring him. I eventually told me how it made me feel, that i felt embarrassed and disgusted, cause his friend was there. He said "oh for fs sake, get over it. It was a fing joke". What should i do? Should i just dump him? I feel like he has no respect for me anymore. He is really childish and i hate childish immature people

Nodachi · Accepted Answer

Yeah that's immature. Especially if his reaction was ITS JUST A JOKE BRO. As if that somehow retroactively makes it okay when your feelings were hurt, rather than apologising for not necessarily his words but the fact that it ended up hurting you. It is a lack of respect there for not being willing to take responsibility. Humor is subjective, and some people are more likely to be upset with certain material than others. He has a right to say it, but you have a right to respond accordingly.

I personally would find someone saying that in the public domain extremely offensive, because I consider it a private issue. So for me it would be something I would judge a partner for and be extremely critical. Context for sexual intimidate material matters and people who bring it up out of place I find quite disgusting and disrespectful.

Paris13 · Accepted Answer

... He is really childish and i hate childish immature people.
This is showing me Here, dear, that perhaps this Guy, no Lie, is Not for you. He sounds like Someone, hun, Who, Without you even living with, that you have Found out his other Half, Thanks to the other Guy, who he is Residing with Instead.
Think Twice about this No Honey and Spice. There is More in Store, I'm Sure.
Good Luck. xx

JustBoredGirl · Accepted Answer

WHat the fuck what a loser? This is a huge red flag. If he does anything else stupid then bye bye. You dont deserve this. If i were you, no way he is getting inside my panties until he really truly drops down on his knees and apologises. Fking morons acting all macho in front of their macho buddies. Like that makes a man.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Yes, I think you should dump him right now, if you have not already done so. Any guy that can say that, then say it was a joke, is really immature and childish. It is not going to get better, either.

Abraham1231 · Accepted Answer

He seems like a real asshole. You shouldn't let anyone do that to you.
He should have some respect for you, especially when you are his girlfriend!

If this wasn't the first time he embarrassed you, I would advice dumping him.
He seems like a guy, who isn't confident enough to act like a ''man'' in front of his girlfriend and friends.
Consider...

aftermydemise · Accepted Answer

if you have to ask "if you should dump"him or not because of something he did that made you feel disgusted, and you feel he has no respect for you... You already know what you should do... trust your gut...

SteppingOnRoses · Answer

This just makes me feel like he doesn't respect you I'd dump him, honestly. And I dont think I'm exagerating.

Penged · Answer

Unless you're a forgiving person, you may reconsider breaking off the relationship. Unless he changes that attitude completely, then yes dont bother dating someone who makes fun of you like that.

serious · Answer

That's absolute disrespect. You yourself said he is childish and immature so you should seriously consider breaking up with him.

ThatLeaf · Answer

Move on girl. There are better people out there.

ZaraMohammed · Answer

he showed he have no respect for you. it's your personal time and he is trying to make you do things with his friends being there. I believe you can speak to him when he is in a stable mind and work it out but if it is a reoccurring thing then leave

Carley99 · Answer

He's an asshole what kind of joke is that.

matboli · Answer

not the one for you from what I've read so far.  you are the only one that should decide what next to do but that is so disrespectful and i dont think anyone should be with a disrespectful partner

sawno · Answer

Wait for your feelings to fade so you can make a more rational decision. Once you no longer feel degraded and angry over this consider what he ment and then take action based on that.

mattmanyah · Answer

I think its something you need to talk about when his sober if he doesn't apologize you might have to break up with him.. sorry this happened to you drunk or not that's messed up

XhithereimsomeoneX · Answer

DUMP HIM!

Alistayr · Answer

Get rid. That's not a joke, and anyone who thinks it is needs their heads looking at. It's complete disrespect. You may have been able to excuse it as drunken behaviour, but if he argued against that, then he's a moron.